weight loss help. im trying so hard here..

Correct me if I am wrong, but for very large people, doesn't sudden, drastic weight loss lead to more excess skin? Slower weight loss gives the skin time to adjust to the new body?

I agree, short term if you have several hundred pounds to lose, then 4-5 is great and if you lose lean body mass, well that is acceptable as you will still have a ton left over. Also, it's cost benefit. Sometimes just getting below a certain threshold will automatically make it safer. But it would be curious to see at the end of a journey, what was your true average weight loss. Some weeks it might be a lot, some it might not be any. But the ability to lose large amounts of weight early is limited to those who have never dieted and those who are obese.

For the OP, eating more will benefit as he has little to lose. Also, with more food, he will see greater results in his exercise routine.

Agreed, however, given that he's currently losing at a good rate I personally would stick with what he's doing. If the weight loss slows/stops or there is concern about lean mass (if his BF% isn't dropping) then he could adjust his intake. In other words, don't try fix what isn't broken.

If 1 Ibs every few days doesn't seem like much, then maybe you have been watching too much 'Biggest Loser', lol ?

SERIOUSLY!! I don't see anything to complain about!

well half way through reading some of these posts i decided to raise my calories to 2k. and i have gone +2lb this morning
feels like i can never have a treat or something slightly fatty without putting a dam stone on. sad panda this morning.
im hoping its just water weight. i was at the gym yesterday also.

Don't stress over this When you first increase calories, you often have a temporary spike on the scale. Especially if you upped calories all at once, versus a gradual increase of, say, 100 cals per day each week. Also, if you've had a meal high in sodium or carbs, it can cause water retention that makes your weight spike.

Both these issues should resolve in a few days. Within a week or two, the scale will probably start to drop again, as long as you have a reasonable calorie deficit. Good luck - and keep doing what you're doing. You've made great progress so far!

What are your rates at darlin?
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819055-setting-your-calorie-and-macro-targets

I understand that initial desperation. You have generated the desire and the motivation to solve your weight problem and you feel like you have to make it all happen NOW. It's an obsession, all you want is to reach your goals. I wrote a blog posting once on obsession and weight loss, shameless plug here, although I haven't updated the blog in a year:

http://noneoptimization.blogspot.com/2011/08/discussion-with-my-wife-tonight.html

Essentially, I think when losing a lot of weight we need to be a little obsessed. However, you need to try and harness this energy and use it in a healthy way. Try to realize that it's going to take some time, no matter how motivated you are to lose it all, it will take a good period of time. As I said earlier, focus on smaller goals, almost ignore the ultimate goal, it's out there in the distance somewhere, just over the horizon. You know it's there, you're heading in direction, but in between is a bunch of milestones like islands in a large barren ocean providing safe harbor from time to time. You can't sprint a marathon, but you can have dogged determination to reach the finish line and can perhaps pick up the pace from time to time.

Enough with the analogies, I think you get the point.

As I said, if your still losing and not feeling like you're going to chew the leg off a chair, then keep doing what you're doing. When the weight loss slows, then consider changing your approach.