What was your breaking point.

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  • rm7161
    rm7161 Posts: 505
    I went through a really rough break up and I realized that I needed to focus on myself. It was time to take back control of my life!

    Same for me. :) I decided I was going to have the life I want, finally! That included having the body I want, too. :)
  • My breaking point was when I saw a video of myself, full body. I thought, "Is that saying, 'the camera adds 10lbs', true?" I looked a lot bigger than I thought I was, and I didn't like it. Awhile later as well, I tried on a pair of jeans that should have been my size. My size was 28 for the past 2 years. I hadn't worn jeans for a long time, and these were so tight I realized I'd have to go up a size. So I decided it was time. I'd always wanted to be a 26 so I thought "Hey, why not?". Today I'm a size 27.
  • lives21
    lives21 Posts: 78 Member
    I was really blind or didn't take my weight problem seriously, until my dad broke down and talked to me about it. He was so worried that I would die young and leave my older siblings to grieve. I went to the doctor and dietitian and joined a gym. After that talk with my dad, I realized that it really was worse than I thought. It forced me to take a hard look at myself. I realized that I had gained 20 pounds because I was bored (not in school or work), didn't fit into any of my jeans and only wore sweat pants and was spending all my time on the couch. Only 6 weeks in and I have so much energy I don't know what to do with it all.
  • kristinhills90
    kristinhills90 Posts: 38 Member
    For me it was while shopping in Maurices, my favorite store ever. I was trying on clothes and realized I was in a size 24 pants...if I got any bigger I wouldn't be able to shop there any more.. another contributing factor was we moved to a new house that had a giant full size mirror (previous house did not.) I have to see my whole body ever day and I was disgusted and knew I HAD to do something.
  • styledsky
    styledsky Posts: 121 Member
    I'd managed to get around the weight issue for many years. I had a series of breaking points all within about a week in the end, which got me going. The main ones were:

    1. My wife, who has lost over 50kg (110lbs) herself in 2 years, asking me not to widow her by dying early (my peak weight reached 174kg - around 380lbs)
    2. Dave Myers & Simon King (The Hairy Bikers) showing how you can lose weight whilst still enjoy the sort of food you love in a healthy way by reinventing it (if you haven't seen their show "The Hairy Dieters", it's well worth a look!)

    I know it's a long road, but I'm as stubborn as an old mule when I set my mind to something. Just never made this a priority until now.
  • shelbystatic
    shelbystatic Posts: 61 Member
    I stepped on the scale and it said 200. I'd realized I was gaining weight but I didn't know I had gained that much. I remember trying to lose weight at 150; so how the hell did I get all the way to 200! My mom had been noticing my weight gain and my increased eating. I'd been going through a lot of stress and kept blaming my poor diet on the stress. I told my mom about my weight and she had me pinky promise I would do something about it. My mother has terminal cancer and has battled with her fluctuating weight all her life. She is now down to 100 and is trying hard to gain weight. I made a promise to her and I will not break it. I am still under a lot of stress but I am not using food to sooth anymore. I take all the stress and negativity and release it at the gym, not eat it.
  • Duck_Puddle
    Duck_Puddle Posts: 3,237 Member
    I think we all need breaking point.

    We don't need a breaking point. I started by accident. One of my dogs sprinted after a squirrel, I realized I missed running, I started running again. It was a total fluke. But it took-so I'm good with that.
  • AnnieMeredith
    AnnieMeredith Posts: 20 Member
    i wanted to wear my favorite dress to a school dance, and i was super excited cause it would be at a new school with a new boy and i would be meeting all these people and the dress wouldn't zip.
  • I am a strong believer in being happy. There are a lot of positives in my life, but I know I could be happier. By losing weight, I will be almost completely satisfied. At such a young age, I want to end my problem now and start my life over. I want confidence, challenges, and experiences that I can look back on when I'm older and smile, rather than regret. My family is planning on going to Colorado and visiting Rocky Mountain National park, and about 15 days ago I decided I want to be leading the family rather then trailing from behind.
  • NewMsT
    NewMsT Posts: 33
    I want to sign up for one, Color Run that is! They've got one in Portland, OR and I am waiting on it! This is our year :)

    My breaking point was always being the heaviest person in the room. I teach in a rural Oregon junior/senior high school and I am always the "chubby" one in the room and it gets old really quickly. I want to change my life and become the healthy science teacher that I know I can be!
  • For me it was a culmination of things - I've been obese for most of my adult life, but about 2.5 years ago my ex left me for a much slimmer and fitter woman, destroying what little confidence I had left and taking all our friends with him. Although I wasn't so upset about the end of the relationship I was humiliated and upset that all our friends had cast me aside. I think part of the reason for that is due to my size. I think he was seen to have 'traded up' and as an obese woman I have no right to complain. I was very depressed and lonely and comfort ate. I gradually got better by learning to appreciate my real friends, taking lots of holidays, doing more fun things, and coming to terms with my new life, but was still overeating. I figured I'm not trying to impess anyone so who cares what I look like?
    Then I went for the annual medical at work and have high tri-glycerides, and pre-diabetes and non-alcoholic fatty liver disease (I don't drink so at least that's one thing I don't have to worry about!) and a whole number of lifestyle related issues that I wouldn't have known about without the tests as they're not affecting my day to day life at the moment, but are lurking there beneath the surface like a ticking bomb. Basically - just as I'm starting to feel better emotionally, I realise this fun new life is likely not to last very long if I carry on down this road! So last year I tried a few things that didn't work, then stumbled across MFP - lost 25 pounds and felt so much better - the daily achievement and having something positive to focus on, feeling in control of some part of your life is worth more than any therapy! However..... I then went on a series of holidays over about 4 months and put all the weight I'd lost back on..... I enjoyed myself though! But Jan 2nd I went back to MFP - started from scratch, new year, new me, lucky 2013..... Doing ok so far.....
  • zoukeira
    zoukeira Posts: 313 Member
    Great thread!

    I didn't have a breaking point re weightloss, I began to lose accidentally (kind of) when I took up dance. I loved it and did it as much as possible and the weight came off. Joining MFP and seriously tracking my calories in and out came about when I went on new medication and was told to expect to put on 10-20kg. That was HUGE I'd just managed to lose 20kg over 2 years and I wasn't going to let it all go to waste. I decided to believe that the medication was only going to make me fat if I let it, and that monitoring what I ate and how I exercised was now imperitive.

    Instead of putting on 10kg (22lb) I've lost another 10kg - in total over 30kg (68lb to be exact) gone!!
  • DesertFox15
    DesertFox15 Posts: 23 Member
    When I realized that I had been chasing the effect instead of the cause. In essence, losing weight was not going to make me mentally tough or miraculously change my point of view. When I realized that I first had to reform my mentality and looked inward, I was able to find the mental fortitude I never thought I had. At that point, and at that point alone, I was able to make a change. Haha, sorry if I went a bit too metaphysical, but that's really what made me change!!!
  • GasnotGas
    GasnotGas Posts: 54 Member
    About 2 years ago I bumped into an old friend I had lost contact with (hadn't seen him for about 4-5 years) he was clearly shocked on how much weight I had put on and mentioned in a jokey way that he didn't recognise the fat me.

    A few weeks later I met up with a load of guys I used to train martial arts with, the same thing happened a few of the guys politely mentioned (in the blokey way) how much I had changed in size.

    I put it to the back of my mind but it wouldn't go away, no denying it, I am overweight, about a year ago I started taking action, I'm still on the case now.
  • MissMdM
    MissMdM Posts: 124 Member
    My ex telling me I was fat and unattractive. Something in me just got pissed. Really mad. Fed up and ready to prove the haters wrong
  • wickedwendy6
    wickedwendy6 Posts: 117 Member
    When my scale read 77.6 kilos in early November 2012. I just stood there thinking "What am I going to do when it says 78? What am I going to do when it says 79? What am I going to do when it says 80?!?!" So I decided there and then to take steps to get healthy and fit again. Now I'm at 69 kg. :happy: Short term goal - 66 kg. Long term goal 60 kg.
  • delonda1
    delonda1 Posts: 525 Member
    My breaking point was looking in the mirror and realizing I HATED MYSELF and hated taking pictures...my bf was cheating on me and I was looking at the girls and realized, they were thin. I wasnt.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    I don't think there was any one thing. My whole life was just a wreckage and I woke up one day with some energy and decided to put right the easiest thing to fix, which was losing weight and getting healthy.

    But I do remember not long before that (or maybe it was even after I started, I don't remember) I was grocery shopping and I heard this teenage girl tell her boyfriend, "She looks like my mom."

    Granted, I'm old enough to have been her mom, but I still didn't like it because I have never looked my age before. Pretty sure that motivated me for some good old fashioned vanity reasons.
  • casy84
    casy84 Posts: 290 Member
    I didn't have a scale for years, but the day I got one and it showed me 72kg changed everything. After a few weeks spent in denial I made a plan and stuck to it. I'm now at ~57kg and I'm not going to stop until I get to my highschool weight of 54. I'm motivated by the fact that I'm getting close to 30yo and I want to enter my next decade looking hot.
  • littlecrystal
    littlecrystal Posts: 110 Member
    I had many breaking points. In fact I have been “on diet” for the last 5 years, and despite of that I have not lost weight, because either I yo-yoed, or lost commitment. I have seen my friends losing a significant amount of weight over this time, and I have not lost anything – felt so bad.

    Not exactly a breaking point, but I had two dreams (nightmares) lately - that I met two of my most obese friends and they were slim. One of these friends, she said, is actually trying to lose weight. I have not seen her for several months now, and I will only meet her in about 3 months. I would not be able to live with myself if she lost weight and would be slimmer than me.

    So, some sort of fear is fuelling me this time.