Gym Crushes

FireRox21
FireRox21 Posts: 424 Member
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How do you handle a crush that you have on someone at the gym? Me, I just work my *kitten* off while on the treadmill and dream as he walks by. I did find out from the receptionist (who is his age and gorgeous, most likely his type), how old he was and his name. I will never have the guts to talk to him. I'm just curious how other people handle gym crushes.
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  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    are you doing the same workout stuff?

    if so then it's easier that way to pull a how you doin'?
  • Hbazzell
    Hbazzell Posts: 899 Member
    Maybe take a class that he takes? i dont like getting hit on during my workouts. It makes me feel uncomfortable since I already feel self concious that people are looking at me (even though they probably could care less). A class is a more social thing though. Or maybe when he is filling his water or getting cleaning wipes. If he is getting his swole on, I'd let him be and admire from a distance. lol
  • devastation77
    devastation77 Posts: 233
    I'm just there to do one thing and that's work out, but I smile and say hey to everybody :o)
  • FireRox21
    FireRox21 Posts: 424 Member
    He is only there late at night. Geez, I don't want to sound stalkerish, but he only works in the weight room. I see him when I go in there and in passing. We do the same workout stuff, but still, I'm way too shy.
  • michellemybelll
    michellemybelll Posts: 2,228 Member
    ....It makes me feel uncomfortable since I already feel self concious that people are looking at me (even though they probably could care less)...

    lol! it's so nice to hear other people express this feeling! I totally feel like this too, and I'm always trying to coach myself that I'm just being super sensitive and self conscious!
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    He is only there late at night. Geez, I don't want to sound stalkerish, but he only works in the weight room. I see him when I go in there and in passing. We do the same workout stuff, but still, I'm way too shy.

    see this is why i was never good with crushes :laugh: i simply can not obsess over stuff that's easily fixed.

    why not just ask the guy for a spot and go from there?
  • watergallagher
    watergallagher Posts: 232 Member
    Wait in the shadows by his car, walk to him quickly... then introduce urself.
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I'm just there to do one thing and that's work out, but I smile and say hey to everybody :o)

    That's what I do too, but in my head. I am a bit shy so I slowly been working on saying good morning, hi, that sorta stuff.
  • Hbazzell
    Hbazzell Posts: 899 Member
    He is a weight guy? Do you do weights? Maybe you will need a spotter on the bench one day ;)
  • gym_king_carlie
    gym_king_carlie Posts: 528 Member
    My crush is a fitness instructer at another gym, she is so hardcore lol, all the guys give her attntion but not for her looks, her training. one day, was sitting on my lonesome in the jaquzzi and to my suprise she joined me and talked to me! me!!! she admired that I didnt try hitting on her and was impressed by my training. and now shes abit flirty with me now and again, sooooo wanna take her out, but I respect her to much and my best friend decided he would creep her out by asking her out on a date. lovely lol
  • tinajean141
    tinajean141 Posts: 59
    It's a difficult situation, because usually other people are so focused on their own workout, because (let's face it) it gets awkward if you are watching other people too obviously. There's nothing wrong with casual conversation at the gym (or anywhere in life for that matter!). The fact is, people usually like it when other people start the conversation, just so they won't have to! If you walk up and say hi and just ask him how long he has been coming to the gym, it's just casual conversation. The worst thing that could happen is he is a little distant with his answer (most people aren't outwardly mean to a person who had the guts to start a conversation). Best case scenario? You guys end up talking, have a lot in common, and cover a lot of mutual ground in your first conversation. It could even grow into more in time! But you won't know until you try talking to them! Just give it a chance and don't doubt yourself. :smile:
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Give them the eye, attack with flirty confidence, adquire a means of connection, meet up and ply with bacon and red wine then seal the deal.
  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    If someone talked to me between exercises, it really wouldn't bother me in the least. That being said, I don't even consider it an option talking to an attractive woman at the gym. Put aside the fact that I am way too shy to hit on any woman any where, I wouldn't want to make her uncomfortable when she is simply trying to work out. So I just hope my gym crush doesn't catch me sneaking a glance occasionally on the rare occasion that we work out at the same time.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I've been married forever, and along the lines I have had so many crushes and infatuations. That comes and goes. What has stayed is my wife, even with a few issues we've both had in the past.
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
    I just stare and creep from a distance. Eventually she notices, avoids me for a few days, and that's the last I ever see of her. Then I move on to the next one. /sigh
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    I just stare and creep from a distance. Eventually she notices, avoids me for a few days, and that's the last I ever see of her. Then I move on to the next one. /sigh

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  • joe3166
    joe3166 Posts: 78
    Believe me
    Talk to him
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
    I just stare and creep from a distance. Eventually she notices, avoids me for a few days, and that's the last I ever see of her. Then I move on to the next one. /sigh

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    I'm not even kidding
  • crazy4lulu
    crazy4lulu Posts: 822 Member
    I'm just there to do one thing and that's work out, but I smile and say hey to everybody :o)
    Me too!!!
  • tifferlee82
    tifferlee82 Posts: 6
    I'm just there to do one thing and that's work out, but I smile and say hey to everybody :o)

    This! The gym isn't a dating service ;)
  • cosmic0074
    cosmic0074 Posts: 91 Member
    I just stare and creep from a distance. Eventually she notices, avoids me for a few days, and that's the last I ever see of her. Then I move on to the next one. /sigh

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    Oh my god, I choked on my drink! That was friggin hilarious :laugh:
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,809 Member
    I just talk to him about the Maury Povich show. I'm married, and there just isn't much more I want do, but I still think he's cute. You could try talking to him, maybe about Maury Povich, or whatever other dumb show they have on at your gym.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    I approach guys if I think they are attractive. Usually when getting water or something. Not that I'm trying to date any of them, but I'll ask about their routine. Often guys have noticed mine and ask what I'm doing. I've made some friends this way.
  • VorJoshigan
    VorJoshigan Posts: 1,106 Member
    There's this one guy I see at my gym sometimes. At first I wasn't digging him, but then I really started liking him a lot. We've been spending a lot of time together lately.

    Wait. I work out at home. Nevermind - I was just seeing myself in the mirror.
  • LankyYankee
    LankyYankee Posts: 260 Member
    I have been told that the sexiest thing on a woman is confidence.... Roll up, smile, say Hi and see if he responds.

    That said, I totally do the eyes on the floor, umm yeah Hi,every time a guy I think is attractive says Hi to me. What can I say? Work in progress!
  • tejero1101
    tejero1101 Posts: 5
    Walk over to were he is working out at. Drop something in is vecinity. gym membership card, workout gloves, key etc. And ask did he drop something. If he starts to conversate with you. Take it from there. If he don't move on.
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Smile. Speak to him if there's an opportunity (to not seem intrusive) but otherwise just enjoy the view and don't worry about it.
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    ....It makes me feel uncomfortable since I already feel self concious that people are looking at me (even though they probably could care less)...

    lol! it's so nice to hear other people express this feeling! I totally feel like this too, and I'm always trying to coach myself that I'm just being super sensitive and self conscious!

    Yes, how terrible someone thought you were so attractive they wanted to approach you. How horrible it must be for this to happen.
  • gmallan
    gmallan Posts: 2,099 Member
    If he's doing weights and you do too you could try complimenting his form or workout routine or ask him for a spot or some advice on something weights-related. I think most guys love this kind of stuff. Just make sure he's between sets
  • lala_hohl
    lala_hohl Posts: 23
    I would be more discrete... but this would only work in a crowded gym... I would ask to share some machine he is on and thenceforth i would say hi to him... baby steps haha Good luck anyway! :wink:

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