On My Own

I'm sorry he isn't more supportive. I wonder why he felt the need to comment about the BL contestants and he isn't there for you. You should talk to him about it and tell him it would be nice if he would support you more on your journey.
I'm thinking this is a possibility: when you see the same person day in and day out you really don't notice a change. If you had run into an old friend at the mall after losing weight, they're the first to comment ... because they haven't seen you in a while.

Maybe it's that the people on that show, are portrayed as losing that much in a week? So it looks so very drastic? But I agree with Caper, you should talk to him about support. It took two months before my husband would even tell me good job after going to the gym. They're kinda slow you know Maybe he just needs you to tell him that you need the support.

Either way it sucks.....sometimes the people you see on a regular basis are the least likely to notice your efforts. Someone just told me last week, "Boy you look different." REALLY - I've lost over 100 pounds and you're just now noticing????

Don't give up hope though - I was "on program" for at least 6 months before my husband actually started logging on MFP and doing stuff to lose the rest of his weight too.

Just keep doing what you're doing - people are watching, TRUST me. and DON'T base your motivation or self-worth by what others do or say (or don't do or don't say). You aren't doing this to get comments from your spouse. You're doing this to be healthier for you.

Sometimes husbands are a bit like that. My mother was going through chemo and was losing her hair. She went to the hair dresser one day and got it cropped quite short. It took him the better part of a week to notice. Then when she swapped to a wig he had no idea at all for ages.
So unless you go on holiday for 2 weeks and come back really really lighter i wouldn't be too hard on him for not noticing. Just give him the scoop that you've made better changes than their crash dieting and extreme exercise and stick to them. If you want him to stick around and exercise too try stroking the old ego "Just think how good you'd look with all that muscle and tone".
Ive basically thrown out everything in the house that isn't salad, fruit or low calorie, so now together we have no choice but to eat healthy.

Those shows are tailored to show the difference in big visual ways, your husband i assume sees you ever day and therefore would not see that big before and after difference the way its dipicted on the show.

that said, tell him how you feel, best to get it out.

and finally your not alone, relativly fresh to this forum thing but there is NO shortage of decent people with reassuring things to say.

Good luck!!

I'd go easy on him.
A) Boys are kind of dense sometimes.
Its very difficult to see the change in someone when you see them everyday. Since its so gradual, all he knows is that you look the same as yesterday and the day before.

I agree. Using the 'Dense' card has always got me out of a sticky situation. Apparently makes me look cute too.

I still don't understand women. o.O

But yea, completely agree. I didn't notice my wife's weight-loss for a loooooong time. She never even told me she was dieting.

Then one day she walked in with a tight fitting top and KAPOW!.. WTF!!

Mind Blown!!

I'm sorry he is that way. My husband use to say things like well we need to loose weight and then grab a big bag of chips to eat. But has always told me how beautiful I was no matter the size of me. But I know it is difficult to do it by your self but you are not alone we are all here together. I also feel alone at doing this life change because I have to make separate dinners for my husband as he doesn't eat any vegetables. Anytime you want to chat feel free to contact me. We can do this together and please remember you are not doing the life change for him or anyone else except for YOU.

Support, especially from loved ones, is important. However, our weight, our body size, our body image is our own responsibility. We have to own who we are in every regard and can't look to others for excuses, blame or sympathy. I don't mean to sound harsh, but in order to change your mind set and achieve the goals you have for yourself, you have to be critically tougher on yourself, and not focus on other's criticism (or lack of support).