I am not a sexist, or a demeanor.

TheUnthinkingMajority
TheUnthinkingMajority Posts: 82 Member
edited January 10 in Introduce Yourself
I posted a thread earlier, titled "Girls With Muscles". it talked about my preferences. how I thought girls with some muscle tone are attractive.
thats when the raging posters flew in, pretty much insinuating that i am a sexist for thinking that muscles are only a male attribute, and pretty much saying i'm being demeaning to women. I dont understand that, honestly. I was just stating what I like, and I even said in the post "i even like girls who don't have muscles"..

Anyways, the point of THIS thread is to apologize to everyone for the misunderstanding and to let you all know that I posted the thread with good intentions.
Someone told me the Road to hell is paved with good intentions, and that's a good quote.
This isn't a thread complaining about being "attacked" or "belittled".. it's a genuine apology, from me, to all of you that I offended.

That's all. thank you.
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  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    it is what it is, who cares what others think?
  • TheUnthinkingMajority
    TheUnthinkingMajority Posts: 82 Member
    While that's true, i am a people pleaser. if I feel that i have upset or offended anyone, I will do my best to make things right. Even if I wasn't in the wrong.
  • mariannekehl
    mariannekehl Posts: 66 Member
    I didn't take that message away from your original post at all. Happy day!:drinker:
  • TheUnthinkingMajority
    TheUnthinkingMajority Posts: 82 Member
    Happy day to you too!
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    You'll need a tougher skin if you plan on sticking around here for awhile.

    Those people were overreacting.
  • professorRAT
    professorRAT Posts: 690 Member
    Don't worry about it. It was very nice the way you quickly apologized once you realized you may have offended some. People around here can be pretty sensitive and are quick to judge. Just brush it off.
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
    Don't worry dude, I took it in the spirit with which it was intended... there are enough real d-bags in the world without worrying about your slightly misguided wording :)
  • mariannekehl
    mariannekehl Posts: 66 Member
    Happy day to you too!


    THIS
  • 4summer38
    4summer38 Posts: 25
    I saw your original post, and I didn't see anything wrong with what you said. I'm a female, I have little muscles, under fat though, working on that. :laugh:
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    I wasn't offended, don't really understand why some people were, you weren't a 'sexist pig' in any way that I could see. Just keep doing what you're doing, there's always gonna be someone out there that has issues with ANYTHING. :D
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Thanks for clearing that up.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    Don't take it personally. People like to fly off the handle if you give them any opportunity.

    It's fun. :drinker:
  • sarahrbraun
    sarahrbraun Posts: 2,261 Member
    I wasn't offended, don't really understand why some people were, you weren't a 'sexist pig' in any way that I could see. Just keep doing what you're doing, there's always gonna be someone out there that has issues with ANYTHING. :D

    this exactly!! I even posted a personal pic for you :D
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Thanks for the apology, even though there were good intentions, it comes off very wrong. You like women with or without muscles, so I didn't understand what you point was.
  • LittleBallofFurr
    LittleBallofFurr Posts: 242 Member
    Trolls will be trolls, you are fine :)
  • AKosky585
    AKosky585 Posts: 607 Member
    I didn't see anything offensive with your original post. People take things way too seriously. Don't even worry about it. You did nothing wrong. :)
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    I thought that said dementor ,whoops.
  • dawndw
    dawndw Posts: 203
    While that's true, i am a people pleaser. if I feel that i have upset or offended anyone, I will do my best to make things right. Even if I wasn't in the wrong.

    You can please some of the people some of the time but, you can't please all of the people all of the time :-) besides there was nothing sexist or demeaning in the original post..... It's all good!!! :drinker: Cheers
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    Welcome to the boards. :flowerforyou:

    It's like this all the time. You'll get used to it.

    Or not.
  • mikey1976
    mikey1976 Posts: 1,005 Member
    Thanks for the apology, even though there were good intentions, it comes off very wrong. You like women with or without muscles, so I didn't understand what you point was.

    BINGO me two i don't get the haters gonna hate
  • MellyGibson
    MellyGibson Posts: 297 Member
    We just became friends, but here's what I can tell you:

    If you post something, someone's going to bash you.

    It doesn't matter what your intentions were, or even WHAT YOU SAID! It's gonna happen.

    Learn to roll with the punches. Hell, punch back if'n you feel like! I find it to be quite amusing, although when I first started here it upset me greatly.

    Oh, and lifting helped me develop a sense of confidence - and I think my whole motivation for lifting was to build up enough confidence to deal with the d-bags on this site! (just kidding)
  • TheUnthinkingMajority
    TheUnthinkingMajority Posts: 82 Member
    I appreciate all of your comments. Luckily, the thread was removed. also, to those who were offended and commented on here, thank you for taking the time to read. I will definitely think ahead before posting another status with my "preferences & likes" lol
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member


    If you post something, someone's going to bash you.

    It doesn't matter what your intentions were, or even WHAT YOU SAID! It's gonna happen.

    Learn to roll with the punches. Hell, punch back if'n you feel like! I find it to be quite amusing, although when I first started here it upset me greatly.

    ^^ Very true.
  • McChubbyruewho
    McChubbyruewho Posts: 194
    it's ok, I saw that post and didn't think it was so sexist,

    people on here will jump you for anything you say, its sad! be encouraged =)
  • MellyGibson
    MellyGibson Posts: 297 Member
    I appreciate all of your comments. Luckily, the thread was removed. also, to those who were offended and commented on here, thank you for taking the time to read. I will definitely think ahead before posting another status with my "preferences & likes" lol

    You're the dumba$$ that thought you were entitled to have an opinion!

    ;)
  • 4summer38
    4summer38 Posts: 25
    I didn't see anything offensive with your original post. People take things way too seriously. Don't even worry about it. You did nothing wrong. :)

    I agree, and instead of just letting it go like most normal people they try to make you somehow "pay for it". They'll twist your words around. You think MFP is bad, go over to Weight Watchers, them people are ruthless!

    Btw, when I read your post all that I took from it was "I like the female form, especially with muscles", and hey that's cool. I like men who don't have huge muscles, I think it's just disgusting. I'm glad my husband isn't into muscle building!
  • cabg6
    cabg6 Posts: 40 Member
    dude, you are a poozzy! stop apologizing for liking something!
    jk, please don't kill yourself.
    Seriously you could post "I love everyone" and someone will slam you for it.
  • MizSaz
    MizSaz Posts: 445 Member
    There are some really hypersensitive people hanging around here. There are also a lot of wannabe white knights. I didn't even see the post earlier, but I've read enough message board posts here on MFP to feel as though I know exactly how it went.

    Don't feel like you have to apologize every time you get some people going, otherwise, you will NEVER stop apologizing. ;)
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    I appreciate all of your comments. Luckily, the thread was removed. also, to those who were offended and commented on here, thank you for taking the time to read. I will definitely think ahead before posting another status with my "preferences & likes" lol

    Try the "Chit-Chat, Fun & Games" section. It's chit-chatty, fun, and there are games. Don't just give up on posting your preferences & likes altogether. Nobody else has.
  • Feisty_Red
    Feisty_Red Posts: 982 Member
    Someone would get offended and pissed off if you post "I love saving kittens from being run over by cars"
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