What to do?

My sweetheart does most of the cooking and I'm happy to have him do it, but he's very heavy on butter, sauces, oils, meats. Rather than making a separate meal for myself, I simply watch my portion sizes. I get out my little scale and weigh everything. And frankly, if you don't scarf too fast (as I tend to do), heavy foods can also make you feel fuller faster. I've lost weight and maintained fine watching quantity.

But since you're doing the cooking, you can cook the food he likes but try to swap out some ingredients to make it healthier without losing the essence of the meal all together. Less butter. Leaner cuts of beef. Spray oil to grease the pan rather than butter or straight vegetable oil. Take the skin off your pieces of chicken. Brown rice instead of white. If regular brown feels too heavy for your man, brown basmati or jasmine has lighter quality to it. Get creative and watch your portion sizes. You got this!

It must be very hard being a victim.......err, I mean woman

Lol how do you always manage to say what I'm thinking?! OP stop making excuses to quit and just cook what you want. Me and my partner eat totally different meals.

It's no big deal, us women can multi task! You can totally cook 2 things at once with no hassle. Its very rare we eat the same food. In my opinion it's no harder to cook 2 different meals than just one. Just plan ahead.

Anyone who has a meal cooked for them should be very grateful. If you do not like what is placed in front of you, then you should get off your backside and cook something you do want.

^THIS! Hopefully your hubby can get on board with your wanting to be healthy. Maybe he could try it too.

What to do?
1. Stop making excuses for not eating for your health.
2. Stop generalizing Puerto Rican behavior. That's not a cultural issue, that's a him issue.