Being Reminded

CheekieChunkie
CheekieChunkie Posts: 1
edited January 10 in Motivation and Support
My sisters will proudly talk to everyone about my modelling days...how I was down to 105 pds..etc.etc. Okay...that was 25 YEARS AGO... :grumble: That was before I had 5 Children.... (and a divorce...:brokenheart: )

When I am slender my sisters allow me to be in there "sister pictures"... However, it's been years...since I've been included. I have tried to talk to them about it, but was told I am over reacting.

I do have to admit...when I DO lose the weigh, and I am then acceptable looking to be in their pictures... I tell them to kiss my a@#. :bigsmile:

I've had given up hope on losing weight... Until I was in my 30's, my weight always hovered around 150...no matter what.... Now, I'm over 200, and have ran out of excuses why I don't get back to my healthy weight...

Anyone else have family members that pride themselves on looks??

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  • jenlarz
    jenlarz Posts: 813 Member
    No, but I do think you can lose weight and be healthy again :) I don't think I could talk to a close family member if they said I was too big to be in a picture with them.
  • Mathguy1
    Mathguy1 Posts: 207 Member
    I agree with Jen. I would be upset if my family didn't want me included in photos due to my excess weight "ruining" the photo. Thankfully, when I was at my heaviest of 235 (5'10"), I was never excluded from the opportunity to be in family photos.

    If I were you, I'd just ask why you weren't invited to take part in the photos. Perhaps they assumed that since you declined the first time, they thought you'd keep declining as your weight increased. It's a weak excuse, but that may be what they thought.

    Either way, turn it into a motivation. Tell yourself that TODAY, you will begin transforming your bad habits to those that are healthier by having a solid nutrition and exercise plan. I wouldn't tell your sisters that you are doing this, let them notice the change in you and have them bring it up.

    Good luck and congrats on taking the first step!!!
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    They sound kinda like *****es.....
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    I would probably stay fat just to annoy them, right up until I figured out that I was more important than their silliness.
  • GrnEyes839
    GrnEyes839 Posts: 74 Member
    sigh...family can be so cruel. If it's motivation and support you need, please feel free to add me. I have busted my a** to lose 43 lbs and my family has been very very supportive. My older sister has been going to the gym with me and always tells me what a great job I've done.
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
    I agree with Jen. I wouldn't have anything to do with someone be it friend or relative who treated me like that. I have a friend who was "told" she was not wanted to be in the wedding and to stay out of the shot of the camera because of her size. That really hurt her. She cried on my shoulder a lot over that. I can not imagine being so mean to someone like that.

    If someone is that mean that they treat you like that to your face then what do they say about you behind your back? And what are they saying about people they supposedly like? Personally I would cut all ties with people like that... and I have!

    Life is hard enough without being around mean nasty people like that. Ever think of all the times you've been in a bad stressful situation that you really could have avoided? Why do we put ourselves in that position? Its not necessary and there is no law saying that just because they are relatives that you have to be around them and put up with that stuff. I had to have a therapist tell me that before I truly got it. My husband had been telling me for years. I guess I just needed the permission to break away from them. Well if that's what you need then here it is... I give you permission to stay away from all the mean negative stressful people in your life be it friends or relatives. You have the right to be happy and not have to deal with all of that.

    Lose the weight for yourself. Do it for your health. No one else matters. This is for you!:flowerforyou:
  • BrotherBill913
    BrotherBill913 Posts: 662 Member
    I started my lil weight loss journey on Oct 1st, dropped 5 belt loops since then. Went home for Christmas, saw my Uncle, waited for his usual spoutin off at the mouth to start about my past weight. He did'nt. And I went about my day... But I have to admit I was ready for it and that's not a good feeling either.
    Sorry your having a hard time. your not the only one I'm sure. One diff for me is I know I could always feed my Uncle to the gators!!!! lol.....
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