Long term relationship ended...

I hope it is for the better....and in that case, do what you need to do, allow yourself to be destructive, it is the nature of greiving, and get right back into it in a couple of days...totally legit to take time out....that said, I can imagine a good kickboxing class, or other crazy hard activity to take the emotional pressure off....

Really sorry to hear that Kent guy. Happy for you to add me as a friend if you need some support x

Is the temporary fix of your favorite treats worth more than your long term health and fitness? If you answer no, then step away from the pringles, grab some water and go for a walk or hit the gym or do anything but sit around thinking about food.

If the answer is yes, you're in the wrong place

Sorry to hear that dude, it's gonna be tough over the next few weeks etc but dont give in, you have lost a lot already and if you stay on here and on track i'm sure you will get to your goal.

All the best!

Don't even think about doing that! Once you start-for any excuse-is it so much easier the next time, the next time, and soon, you will have gained it all back.
Serious, go for a walk. All you need is 20 minutes, to get these thought's out of your mind.
Hell, have sex, or *kitten* even. Can't believe I just wrote that, but MUCH more satisfying than eating crappy food.

It's is so easy for someone to say, 'don't do it'. CRY IT OUT. Cry so god damn hard you think your eyes are going to fall out of your skull. Scream at the top of your lungs if your angry. ***** the *kitten* out in your head. Take a nice longggg hot shower or bath. Then when all that is done. If you are tired (which I would be) go to bed and sleep. Sleep will make it look just the tiniest bit better. Eat what you normally do and then find something, anything to distract you from the pain. Read a book, write to us (on second thoughts.. don't because some people can just be *kitten*), play video games, hang out with friends even though your feeling like the most miserable person in the world. SHOP. I love to shop when I'm horribly upset. Gonna buy me some pretty (inexpensive, cause I'm a cheap *kitten*) things to cheer me up. Pack a snack though, so you don't feel tempted to eat out.

With that being said. I really hope in a few months you start to feel better. Research says it'll take about six months for your grieving process to end.

I struggled with this too at one point!

And one of my favourite quotes is "Success is the Greatest Revenge".

Let yourself feel what you need to feel, and mourn the end of your relationship. It was a big part of your life. You don't have to be okay with it right away. But also know that now you have double the time to focus on yourself and your individual happiness. Is there anything better than showing someone "this is what you're missing" but getting in the best shape of your life!?!

I feel like if you eat lots and just lay around for days (been there) you're really just letting the other person have a double win. If you pick yourself up and come out of this a better person, you're really doing something great for yourself

My upcoming divorce is one of the reasons I'm on MFP right now. I didn't like my body and wanted a change but couldn't get motivated. Sitting with the "elephant" in the room was too awkward. So I decided to use the negative energy for positive changes in my life. So instead of drinking and eating my sorrows away, I'm watching my calories and exercising. It has been very therapeutic.

Ohhh, been there. It's such a terrible feeling.
Here's what NOT to do (and pretty much what I did):
- isolate yourself and spend every weekend alone
- ignore friends when they call
- don't reach out to anyone
- deny yourself food for a week or two, then binge
- spend hours and hours finding the saddest songs on YouTube and periodically post them on Facebook
- cry every morning on the way to work
- get in lengthy, bitter email arguments with your ex
- talk about them nonstop the few times you actually socialize with good friends
- talk *kitten* about them and give TMI to acquaintances at work

So, yeah. Do the opposite of that and be completely levelheaded and healthy in your reaction to the breakup. You might be the first. :flowerforyou:

In all seriousness, channeling your energy into positive action is great if you can get there.
Edit: WHEN you get there.

Try to remember that you are craving unhealthy foods because they essentially work as happy drugs. You can also get the same effects from exercise, but that requires a lot more intellectual effort. Hang in there and remember that this, too, shall pass!

The anger and pain do get easier to deal with... now is the time to focus on YOU. Turn that pain into a positive aspect of your life, walk, bike, run or lift --- you will cry, scream and cuss it is all part of the healing process.