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maggs155
maggs155 Posts: 258
edited January 12 in Chit-Chat
Do u think its wrong to like compliments if u are married????

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  • missmarymcmcmc
    missmarymcmcmc Posts: 78 Member
    Absolutely not! Everyone loves compliments!
  • weightedfootsteps
    weightedfootsteps Posts: 4,349 Member
    Not at all!!
  • maggs155
    maggs155 Posts: 258
    What if its not the same sex???
  • weightedfootsteps
    weightedfootsteps Posts: 4,349 Member
    I think it doesn't matter unless you are planning to act on those compliments. Its not like you are going to go around with a sign on you saying "I'm married, Don't compliment me". Just enjoy them, thank the person and that's the end of it.
  • DJHudgins
    DJHudgins Posts: 172
    Not one bit. Even though you are taken when you are married, and know your spouse is attracted to you (and vice verse), liking compliments from another person is natural :). Nothing wrong there. Even though I am not yet married myself (will be in a few months though), I will still give and hope to receive compliments to many :).
  • KimLovesDon
    KimLovesDon Posts: 152 Member
    Nothing wrong with liking to get compliments, that's part of being human. It's what you do after receiving them that determines right or wrong.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    compliments are always nice. actual pursuing is where it can get ugly.
  • pseudomuffin
    pseudomuffin Posts: 1,058 Member
    Nothing wrong with liking to get compliments, that's part of being human. It's what you do after receiving them that determines right or wrong.

    This :)
  • jamie610811
    jamie610811 Posts: 1,735 Member
    ^^^^

    this
  • benol1
    benol1 Posts: 867 Member
    Do u think its wrong to like compliments if u are married????

    Absolutely not!!
    You can enjoy them guilt free.
  • missmarymcmcmc
    missmarymcmcmc Posts: 78 Member
    I guess it also depends on the type of compliment. Meaning if it is of a Personal nature. Ex: speaking of certain body parts, etc. That would be sort of inappropriate.
  • __stacyb
    __stacyb Posts: 306
    Nope! I'll take and like compliments from either sex, but I like giving them more :)
  • Doingitforme72
    Doingitforme72 Posts: 90
    Absolutely not. Like people said before, it's nice to get complements from anyone.
    I'll even go farther and say I wouldn't be upset if someone complemented my wife. it makes her feel good. Happy wife... happy life. Also, it makes me feel better as that I have this gorgeous chick with me. Cuz God knows that she is WAY out of my league. lol
  • tjohn034
    tjohn034 Posts: 163 Member
    I think it doesn't matter unless you are planning to act on those compliments. Its not like you are going to go around with a sign on you saying "I'm married, Don't compliment me". Just enjoy them, thank the person and that's the end of it.

    This ^^^
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Nothing at all wrong with getting compliments from either sex. Just smile and say thank you. As long as you don't wind up in bed with them, it's all good.

    Surely your spouse knows you are attractive and may get compliments.
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    I sense some back story...

    Compliments, okay.

    Flirtation, not so much.
  • zealousmissjj_wechange
    zealousmissjj_wechange Posts: 445
    It depends I guess on the person and relationship. I for one don't mind a compliment (and even a little flirtation!) every now and then. Don't we all need a little ego-boost every once in a while?
  • ACepero79
    ACepero79 Posts: 711 Member
    Being married doesn't mean anyone needs to shut themselves out from the opposite sex. That's ridiculous.

    My wife is a beautiful woman. She receives compliments from men ALL the time. No harm done.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    I sure hope not.

    Who doesn't like compliments? I still want to be attractive to the opposite sex. I'm married, not dead.
  • mswize
    mswize Posts: 113 Member
    I sure hope not.

    Who doesn't like compliments? I still want to be attractive to the opposite sex. I'm married, not dead.

    I definitely agree with this! Plus I am a complimenter, I've never actually thought I shouldn't compliment someone who is married.
  • SteveJWatson
    SteveJWatson Posts: 1,225 Member
    Depends on the compliment, surely?

    "I like your haircut/shirt/new shoes etc" : Fine

    "Nice *kitten*" : not so fine.
  • newbe_2007
    newbe_2007 Posts: 404
    nothing wrong with it
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    "Liking" compliments from the opposite sex, or "seeking" compliments from the opposite sex?
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I agree with the sentiment behind Patti's question. Certainly, you are not at fault for being pleased by a compliment. But when you start engaging in certain behaviors because you know they will elicit compliments from certain people, that's when there's a problem.

    There is something about the "harmless flirtation" aspect of the male-female dynamic ... men are naturally charmed by certain feminine qualities, and vice versa, and I don't think there is anything wrong with enjoying and celebrating that. For example, I like when a man opens a door for me and gives me a wink when I walk through. I simply smile and say thank you. No harm done there. If I wink back or do something else to encourage more forward behavior from him, that's wrong because I am in a relationship, and my boyfriend trusts that I am not out seeking romantic attention from other men.
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