Congratulations on your pregnancy!

valmadd
valmadd Posts: 11
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Congratulations on your pregnancy!
That is what someone said to me in the elevator at work today. Oh, I wish I could use profanity on this site!!!!!!!
I'm devastated. I'm 45 and the mother of two, 14yrs and 8yrs, and I still look pregnant!?!?!?! I have been getting up at 5:30 to go to boot camp three days a week for a month and I still look pregnant!?!?!?! Tracking and recording everything I eat and I still look pregnant!?!?!?!
Groan. I don't eat meat or carbs. I only drink one or two nights a week (and only two drinks tops). Is there no connection between what I could have eaten and didn't and the way I look?
AARRGGG!!! Ok, ok. sorry for the rant, but I'm so very mad, and hurt.

Hope you guys are having a better day..
Val

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  • Kennkaru
    Kennkaru Posts: 210 Member
    Wait...you don't eat carbs?
  • valmadd
    valmadd Posts: 11
    Nope. Well nothing refined. I will eat beans, but only 1 cup/day at most.
  • Smiling_Sara
    Smiling_Sara Posts: 203 Member
    I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I've had that before too, and it does hurt.

    People absolutely need to never tell a women congrats unless they know for a FACT that the women is pregnant, EI: She tells them, or they are at her baby shower. ;)
  • julialla
    julialla Posts: 232 Member
    Oh goodness I'm so sorry! Just be confident and use those comments as fuel for motivation. But remember, you're doing this for YOU not for anyone else, pregnant comments or not!
  • spozzybear
    spozzybear Posts: 216 Member
    Yep I feel ya. I used to work in retail and I once had a customer come up to me, rub my tummy and ask when I was due.

    My response?

    "Apparently the only thing I'm due for is a diet!"
  • spozzybear
    spozzybear Posts: 216 Member
    P.S Chin up - sounds like you're doing everything right. If nothing else, you will be very healthy! :flowerforyou:
  • valmadd
    valmadd Posts: 11
    True that Sara! It should be lesson #1 at man school. :-)
  • AshlieA96
    AshlieA96 Posts: 50 Member
    I'm sorry for those rude people in your life, who are ignorant and show no sham or have no tact..I aswell have been asked if I am expecting and without doubt have felt angry, embarrased and ashamed of myself. I must say though I have come to terms with the fact that it is a problem within themselves as they have no filter on their mouths. Some of us would never ask, judge or assume something of someone unless knowing for certain, out of fear of hurting their feelings. Hold your head up, keep up with your plan and dont listen to the people that dont matter.
  • LizardQueen4PointOh
    LizardQueen4PointOh Posts: 245 Member
    In the past, I was asked twice in a week when I was due... I told them it was just leftovers. Ugh. Hoping with exercise and my umbilical hernia repair that I can avoid that question in the future...
  • valmadd
    valmadd Posts: 11
    Rubbed your belly!!??!! Ugh! I would have died!

    Thanks Jullalla and spozzybear :-)
  • valmadd
    valmadd Posts: 11
    Ha! Leftovers! I love that. I think part of my frustration is that I didn't have a clever retort.
    It is true that folks need to use their filters. The man who said that to me today was genuinely happy and excited for me.
    Thanks you guys!
  • tlkrallman
    tlkrallman Posts: 82
    I had a coworker ask if I was having a boy or a girl while we were in the break room on lunch. I advised her to leave the break room and do it rather quickly, or she wouldn't ever have the opportunity to have kids of her own. Needless to say, she hated me from that day forward. LOL
  • CharRicho
    CharRicho Posts: 389 Member
    Ugh, sorry that happened to you. That is such a rude thing to say to someone. If you don't KNOW FOR SURE that someone is pregnant, don't say anything. I would think that would be common sense but some people don't have any!
  • merleduwayne
    merleduwayne Posts: 1
    I'd say "I'm due in a couple of months, did you just have yours?" that would shut them up!!! lol
  • KristysLosing
    KristysLosing Posts: 683
    What? Some people...I agree with others. If you don't know for sure, leave it alone! Maybe she heard a rumor? I know...that's not any better. *sigh* I'll bet she feels like an @ss!
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    if someone said that to me, they would likely get this face:

    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSG3PBpZbXweOH6cSBgZ36mI9YpyzYvtxsdrpc-i_GYUfKwkSC3

    seriously - some people need to never open their mouths.
  • TinaBaily
    TinaBaily Posts: 792 Member
    I have been guilty of saying this to someone who wasn't pregnant. Not just once, but TWICE! I don't know which of us, both times, were more mortified-me, or the person to whom I asked when she was due. In my own lame defense, I had just had a baby recently each time and my "mommy radar" was on high alert. I NEVER AGAIN, EVER, said that, nor will I say that, to someone, unless I have been told definitively that the person is expecting!

    I'm sorry this happened to you, OP. I know it had to hurt a lot. Aside from the possibly too low carb intake, your diet sounds fantastic. Keep up your efforts and they will pay off. Losing the 32 lbs you have on your ticker will make a very big difference. I would like to wish you the best of luck in your weight loss efforts.
  • oxnina
    oxnina Posts: 203 Member
    if someone said that to me, they would likely get this face:

    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSG3PBpZbXweOH6cSBgZ36mI9YpyzYvtxsdrpc-i_GYUfKwkSC3

    seriously - some people need to never open their mouths.

    LMAO oh Jenna Marbles, has a solution for everything!

    Sorry to hear that someone said that to you... I'd feel so ashamed of myself and PISSED off it happened to me!
  • valmadd
    valmadd Posts: 11
    :laugh:
    if someone said that to me, they would likely get this face:

    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSG3PBpZbXweOH6cSBgZ36mI9YpyzYvtxsdrpc-i_GYUfKwkSC3

    seriously - some people need to never open their mouths.
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    Oh, I wish I could use profanity on this site!!!!!!!

    why cant you ?? just add an extra letter or something ?? i curse often:wink::drinker: on another note, who cares what someone says..you know better, and at least you are trying..it may take more than a month..good luck
  • iffy8
    iffy8 Posts: 64
    People are....rhymes with bassholes. I'm 26 mother of one five year old. When I was pregnant no strangers ever acknowledged me being pregnant. I just looked fat. However, twice in the last month I have been asked if I was pregnant and when I was due...my motto is unless you're watching the baby crown never mention whether or not a woman is pregnant...bassholes. I'm sorry. It's the worst feeling!
  • liesevanlingen
    liesevanlingen Posts: 508 Member
    Rubbing your tummy is WAY out of line, pregnant or not. Someone did that to me when I was pregnant and my darling husband, who was with me at the time, leaned over and patted HER tummy. She looked absolutely shocked, and then said, "Sorry, I guess I deserved that."
    It really makes the point about just how offensive and out of line that is--without being nasty at all.

    People can be so unthinkingly rude, and I think you should definitely call them on it. It may stop them from behaving that way to some other poor woman.
  • valmadd
    valmadd Posts: 11
    unless you're watching the baby crown never mention whether or not a woman is pregnant.

    This is the best!!!
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member
    congratulations on your nose job!
    "what?"
    *punches them in the nose* :mad:
  • Songbird1104
    Songbird1104 Posts: 210 Member
    unless you're watching the baby crown never mention whether or not a woman is pregnant.

    This is the best!!!

    Yeah, that was my dad's rule of thumb. :D
  • Renise01
    Renise01 Posts: 39 Member
    Rubbing your tummy is WAY out of line, pregnant or not. Someone did that to me when I was pregnant and my darling husband, who was with me at the time, leaned over and patted HER tummy. She looked absolutely shocked, and then said, "Sorry, I guess I deserved that."
    It really makes the point about just how offensive and out of line that is--without being nasty at all.

    LMBO! I don't know him but I LOVE your husband!

    I'm a little round in the tummy and a friend and I were at a Golden Corral - he had a great Mil discount! So we're eating and the waitress congratulated us my pregnancy and said Happy Mother's Day and asked if it was my first. I was about ready to stab her with my fork - and my friend very sweetly informed her that we we not expecting (a little too sweet if you ask me). As a former waitress one of my first lessons was NEVER assume or ask if a woman is expecting. Back to the OP - you seem to be doing everything right! Keep up the good work!

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