Hints or no hints?

oregonzoo
oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
edited January 11 in Chit-Chat
Listening Pandora this morning a commerical came on for a jewelry store and I was enraged.

"Ladies, you can even email your man a wish list... you know he wants to please you"

Isn't it nicer to be surprised and get a gift from the heart? I mean even if it is a hoover, and sucks.
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  • Desterknee
    Desterknee Posts: 1,056 Member
    No hints, unless he asks. Then give that sucker a 100 page dossier with notes, prices and locations of everything you've ever wanted.
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    21st century problems?

    I'm not sure it would enrage me. I do make a habit of going "oooh isn't that fabulous!" if I see something nice when out shopping with husband. A bit more subtle than an email, but a hint nonetheless.
  • FrankenBeanz
    FrankenBeanz Posts: 176 Member
    No hints, unless he asks. Then give that sucker a 100 page dossier with notes, prices and locations of everything you've ever wanted.

    and if they're anything like my husband - you'll end up with something not on the list anyway!
  • Fox_n_sox
    Fox_n_sox Posts: 283 Member
    No hints. I want this:
    76420524896613231_43IQOl6S_c.jpg

    I like those kinds of surprises. I don't like surprises that I am told we are going out and how to dress and then it's COMPLETELY wrong and I am over dressed.

    I even told my friends to help my future fiance pick out the ring. I don't want him to waste money on something I don't like.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,465 Member
    I do make a habit of going "oooh isn't that fabulous!" if I see something nice when out shopping with husband. A bit more subtle than an email, but a hint nonetheless.


    lol @ women thinking men pay attention when they talk.
  • laserturkey
    laserturkey Posts: 1,680 Member
    It would be a wonderful world, indeed, if men could/would read our minds and pick out wonderful gifts for us for special occasions! In my personal experience, though, I could wish and wish forever and never end up with what I really want. Our family (including in-laws) has a tradition of keeping detailed wish lists and making them available throughout the year. We occasionally stray from the specific lists, but for the most part, everyone gets things they are really hoping for.
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member



    lol @ women thinking men pay attention when they talk.

    True :huh:
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    Well, I'm lucky then that I have a man who DOES actually listen! He's even in a clothes shop got the assistant to put aside things that I tried on but couldn't afford, and surprised me with them for Christmas.

    Now, in case he's reading this, <cough> Dubarry's purse</cough>
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    as a man

    1) subtle hints don't work
    2) strong hints don't work
    3) dropping names in the middle of conversation hoping we'll pick up the hint don't work

    Just tell us wtf you gals want lol
  • _Stampede55_
    _Stampede55_ Posts: 69 Member
    I don't like surprises. I want what I want!! I'll straight up tell my wife when I gotta have something, or I'll just go get it myself. I think she much prefers to be surprised and have me come up with my own ideas...this of course usually leads me to buying her something that I want :)
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    No hints. I want this:
    76420524896613231_43IQOl6S_c.jpg

    I like those kinds of surprises. I don't like surprises that I am told we are going out and how to dress and then it's COMPLETELY wrong and I am over dressed.

    I even told my friends to help my future fiance pick out the ring. I don't want him to waste money on something I don't like.

    It would just be easier if you told him you wanted an umbrella...
  • _Stampede55_
    _Stampede55_ Posts: 69 Member
    When all else fails, get her a pedicure.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    When all else fails, get her a pedicure.
    Yes but no. Anything spa related is like the equivant of a gift card for spouses.
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member



    lol @ women thinking men pay attention when they talk.

    This right here. LMAO
  • Fox_n_sox
    Fox_n_sox Posts: 283 Member
    No hints. I want this:
    76420524896613231_43IQOl6S_c.jpg

    I like those kinds of surprises. I don't like surprises that I am told we are going out and how to dress and then it's COMPLETELY wrong and I am over dressed.

    I even told my friends to help my future fiance pick out the ring. I don't want him to waste money on something I don't like.

    It would just be easier if you told him you wanted an umbrella...

    That is why there is a picture! Pictures are the best! He will know I wanted a black umbrella with a wooden J handle!
  • ♥Faerie♥
    ♥Faerie♥ Posts: 14,053 Member
    I have NEVER gotten anything for Valentines day...is this really even a Holiday??? What is this monstrosity of human celebrations???
  • NKF92879
    NKF92879 Posts: 601 Member
    Hints are fine, but an email wish list isn't a hint. A hint is mentioning in conversation that I like something.
  • EjaneK11
    EjaneK11 Posts: 209 Member
    Before I got married my husband asked me when would be a good time to get married. I told him to ask when he was ready and I don't see it coming. Of course, when he did pop the question I was surprised!
  • EjaneK11
    EjaneK11 Posts: 209 Member
    I do make a habit of going "oooh isn't that fabulous!" if I see something nice when out shopping with husband. A bit more subtle than an email, but a hint nonetheless.


    lol @ women thinking men pay attention when they talk.

    I found this last remark to be kinda funny. As a woman, I know it is true sometimes not all. Just depends what we are talking about!
  • runwmeNC
    runwmeNC Posts: 612 Member
    Emailing him something you like is 100% ok !!!!

    Sure you want your man to be romantic, creative and wonderful without a nudge, but you may not have "that guy" Your man still may be a wonderful person in so many ways and this would be perfect.

    If a lady I loved emailed me " hey I like this" It wouldn't offend me, I'd click, buy and give to her and as long as she acts surprised and kisses me adoringly for it, we will both feel enriched. ( bottom like, you can fake it, just put in effort to make it believable)
  • _Stampede55_
    _Stampede55_ Posts: 69 Member
    When all else fails, get her a pedicure.
    Yes but no. Anything spa related is like the equivant of a gift card for spouses.
    I have been failing at marriage...
  • _Stampede55_
    _Stampede55_ Posts: 69 Member
    I have a scenario...
    I asked my wife what she would like for Christmas, she was pregnant at the time, so she says...I would really like clothes, but I'm not going to be able to fit them soon, plus I want to lose a bunch of weight after the baby, so I don't know what I want, don't get me anything...

    Guys should never be tasked with buying clothes in the first place. It's a terrible situation waiting to happen.

    What the hell do women really want????
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    telling me what you want is fine for birthday or christmas (or whichever winter holiday you celebrate).

    but for valentine's day, and maybe i'm naive in this, if i'm expected to show my love and appreciation for a woman, and that's what the holiday is about, then i don't want a list. If you want to give hints, fine - because, ideally, we shouldn't know they are "hints." right?
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    I'd have got her a gorgeous pashmina (that's a big posh shawl) that she could wear both while pregnant and also afterwards.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    When all else fails, get her a pedicure.
    Yes but no. Anything spa related is like the equivalent of a gift card for wives.

    fixed that for you :wink:
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    When all else fails, get her a pedicure.
    Yes but no. Anything spa related is like the equivant of a gift card for spouses.
    I have been failing at marriage...
    Perhaps not. Just MY personal opinion lol.
  • _Stampede55_
    _Stampede55_ Posts: 69 Member
    I'd have got her a gorgeous pashmina (that's a big posh shawl) that she could wear both while pregnant and also afterwards.
    I don't even know what those words mean. Does it need batteries?

    *buys pedicure coupon*
  • EdwarddeVere
    EdwarddeVere Posts: 178 Member
    Listening Pandora this morning a commerical came on for a jewelry store and I was enraged.

    "Ladies, you can even email your man a wish list... you know he wants to please you"

    Isn't it nicer to be surprised and get a gift from the heart? I mean even if it is a hoover, and sucks.

    When it comes to jewelry, I wouldn't have a clue. Thus, it would be in your best interest to give me hints.
  • Fox_n_sox
    Fox_n_sox Posts: 283 Member
    Flowers ALWAYS work!
  • _Stampede55_
    _Stampede55_ Posts: 69 Member
    When all else fails, get her a pedicure.
    Yes but no. Anything spa related is like the equivant of a gift card for spouses.
    I have been failing at marriage...
    Perhaps not. Just MY personal opinion lol.
    She's still making dinner every night, and making sure that my work pants are clean, so I guess I'm ok.
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