getting married help!!

jessicanicolelemons
jessicanicolelemons Posts: 15
in Health and Weight Loss
ok, i have been dating the most wonderful guy for a year now and we decided to get married within the next two months..very short notice to lose the xtra pounds..i have to lose at least 15 but around 25 would be great..i have a bad habit of having a couple of beers at night to help me sleep..the reason bein i lost my girls in a custody battle a year ago..although im supposed to get to see them every wkend, he has not let me see them since thanksgiving. anywho the beers help me get a good nights sleep..i tend to eat mostly healthy otherwise..any and all suggestions and tips are welcome and very much appreciated! thanks!

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  • melsinct
    melsinct Posts: 3,512 Member
    Dropping 15-25 pounds in a month or two when you only have 50 to lose total is a pretty unrealistic goal. Many people use life events like weddings, reunions, or beach vacations to change their diets but you need to give it time. I am sure you didn't pack on the extra weight in a month, so you certainly won't lose it in that time. Start eating less, exercising more, and you will lose *some* weight in that time frame. You just have to be grounded in reality that a 25 pound drop is unrealistic.
  • graceylou222
    graceylou222 Posts: 198 Member
    Yes, aim for a realistic goal! I'd said 10 lbs would be the most.
  • krissy_krossy
    krissy_krossy Posts: 307 Member
    Honestly it's not a very realistic goal if you want to be healthy about it. Why not just aim for having a more healthy lifestyle by the time you get married?
    Also, I'm not one to lecture, but having a few beers at night to get to sleep doesn't sound like a very good way to handle your grief (even totally excluding the calorie side of it.)
  • jasonp_ritzert
    jasonp_ritzert Posts: 357 Member
    I agree with the others here. Start adopting the healthier lifestlye now and incorporate it into your marriage. BTW, studies have shown that alcohol consumption before bed may actually inhibit your body to rest as well as it possibly can, so you may want to try and stay away from it every night and see how your sleep may improve.
  • Buckeye_Fittie
    Buckeye_Fittie Posts: 64
    I would set a realistic goal of around 10 pounds.
    Also, if you plan to workout in the evenings, they might fatigue you enough that you won't need the beers to help you sleep. Just a thought...
  • jessicanicolelemons
    jessicanicolelemons Posts: 15
    Dropping 15-25 pounds in a month or two when you only have 50 to lose total is a pretty unrealistic goal. Many people use life events like weddings, reunions, or beach vacations to change their diets but you need to give it time. I am sure you didn't pack on the extra weight in a month, so you certainly won't lose it in that time. Start eating less, exercising more, and you will lose *some* weight in that time frame. You just have to be grounded in reality that a 25 pound drop is unrealistic.
    Thanks for the reply.. i really dunno how much total i have to lose. i havent weighed myself in like six months lol..just havent had access to a scale..oh and i am 5'3" and if i had to guess my weight i would say between 155 and 160. i usually dont workout AT ALL so im sure that would make a big difference in the weightloss..any suggestions for a beginner?
  • ExcelWithMel
    ExcelWithMel Posts: 192 Member
    If you can, give up the beer for awhile.
    If you're going to drink the beer, calculate how many calories in that beer, and work them off through exercise each day. Then it will be a wash and you should be able to drop some of those lbs. for your wedding.
  • ames105
    ames105 Posts: 288 Member
    Exercise will help a lot. You may not be able to shed as much weight as you would like in the time you have given yourself, but you will be able to tone up and look smaller if you exercise. Especially if you can replace the beers with the exercise, I'm sure you know the beer is going to keep you bloated.

    Itt sounds like you have been going through some difficult emotional times so exercise is a good outlet for anger/stress/depression. It will help. It might help you sleep too. Even walking is a good outlet.

    Good luck to you and congrats on the upcoming wedding!
  • lesspaul
    lesspaul Posts: 190 Member
    Wow. In just a few words you have said volumes. First of all, like the other poster's have said, your weight loss goal needs to be more achievable. Shoot for no more than a pound a week.

    Second of all, if you can afford it, get your buns to a counselor, there is a lot more going on here than unhealthy eating habits. You are going down a road that ends with a big crash. You are self-medicating a pain with alcohol, and not only is that going to sabotage your weight loss, but it can potentially sabotage your life.

    If you should choose not to get professional help to deal with the pain of losing your children, you need to find your own way of sleeping better that does not involve alcohol. Sominex or some similar over-the-counter sleep aid would be a better choice than drinking. If you can't give up the beers, you have a larger problem.
  • jessicanicolelemons
    jessicanicolelemons Posts: 15
    I would set a realistic goal of around 10 pounds.
    Also, if you plan to workout in the evenings, they might fatigue you enough that you won't need the beers to help you sleep. Just a thought...
    Thanks for replying..I definatly need to put the beer aside i do realize that..i have never been a very active person but i do know i need to do some kind of activity everyday..any suggestions? thanks again for the advice
  • GC2B
    GC2B Posts: 168 Member
    I'm getting married in 3 months, congratulations to you
    Firstly, not to preach but cut the beer and if u need to see a doctor about sleeping.
    You may find alot of bloat is caused by the beer and dropping that alone will make a difference to your figure.
    Work on posture too, the way someone carries themselves can make a difference.
    I'm 5'2 currently 140lb. MFP has me at 1200 to lose 0.9lb a week. Of course dropping big numbers a week qould be marvellous but it wont happen and it wouldnt be healthy either.
    Find some exercise you can do, anything.
    I think if you are focused a 10lb lose and some toning up is indefinitely achievable

    Good luck xx
  • erinsueburns
    erinsueburns Posts: 865 Member
    I got married a couple of years ago, and it was actually at my heaviest. So I'll tell you what goes through my mind now when I see those pictures. It is "I am so glad I didn't kill myself trying to shed weight like crazy for my wedding, because now I will never be one of those women who refuses to pull out her wedding photos because she will never be that thin again." Also, weddings and the planning of them are stressful enough without adding unrealistic goals to them. I am not saying you shouldn't lose weight, but make it a realistic goal. And if you are having that much trouble sleeping, I would suggest seeing a physician and maybe in the short term trying something pharmaceutical and basically calorie free.
  • akaMrsmojo
    akaMrsmojo Posts: 762 Member
    I take Valerian Root or drink Valerian Root tea when I have trouble sleeping. It helps give me a restful sleep. I certainly understand the beer and you need it, I would just look for low-cal beer like Budweiser 55.
  • TomKat428
    TomKat428 Posts: 30
    Be realistic and don't put too much pressure on yourself. Your fiance obviously thinks you're gorgeous as you are and can't wait to spend the rest of his life with you. Focus on that and live a healthy, balanced lifestyle the next couple of months. Be kind to yourself and try to see yourself the way he sees you. The rest will fall into place. Congratulations!!
  • tpt1950
    tpt1950 Posts: 292 Member
    Take a melatonin (natural hormone) supplement to aid in sleeping and get rid of the beers - you are sabotaging yourself!
  • LemonMint6
    LemonMint6 Posts: 76
    I would set a realistic goal of around 10 pounds.
    Also, if you plan to workout in the evenings, they might fatigue you enough that you won't need the beers to help you sleep. Just a thought...
    Thanks for replying..I definatly need to put the beer aside i do realize that..i have never been a very active person but i do know i need to do some kind of activity everyday..any suggestions? thanks again for the advice

    Great ways to get started on fitness:

    http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/12/09/beginner-body-weight-workout-burn-fat-build-muscle/
    http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2012/11/01/morning-mile/

    These are workouts anyone can do, even with no knowledge.

    After I did this for 7-10 days I wanted to do more! :)

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