Emotional wreck

thnksfrthmmrs
thnksfrthmmrs Posts: 152 Member
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This topic will probably apply to the ladies more but men feel free to chip in.

Does anyone ever cry for no real reason?

I seem to be doing this a lot lately, and I haven't got a clue why. I have a decent life, good friends, family and boyfriend. Got a decent job and a car. Yet still, I put on a front to everyone yet as soon as I'm alone the tears come.

Any similar stories or ways to stop being such a baby would be appreciated.

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  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    TOM
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    A lot of women I know do this. It is their way of venting stress and frustrations.
  • thnksfrthmmrs
    thnksfrthmmrs Posts: 152 Member
    I thought that at first but it isn't as its been continuous for about 3 months or more now. Makes me feel like I'm going mad.
  • aquasw16
    aquasw16 Posts: 342 Member
    Talk to your doc.
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,605 Member
    Do you feel low, or is it more like an emotional release?
    How's your eating, sleep, exercise?
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,605 Member
    Talk to your doc.
    Seriously?
    Straight to a medicalising label?
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    S.A.D.?
  • pseudomuffin
    pseudomuffin Posts: 1,058 Member
    I do and its usually how hypoglycemia effects me! You could be experiencing mood swings due to blood sugar crashes... My fiancé jokes that any time I get maudlin he just has to feed me and I jump right back into being bubbly/happy (which is true about 97% of the time lol)
  • brevislux
    brevislux Posts: 1,093 Member
    I don't... Do you feel depressed or are you happy but just weepy sometimes? Do you know what triggers it?
  • thnksfrthmmrs
    thnksfrthmmrs Posts: 152 Member
    I think it's more like an emotional release, or possibly stress like the fella said. I don't think I need to see a doctor.

    I was just wondering if any one else got emotional a lot & for what reasons
  • thnksfrthmmrs
    thnksfrthmmrs Posts: 152 Member
    I'm not depressed, I'm genuinely happy with my life, I do just get weepy. The smallest of thing can trigger it off. Like a sad song or just over thinking.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    not really. only when something triggers like a bad memory or something but that's explainable. or when somone writes a really touching MFP post about not being afraid of being photographed.

    u said 3 months that's why i thought of SAD. the thing where you just need a little light thing to shine on you to make you feel better.
  • chubbygirl253
    chubbygirl253 Posts: 1,309 Member
    No. If I had that problem I would have gone to a doctor by now. 3 mos of waterworks sounds like a nightmare. I mean crying every now and then is healthy if you have a reason to cry. But if you cry for no reason that must be something like depression or a hormonal problem. (neither of which I'm very knowledgeable about, but I think it requires some medical attention) I hope you figure out what it is and get it taken care of. Bursting into tears all the time sounds like no way to live. ((hugs))
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I'm not depressed, I'm genuinely happy with my life, I do just get weepy. The smallest of thing can trigger it off. Like a sad song or just over thinking.

    Oh well there's the problem..dont think. Like seriously my husband is always warning me not to "waste" my emotions on stuff. little things you see when ur driving by or something that happened during an errand or whatnot. he's right though in this information age we are so bombarded with info and such graphic stuff that you have to kind of filter in some way.
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,605 Member
    If you don't feel low, your appetite and sleep are ok, you aren't depressed, it isn't s.a.d.

    Do you feel agitated, when it happens?

    Do you feel better afterwards?

    If it makes you feel better, chances are its just catharsis - a release of pent up feeling. We all experience this to some degree - it is the reason we like a good weepy film.

    If you feel bad after a cry, it might be worth looking for other explanations.

    If you are concerned, maybe find other forms of catharsis. Kickboxing. Running. Lifting heavy weights. Let yourself grunt and sweat it out as well as having a good cry.

    And there is a reason we call it a 'good cry' or a 'good weepy'. Tears aren't always a bad thing!
  • thnksfrthmmrs
    thnksfrthmmrs Posts: 152 Member
    I'm not depressed, I'm genuinely happy with my life, I do just get weepy. The smallest of thing can trigger it off. Like a sad song or just over thinking.

    Oh well there's the problem..dont think. Like seriously my husband is always warning me not to "waste" my emotions on stuff. little things you see when ur driving by or something that happened during an errand or whatnot. he's right though in this information age we are so bombarded with info and such graphic stuff that you have to kind of filter in some way.

    I think you are right there. I have seen the doctor about 6 months ago and he said I'm not depressed. Just a very emotional person recommend some herbal tablets to help. Can't say as they do anything though lol.

    I have an awful feeling I might be one of those people that need attention ( like maybe making this topic to discuss it) and then when I get attention I don't want it.

    It's hard to explain.
  • thnksfrthmmrs
    thnksfrthmmrs Posts: 152 Member
    If you don't feel low, your appetite and sleep are ok, you aren't depressed, it isn't s.a.d.

    Do you feel agitated, when it happens?

    Do you feel better afterwards?

    If it makes you feel better, chances are its just catharsis - a release of pent up feeling. We all experience this to some degree - it is the reason we like a good weepy film.

    If you feel bad after a cry, it might be worth looking for other explanations.



    If you are concerned, maybe find other forms of catharsis. Kickboxing. Running. Lifting heavy weights. Let yourself grunt and sweat it out as well as having a good cry.

    And there is a reason we call it a 'good cry' or a 'good weepy'. Tears aren't always a bad thing!

    You talk a lot of sense. My sleep and appetite are fine.

    I think it must be a vent of built up stress/other emotions and I always feel better after!
  • 12skipafew99100
    12skipafew99100 Posts: 1,669 Member
    There is situational depression and there is clinical depression. In clinical depression you can be perfectly happy in your life and still be depressed. That is the mystery of it. In stituational depression there is a cause like a death or divorce and eventually you adjust and get through it.
    Best wishes dear.
  • thnksfrthmmrs
    thnksfrthmmrs Posts: 152 Member
    There is situational depression and there is clinical depression. In clinical depression you can be perfectly happy in your life and still be depressed. That is the mystery of it. In stituational depression there is a cause like a death or divorce and eventually you adjust and get through it.
    Best wishes dear.

    Thank you :) perhaps I should monitor myself and take note of when it happens and why. I might start seeing a pattern
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,605 Member
    There is situational depression and there is clinical depression. In clinical depression you can be perfectly happy in your life and still be depressed. That is the mystery of it. In stituational depression there is a cause like a death or divorce and eventually you adjust and get through it.
    Best wishes dear.

    This simply isn't accurate. No one who is clinically depressed*feels* happy with their life. They may not have logical reason to be depressed. But definitionally, low mood is a key feature of depression.
  • toomuchbootyindapants
    toomuchbootyindapants Posts: 811 Member
    Congratulations, you are....PREGNANT!

    Naw, just kidding (I hope). Lots of things could be affecting you if you are crying spontaneously and for no real reason. There are likely reasons...you need to spend some time in self-reflection to see what could be going on. And a counselor might be helpful.
  • JKS76
    JKS76 Posts: 54 Member
    Ha ha to the dizzle's comment. I was soooooo tearful when pregnant! Still occasionally cry at sad adverts/ songs/ thoughts without much of a warning! Hormones definitely have a part to play!

    However, beyond that, I think people feel sad a lot more than they allow themselves to be and cope with it by doing other stuff..some of it more productive and helpful than others..... over eating, drinking, exercising, playing on the x box to distract themselves etc. If you are just crying then surely that's a really streamlined way to just process the sad feeling, to let it go and move on? If you are generally happy, but cry when you're not, then I would say you are really well balanced! As for putting on a front for other people, that's just behaving in a way that conforms with societies expectations, surely?? As long as you can talk to people that know and care about you without trying to cover up what you are feeling, then just keep being you and be glad you are a sensitive, feeling person.
  • CassieReannan
    CassieReannan Posts: 1,479 Member
    Hmm.. I get like that once a month and just cry for no reason. It's usually because I'm really hormonal (birth control), especially if I skip a month or two.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    I went back a couple of weeks in your diary and I wouldn't be suprised if you are lacking some vitamins and minerals and perhaps that is part of the cause. Try to eat more fresh fruit and veggies, you have very little and too much take- away/ready meals and other foods with very little nutrients. I didn't notice if you are working out or not but do try to get some walks or something in if you aren't already, that can help with mood. Hope you feel better soon!
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    This topic will probably apply to the ladies more but men feel free to chip in.

    Does anyone ever cry for no real reason?

    I was never much for crying even when it felt like I should. Just a guy thing. Found other self-destructive ways to get out the stress, pain, or whatever was causing it. So it's okay to cry, but you need to be able to look inside to figure out why.

    What's amazing, or was amazing for me at least, is to see how far back some of those things go.

    All the best!
  • Lisa1971
    Lisa1971 Posts: 3,069 Member
    Awwww...I'm sorry. Hope you can work out your emotions. No advice but try and have a nice day!
  • gailmelanie
    gailmelanie Posts: 210 Member
    I don't know if you're using some kind of hormonal contraceptive, but they can produce emotional symptoms like you are describing. And if you aren't using a hormonal contraceptive, hormone fluctuations can cause that, too.
  • piratemerdi
    piratemerdi Posts: 212 Member
    One time, I was having kind of a bad day, and I wound up crying because I thought I had a box of spaghetti in my cupboard, but I didn't. I do that kind of stuff all the time. It's just a woman thing :P
  • cole_ashleyy
    cole_ashleyy Posts: 104 Member
    That happens to me too... but I'm bipolar so it's kind of expected.
    It could just be some kind of hormone thing going on right now... and just watch your intake too... if you're not eating properly sometimes it does mess with your body in weird ways (brain chemicals, hormones, blood sugar, ect.) You have to keep in mind that neurotransmitters affect your mood, appetite, thoughts, and behavior.
    Also it could have to do with your immune system... I believe that can sometimes affect mood.

    I did a quick search for you and this is some of what I found:
    First, supplementation with high-dose fish oil reduces your levels of both pro-inflammatory cytokines and eicosanoids.
    Second, stabilizing insulin levels will reduce the output of cortisol (which is often released in response to decreased blood sugar levels).
    Third, high- dose fish oil also increases the production of serotonin, the “feel-good” hormone in your brain, which allows you to adapt to stress more effectively.

    I don't know what your diet is like... I know low carb diets can often be associated with mood swings so it's possible that's something going on... again, you can just look at what your intake is and make a few changes here and there if you notice anything.

    And another thing I found in my search was this (http://www.3fatchicks.com/how-to-prevent-mood-swings-while-dieting/):
    Eat at Regular Times
    Include Snacks
    Watch Your Nutritional Balance
    Allow for Some Splurging

    I know for me when I was eating too little calories (esp. for an extended period of time) it was almost like I was constantly PMSing.

    There's a whole mind/body connection going on and the two affect each other.

    And I know personally, exercise or moving my body in some way helps me improve my mood because of the release of endorphins and it's just something I enjoy and how I understand the world.

    It may take a bit of trial and error for you to figure out exactly what's going on for you but it's not uncommon for mood changes to happen when dieting or changing your diet... but hopefully this gives you a few things to look into so you can work on figuring out what it may be for you causing you to be so emotional.

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