Moms with small child(ren)...help me out!

This post is specifically for moms with small child(ren):

How do you stay motivated between working, cooking, cleaning, fussing, chasing, bathing, feeding, reading, playing, coloring,etc... and still workout? Had it not been for the pole fitness class I went to, I would have no exercise to speak of this week. I have my son on a schedule to go to bed at 8pm. But in about 2 minutes, here comes the pitter patter of little feet headed my way. I've tried to workout while he is awake, but that's when he wants to play and I'm scared I won't see him run behind or in front of me and I'll accidently kick him or something (a few close calls). Morning are impossible because I'm exhausted from trying to get him into bed. I really am one of those people who feel it's hard to function without 7 or more hours of sleep. Do I just suck it up and kick him in the head while working out or what?? (Just kidding). Real advice from real moms please. Thanks!
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  • I joined the gym with a kids club my little ones play and run off their energy while I run off my extra weight!
  • PBsMommy
    PBsMommy Posts: 1,166 Member
    I have a ten month old daughter and the husband doesn't get home until 10 or 11 at night. So as soon as I get off at five, it's just me and her until she goes to bed... It was really hard at first, now I just kind of have a schedule or a routine I try to stick to as much as possible. That way I can get her needs taken care of on top of cooking, cleaning, all that stuff. I wait until she goes to bed and I workout out. One Mon, Wed, and Fri I work out for about an hour and then on Tues and Thurs I only work out for 30 min and focus on the house more. You just have to find what works for you and keep at it.

    Edited to Add: I LOVE MY CROCKPOT. It has been a lifesaver on many occasions.
  • I got a baby gate lol I put my son in his room with every toy that I can find and let him go crazy for an hour while I workout. It has always worked for me.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    how old is he? is he old enough to "join in" with the exercise video? My kids do (one is almost 3, the other 6) if I do an exercise video. I keep them quite far from me though (far enough away that they don't get hit or kicked by accident). I also bought them some dumbbells, they're the kind that are empty plastic that you fill with water, well I just didn't fill them with water. This kind of thing sets a good example for kids too, it's not just about what's convenient for you.

    When I do weights, I save that for when they're at school/nursery, or if someone else is at home who can watch them. There's no way I'll let them in the same room as me if I'm lifting, totally not safe. this of course depends on having someone around who doesn't mind watching the kids while you work out.
  • ok i have a 4 year old lil girl so i can understand the stress. if you are working out at home if he is old enough have him do it with you or give him some activities within eye shot of to do while you work out. you have to figure out the time. it took me a long time to get out of my own way with this same issue but finally i found the hour i have that i have commited to me time. hang in there also what honeybea said is a great idea too, if its possible ^_^
  • collingmommy
    collingmommy Posts: 456 Member
    I've got A one year old son, i usually leave him with daddy while i go of into my exercise room. Usually about 8pm at night. Good luck to u
  • TheManda27
    TheManda27 Posts: 42 Member
    Hello,

    I do feel your pain. I have two girls aged 9 and 4 and they want (and deserve) a lot of attention. One of the benefits I have found is that when I do exercise I have far more patience and energy to give them better quality attention. Now, for me the scheduling does completely depend on what kind of day it is. Most days the girls want to try and do the videos with me so I just make sure I clear enough space and let them go at it. My four year old usually ends up getting distracted by something shiny and runs around but she is still close enough to me that I can see her. Sometimes if it's a big rush I make them dinner sit them down to eat and exercise then. Sometimes I will take them skating, public swimming or to walk to dogs in order to get some exercise in. I find just looking at your day and seeing what you can fit in but sticking with the fact that you must fit it in helps. Last night was really busy so I only did 20 mins, on the days when I can find a bit more I do 40. I also try to do things like squats, lunges, dips or whatever I can squeeze in while standing around making dinner; if you have a staircase to go up and down do that several times whenever you get a break.

    I think it’s a great thing for your kids to see you exercising and putting effort into your health. It teaches them that it is important to take care of yourself and maintain a healthy lifestyle plus as a bonus makes you a happy more energetic mom.

    Best of luck!
  • Tonya0605
    Tonya0605 Posts: 111 Member
    Consistency is key. I have four children (18, 16, 10 and almost 2). Of course the older ones hold their own, my almost-two year usually sits on the bed and color or play games on my phone, watch/giggle and cheer me on when I'm on the treadmill. When it's time for pilates/yoga, she does it with me. She has her own stretch band and loves doing the moves, too. However, I do it EVERY night at 7pm. She expects it and knows it's exercise time so there is no issue. Granted, when I first started, she wanted me to stop and play or get her something, etc. but I just told her, "in a few minutes." Eventually, those "few minutes" pushed out to 30 mins then an hour. Now, it's not an issue.

    ETA: my hubby works nights.
  • kangababy
    kangababy Posts: 187 Member
    I have two boys 7 and 10 so they may be more self efficent then yours but I just make time.. I flat tell them mom is going to work out.. I am doing _____ whatever DVD it is and you can sit anf watch TV or play your game (video I know bad me) or workout with me. Sometimes i make the older one workout with me. Even if it is only thirty minutes I make time.. You have to not feel bad making time for yourself to get healthy... When they were younger I just kind of did it around them...

    Find something they like to do with you that is exercing... walking, biking
  • my daughter is only 6 months... so i'm screwed!! and i work full time. get home after 6:30 pm, try to shovel food in my mouth, give her a bath, bottle, bed. the kid never sleeps! even at day care. only kid that's always awake.... needless to say after she DOES fall asleep i'm too tired to work out :( i can try in the am before work (my husband is already gone though, so i have baby) - but if she's up, i'm stuck fat and not working out again! i wish i had help for you!!
  • I have a 2yr old and a 7month old. I have to do what I can when I can. Usually this means at 1130pm, when the kids are in bed I try to get in 20minutes of exercise before I go to sleep.
  • 30ismyyear
    30ismyyear Posts: 145 Member
    Might be easier said than done but.....

    take him outside and chase him! Play tag! Race with him! Boys have sooooo much energy (I have 3, I know!) so it's really a win-win-win. You'll burn some calories, he'll burn some energy and you'll be spending good quality time with each other. And getting fresh air!!!! Another win!
  • LeenaRuns
    LeenaRuns Posts: 1,309 Member
    I wake up at 3:45 in the morning to workout while my 2.5-year-old is still asleep. It sucks, but it's the only time I've got.
  • nturner612
    nturner612 Posts: 710 Member
    hi there. i have a 2yr and 6yr old BOYS. i have a gym with daycare that they LOVE and sometimes i am "forced" to work out because they HAVE to go meet their friends. sometimes when i work out at home, they either join me, ignore me or make my life impossible. So, i yell in my very mean voice :explode: "GET OUT!!! IM EXERCISING!!!" :mad: " and then they run away laughin or jump on the bed but eventually do go away. i aso have a joggin stroller. the older takes his bike and i take the stroller..of course this usually means we have to stop by the park, stop for water breaks, stop to look at the water, stop to look at the bugs etc... or you can try waking up at 5-530am and workout and pray that they dont get up. but yup its HARD!!! good luck :wink:
  • nmn2
    nmn2 Posts: 123 Member
    This post is specifically for moms with small child(ren):

    How do you stay motivated between working, cooking, cleaning, fussing, chasing, bathing, feeding, reading, playing, coloring,etc... and still workout? Had it not been for the pole fitness class I went to, I would have no exercise to speak of this week. I have my son on a schedule to go to bed at 8pm. But in about 2 minutes, here comes the pitter patter of little feet headed my way. I've tried to workout while he is awake, but that's when he wants to play and I'm scared I won't see him run behind or in front of me and I'll accidently kick him or something (a few close calls). Morning are impossible because I'm exhausted from trying to get him into bed. I really am one of those people who feel it's hard to function without 7 or more hours of sleep. Do I just suck it up and kick him in the head while working out or what?? (Just kidding). Real advice from real moms please. Thanks!
  • GiddyupTim
    GiddyupTim Posts: 2,819 Member
    I stayed home with my two boys. Yes, kids never give you down time, and that can be tough. But I think most of us can find a way. We had one car. i had to pick my wife up from work. I used to drive to pick her up, and then I got out of the car, she took over driving, and I ran home. It wasn't super great. It did not work every day. But, it allowed me to get exercise in, and to be home within half an hour of when everyone else did.
    You can work things out like this. You just have to be willing to compromise and take what you can get.
  • BamaBreezeNSaltAire
    BamaBreezeNSaltAire Posts: 966 Member
    I have a 2 year old and a 10 year old. I make my son ride his bike next to me while I still little bit in the jogging stroller. BAM! Also, when I work out to DVD's (RI 30 right now) I give her a 2lb weight and she "works out" with me. I LOVE it!!!:heart:
  • elaine_des
    elaine_des Posts: 189 Member
    I have a 4 & 6 years old. I workout from home, the older one usually watch tv in my bed (special treat when I do my exercise) the little often join me, I did kick him a couple of time but never really hard and he thinks it's funny. But I usually wait until they are in bed to exercise. They go down around 7pm. They are up at 6am so I need to put them down early enough. Someday it's hard to find the energy to do exercise after a full day of working, cooking, homework etc. but once I start I am usually good. Make sure you are eating enough to keep you going. Good luck, it's not easy but it get better with time, they understand it's mommy time and leave me alone.
  • terriph718
    terriph718 Posts: 1 Member
    I have a 5 and a 2 yr old, a night worker husband and i work fulltime.. I get up at 6am and work out while they are asleep. Recently they started waking up early too. I workout with them in the room . Sleep is a sacrifice for better health. and no workouts on the weekend. something to look forward to every week.
  • nmn2
    nmn2 Posts: 123 Member
    Just kick him! Kids are tougher than we think, lol! Just kidding, obviously! I know EXACTLY how you feel! I wish I had some awesome advice for you but I'm dealing with the exact same struggle except I stay home with my 2 and 3 year olds and am trying to run a small business from my home at the same time. I tried to a zumba dvd with the kids underfoot and I was so paranoid I was going to step on them i quit after maybe 15 minutes. Just keep doing the best you can that's all we can do!
  • reddcat
    reddcat Posts: 314 Member
    A portable DVD player was a lifesaver when my son was younger. I would put him in front of the Little Einsteins or something I taped for him and then I would have a DVD player plugged in same room. That way he would watch his show and I could still do some time with Jillian Michaels or Leslie Sansone depending on energy level. Plus, I was right with him and could watch what he was doing.

    As he got older, we would do various Just Dance videos on the WII. Now that he is five, he is more interested in working out with me for a time period...then goes to his room and entertains himself. I think if they grow up knowing it is a part of your life, it is not so traumatic when you take the time for yourself. But I totally relate. Chasing kids is exercise in itself. Good luck!
  • mickiebabs
    mickiebabs Posts: 183 Member
    I think you've gotten some good advice so far. I'm not sure how old were talking about but I've been exercising off and on in front of my youngest since she was an infant. I've even done "Walk a Way The Pounds" with a toddler strapped to my back. When she got old enough, I encouraged her to workout with me. Granted it wasn't as intense of a workout but it was fun for both of us. And even at age 6 she thinks it's a blast to sit on my lap while I do tummy crunches on my exercise ball. And she LOVES the gym. She's actually the reason I went to the gym on some days when I really just didn't want to. Our gym has a daycare so she loved playing with the other kids while I worked out. Another option is to give him something special to do that he is only allowed to do while you exercise. Give him some special activity to do at a table that's safely out of your way. If it's something he likes that you don't let him do often, it might encourage him to ignore what your doing.
  • I can feel your pain. I have a 3 and 1 year old. I also work full time and do the majority of the cleaning and cooking. I have started working out during my lunch break. I work across the street from a gym. I will admit i do not have time to shower after and i look a little flushed when i get back to work, but it is sooooo worth it to me to get the exercise out of the way before i get home to my family. It also helps me stay on track with eating at dinner since i feel accomplished from the lunchtime workout. Good Luck!!
  • olenka_levina
    olenka_levina Posts: 10 Member
    I wake up at 5 am and get the first part of my workout in before everybody in the family wakes up. I have a very active 3 year old boy. I also used to put him in the jogging stroller and we would go running together when he was a little younger. Now he is "working out" with me at home (2nd part of the workout, in the evening). He truly enjoys doing the workout DVDs together. I treat daily exercise as a 2nd job meaning that it can't be missed no matter how I might feel about it.
  • I have two 1yr olds and a 6yr old. I'm a stay at home mom so I do my workout when the boys nap [they nap for 3-3.5hrs] whether have the energy or not I try to make myself knowing its my only timeframe unless I'm up late. If my daughter is home she joins in if I'm doing yoga, otherwise she amuses herself in her room or watches a movie on my bed while I'm on my treadmill. I do all my cleaning and cooking while the boys are awake, they love watching, and they've already learned to put their toys away from watching me do it soo much haha. In the evenings kids are in bed by 6-630 [my daughter watches a movie or plays quietly for a bit in her room until 8ish] so sometimes ill throw in a yoga dvd then or do another run. My bf has no problem watching kids if I wanna workout at a dif time but I can't get into it knowing I'm missing out on 'family time'. I'm due with another baby in a few months so I'm hoping ill find a new schedule that works or adapt all 3 kids to same nap routine.

    I don't recall if you mentioned if you worked or stay at home mom and what age your child is, but there's always ways to work around a schedule you just have to force yourself to take advantage of that window.
    Or like someone else mentioned get a gym membership that offers childcare, good socialization for your child and yourself also.
  • aclar44
    aclar44 Posts: 30
    The gym I belong to includes up to 2 hours of childcare per day. And while the gym itself is open 24/7, the child care has limited hours. So when I can't get to the gym during childcare hours, I have to work out at home. I have a membership to abcmouse.com, it's like $7/month or something and has tons of games, lessons, and activities from toddlers up to grade school. So I worked with my son so he could figure out how to get to the games and such himself (he's 3) and let him play abcmouse while I'm doing my workout. I let him play it on my laptop in the living room while I do a workout video so that way I'm right there to make sure he doesn't need any help. While I'm working out is usually the only time I allow him to use my computer so it feels like a special thing for him. It works for us because since he doesn't get to use my computer often, he looks forward to getting to use it and doesn't bother me while I'm working out.
  • Kurrupt1922
    Kurrupt1922 Posts: 53 Member
    I wake up at 3:45 in the morning to workout while my 2.5-year-old is still asleep. It sucks, but it's the only time I've got.


    Same here but not THAT early...LOL When I first started working out I would do just that, workout while my 2 year old and husband was sleeping. I'm so not a morning person, but that was the ONLY time I could find in my day to workout. My husband has to be at work at 7am now, so I had to regroup, because I was not going to stop working out. I get my butt up at 5:00am, get my little one ready and take her to daycare at 6:00am, go to the gym (which also has a childcare center), come home and get ready for work.
  • I have a game where the kids can join in. It is dancing. Lots of movement and they feel like we are playing. Just Dance 4 is a good one. Other than that...I have no idea other than taking them walking with you?
  • Bailey532
    Bailey532 Posts: 65 Member
    Try to find a gym with a childcare area. Or just suck it up and kick him. I've done it a few times. They are all three still alive and well :laugh: If those two options don't appeal, get up early. It's hard to make time with kids. If I didn't have my gym with their child watch, I would never workout. I am NOT a morning person! I dump them off and head to the gym or the class I'm taking. Love spinning!
  • I have no advice, just keep on trying!

    I try to take my dog for a walk about twice a week (my husband puts the LO to bed Mon and Thu) around 8PM, just in the neighborhood.

    Other than that, if the weather is nice on the weekends we try to stay active as a family now, going in the yard and playing. You can burn plenty cals playing soccer with a 3YO.