Feeling really defeated!

I started dieting and doing the 30 day shred on 1st Jan (so that's 3 weeks tomorrow?) and the weight has barely been coming off.

I'm pushing myself hard with the exercise and I'm being really careful with the diet (although I follow the old weight watchers plan so it's very flexible) in fact my biggest problem is eating enough. I find it really really hard to eat what I should

This last week I actually GAINED 400g

So after 3 weeks of diet and exercise I have only lost 1.2 kg

Healthy weight loss would be about 1.5 kg - 3 kg :(

Please don't be fooled into thinking that I have very little to lose either because when I started I had a BMI of 30.5 and I think the small weight loss has just tipped me into the realm of extreme-far-end-of-over-weight! I have a lot to lose and I've only just started so the pounds should be melting off and instead they just aren't!

I'm feeling so miserable about it all.

Replies

  • RepsnSets
    RepsnSets Posts: 805 Member
    Have you measured yourself? You may of lost inches rather than weight.
  • maeld51
    maeld51 Posts: 3,415 Member
    Chin up!
    I don't know anything about the 30 Day Shred, but I can relate to the struggle to eat the proper amount of calories.
    I have lost 27lbs since July by maintaining under 1200 a day. Normally it's hard for me to get to 1000, but it's my obsessive nature that gets me. I don't exercise much but recently started. I have noticed that if I eat 900-1000cals a day for a couple weeks, I stop losing weight, so I add calories and boom, I start losing again. Go figure! 1200 really should be the minimum, otherwise the body goes into starvation mode.
    I hope you get it figured out, just don't stop trying and stay committed!!
  • lacarl04
    lacarl04 Posts: 6 Member
    You may not be going fast, but you are still losing. Don't give up, you are on the right path.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    You may have lost more than you think you have because starting or intensifying an exercise program can lead to water weight gain for several weeks. Your body uses that water to repair. And there is just no telling when it will drop off. One day you might wake up with 2 or 3 pounds mysteriously gone, or it might come off slowly so you never notice. But it isn't real weight.
  • Have the workouts become easier? Do you sleep better? Do you have more energy? Do you find yourself feeling proud after each workout and that eating right is easier because you respect your body and want to feed it properly?

    If you answered "yes" to any of those questions then you are doing just perfect. There are other ways to measure progress than your physical relationship to gravity.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Chin up!
    I don't know anything about the 30 Day Shred, but I can relate to the struggle to eat the proper amount of calories.
    I have lost 27lbs since July by maintaining under 1200 a day. Normally it's hard for me to get to 1000, but it's my obsessive nature that gets me. I don't exercise much but recently started. I have noticed that if I eat 900-1000cals a day for a couple weeks, I stop losing weight, so I add calories and boom, I start losing again. Go figure!
    I hope you get it figured out, just don't stop trying and stay committed!!

    Ummm..no. No no no. Unless it is doctor supervised, do NOT do 1000 calories or less. I know you said that it is "hard", but you need to learn to eat smarter. There are lots of food that you don't need to eat a lot of to have the higher calorie count - things like a glass of milk, oatmeal, protein powders, eggs, real butter, peanut butter, avocado oil, olive oil, etc.

    For those eating below their BMR (which I think 1200 is below your BMR to be honest), not going to preach at you, but here's something you might want to look at:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/81391-starvation-mode-myths-and-science
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/859495-if-only-i-had-known?page=1#posts-12919931

    For the whole eating under a 1000 calories....
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/521480-1000-calories-or-less-a-day
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/3047-700-calories-a-day-and-not-losing
    http://www.fitwatch.com/weight-loss/3-reasons-why-eating-less-than-1000-calories-is-a-waste-of-time-3347.html


    If you want, check out this link by MFPer Heliotsdan - It'll give you a detailed walkthrough (with pictures even) on finding your TDEE and calculating what you should be eating.
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

    Or for a different version to figure out your TDEE, as well as some great advice...check out:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833500-what-do-i-do-common-sense-cliff-notes


    Also, if you are worried about the calorie intake, I also suggest you read this thread that has numerous people who met their goals and are maintaining. Some for years and they also provide their calorie intake and how often they work out.
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/816542-let-s-hear-it-for-maintainenance


    For more information about fitness and nutrition, I highly suggest checking out and joining this group: (Read all the stickies. It's great information to know.)
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress


    Yes, this is can all be overwhelming and complicated , but you are more than welcome to ask questions on the post.
    One of the things that I have found that has been one of the best methods for me to get fit is to understand fitness. To understand where all these figures, etc come from.

    The good thing is once you get the hang of it - it is something you'll be aware of constantly and you'll get a better understanding about your eating habits.

    So I HIGHLY suggest making the effort to take every chance to educate yourself. Even if you don't end up going with any of these methods, calculations, etc - at least you understand what they are, where others are coming from, and maybe they will still be able to help you figure out what is best for you.
  • AckieJ
    AckieJ Posts: 199 Member
    I agree 30DS is more inches then pounds in my eyes.
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    Measure yourself

    Between this picture

    6193387278_203e3ae38c_n.jpg
    Photo 009 by yanicka.hachez, on Flickr

    and this one

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    11614737_104 by yanicka.hachez, on Flickr

    I have not lost a single pound!!!!!
  • sparkie51
    sparkie51 Posts: 98 Member
    Doing the 30 Day shred is probably making you use muscles you didn't know you had and you are retaining water due to muscle repair which is how the muscles repair themselves. I went back to Jillian's Ripped in thirty and I experienced some gain but quickly lost it by week's end. Don't give up!
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
    Are you sore from exercise? Sore = inflammation = extra fluid. Once the muscles, ligaments, and tendons heal, they will release the extra water.
  • Good point make sure you ARE EATING enough - your body will hold on tight if it thinks you've cut back! And don't call it dieting, it's healthier choices, you are eating to live! (that's a good book too) I am following the dashdietoregon.org (they have a great website with tools to use. Best of luck!
  • JingleMuffin
    JingleMuffin Posts: 543 Member
    keep putting in work! good things will happen
  • maeld51
    maeld51 Posts: 3,415 Member
    Thank you for all the great information.
    I was not advocating eating less than 1200/day, simply sharing my experience, but again thanks so much.
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    I started dieting and doing the 30 day shred on 1st Jan (so that's 3 weeks tomorrow?) and the weight has barely been coming off.

    I'm pushing myself hard with the exercise and I'm being really careful with the diet (although I follow the old weight watchers plan so it's very flexible) in fact my biggest problem is eating enough. I find it really really hard to eat what I should

    This last week I actually GAINED 400g

    So after 3 weeks of diet and exercise I have only lost 1.2 kg

    Healthy weight loss would be about 1.5 kg - 3 kg :(

    Please don't be fooled into thinking that I have very little to lose either because when I started I had a BMI of 30.5 and I think the small weight loss has just tipped me into the realm of extreme-far-end-of-over-weight! I have a lot to lose and I've only just started so the pounds should be melting off and instead they just aren't!

    I'm feeling so miserable about it all.

    OMG let me let you into a little secret...that you can not share with your body OK?

    I mean this really sincerely cos I have been there..as have a lot of people...all you have to do is keep on doing what you are doing and the weight will come off. The big secret is do not give up !!!
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I'm also not sure what you mean by melting off. You'll lose 0.5lbs-2lbs/week. (safely that is). Any loss should be celebrated. And there will be weeks that you won't lose at all.

    Don't rely on the scale. It fluctuates way too much. Rely on measurements.
  • Akimajuktuq
    Akimajuktuq Posts: 3,037 Member
    Maybe the "flexible" eating plan isn't providing the nutrition your body needs. WW did nothing for me but take my money, make me sicker, and struggle more with my weight. Perhaps you are exercising too much. Perhaps your expectations are too high. If what you are doing now is not fun and not sustainable you won't stick with it; hence "feeling defeated'. Find a permanent healthy lifestyle where you are not struggling. Also, are you eating too little thinking that you will lose faster? That usually back fires quite dramatically.

    Edit: you are averaging a loss of one pound per week. That is a very quick weight loss. Really.
  • SrClaire
    SrClaire Posts: 13 Member
    Thanks everyone,

    All the replies made me realise that there might be something dramatically wrong here.

    No, I'm not sore. I'm working out as hard as I can and panting and grunting and sweating through the shred and the next day if I exert myself in any way I can feel fatigue in my muscles but I'm not stiff and sore.

    I am however sleeping much, much worse and I am beyond exhausted all the time. I'm dragging myself through the days and then finding I can't sleep when I get into bed.

    I'm not hungry, I don't have cravings and I have to force myself to eat and often eat things like crisps or biscuits because they are small amounts of foods with no preparation and high calorie count that I can choke down to meet the minimum calories required in a day. I look at food and I just don't want it.

    Maybe if I fill the house with high calorie, low prep foods like nuts it will make a difference. I will try that first although the thought has my nose wrinkled in disgust - and I usually like nuts, oh well.
  • llangstraat
    llangstraat Posts: 130 Member
    Chin up!
    I don't know anything about the 30 Day Shred, but I can relate to the struggle to eat the proper amount of calories.
    I have lost 27lbs since July by maintaining under 1200 a day. Normally it's hard for me to get to 1000, but it's my obsessive nature that gets me. I don't exercise much but recently started. I have noticed that if I eat 900-1000cals a day for a couple weeks, I stop losing weight, so I add calories and boom, I start losing again. Go figure!
    I hope you get it figured out, just don't stop trying and stay committed!!

    Ummm..no. No no no. Unless it is doctor supervised, do NOT do 1000 calories or less. I know you said that it is "hard", but you need to learn to eat smarter. There are lots of food that you don't need to eat a lot of to have the higher calorie count - things like a glass of milk, oatmeal, protein powders, eggs, real butter, peanut butter, avocado oil, olive oil, etc.

    For those eating below their BMR (which I think 1200 is below your BMR to be honest), not going to preach at you, but here's something you might want to look at:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/81391-starvation-mode-myths-and-science
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/859495-if-only-i-had-known?page=1#posts-12919931

    For the whole eating under a 1000 calories....
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/521480-1000-calories-or-less-a-day
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/3047-700-calories-a-day-and-not-losing
    http://www.fitwatch.com/weight-loss/3-reasons-why-eating-less-than-1000-calories-is-a-waste-of-time-3347.html


    If you want, check out this link by MFPer Heliotsdan - It'll give you a detailed walkthrough (with pictures even) on finding your TDEE and calculating what you should be eating.
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

    Or for a different version to figure out your TDEE, as well as some great advice...check out:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833500-what-do-i-do-common-sense-cliff-notes


    Also, if you are worried about the calorie intake, I also suggest you read this thread that has numerous people who met their goals and are maintaining. Some for years and they also provide their calorie intake and how often they work out.
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/816542-let-s-hear-it-for-maintainenance


    For more information about fitness and nutrition, I highly suggest checking out and joining this group: (Read all the stickies. It's great information to know.)
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress


    Yes, this is can all be overwhelming and complicated , but you are more than welcome to ask questions on the post.
    One of the things that I have found that has been one of the best methods for me to get fit is to understand fitness. To understand where all these figures, etc come from.

    The good thing is once you get the hang of it - it is something you'll be aware of constantly and you'll get a better understanding about your eating habits.

    So I HIGHLY suggest making the effort to take every chance to educate yourself. Even if you don't end up going with any of these methods, calculations, etc - at least you understand what they are, where others are coming from, and maybe they will still be able to help you figure out what is best for you.

    ^^^^^^^this is great advice and don't give up because you can do it!