i want to gain because i feel embarrased

rhodesbr
rhodesbr Posts: 48
in Health and Weight Loss
This is probably a silly question but I joined here to gain. I'm happy with myself in that I feel like I'm healthier than my friends but I feel embarrassed because I look frail standing next to most people. Im 6'5" 140 , I know that's small but is that wrong for being the reason I want to gain. And also that my 12 year old nephew weight 10 lbs more at 5'1". Lol
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  • nornyb
    nornyb Posts: 224 Member
    I think wanting to gain is a very realistic goal for you if you are looking to gain muscle. Concentrate on getting your calories from healthy sources and get to the gym to build that muscle.
  • brtrentgl
    brtrentgl Posts: 130
    That's a good question. Most people want to lose weight because they feel big compared to others so it can be the other way around also. My boyfriend is in a similar situation he feels healthy but thinks he's puny around others. Just do what feels right
  • GuybrushThreepw00d
    GuybrushThreepw00d Posts: 784 Member
    You want to gain some muscle, man??? GOOD, THATS REAL GOOD.


    In all seriousness. Go look at NerdFitness. They have some good stuff about bulking.
    You'll want to be doing no cardio, lots of weightlifting (http://stronglifts.com/ is really good) and eating A LOT! If you're not sure how much to eat, work out your TDEE then add 250cals. Start there are see.
    Give it time, and it'll happen
  • kelly101386
    kelly101386 Posts: 389 Member
    Never feel embarrassed about that!!
  • rhodesbr
    rhodesbr Posts: 48
    That's a good question. Most people want to lose weight because they feel big compared to others so it can be the other way around also. My boyfriend is in a similar situation he feels healthy but thinks he's puny around others. Just do what feels right
    really I'm happy with myself but don't know if I'm doing it for the right reasons
  • jacksonpt
    jacksonpt Posts: 10,413 Member
    Nothing wrong with wanting to gain... lots of people on here are trying to gain muscle, which is great.
  • brtrentgl
    brtrentgl Posts: 130
    Nothing wrong with gaining more muscle, just be healthy
  • BamBam125
    BamBam125 Posts: 229 Member
    I'm happy with myself but don't know if I'm doing it for the right reasons

    Well, if you feel uncomfortable with your body, you should have the right to change it. If you're unhappy with how slim you are even though you are healthy, I think it's perfectly reasonable to want to gain a bit in an equally healthy way. Do what makes you happy.
  • cljabusc
    cljabusc Posts: 48
    although some people lose/gain weight for health and fitness, a lot do it just to look a certain way. Im fit but I want to be smaller, you're fit and you want to be bigger. looking a certain way can be a big motivation too and there's nothing wrong with that.
  • crystalflame
    crystalflame Posts: 1,049 Member
    That's a good question. Most people want to lose weight because they feel big compared to others so it can be the other way around also. My boyfriend is in a similar situation he feels healthy but thinks he's puny around others. Just do what feels right
    really I'm happy with myself but don't know if I'm doing it for the right reasons

    There is no "right reason" - while a lot of people are trying to improve their health by losing weight, a lot of us are doing it to look good naked. Same thing applies to if you want to gain. You can gain for more strength, better looks, more confidence, better health, whatever - it doesn't matter what your reason is, just that you have one, and that you would consider doing this an improvement to your body.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    That's a good question. Most people want to lose weight because they feel big compared to others so it can be the other way around also. My boyfriend is in a similar situation he feels healthy but thinks he's puny around others. Just do what feels right
    really I'm happy with myself but don't know if I'm doing it for the right reasons

    You gotta want it!

    If you are healthy and happy, why would you?
  • estrange22
    estrange22 Posts: 210 Member
    My husband is 6'2 and about 135....feel no shame in yo gain!
  • reasnableblonde
    reasnableblonde Posts: 212 Member
    My husband is a couple inches taller than you and apparently was always very, very thin growing up. Before he met me, he started lifting at the gym because he was tired of how he looked/felt. I don't think he was necessarily UNHAPPY with himself... he just knew he could look even better. He started lifting weights, getting more protein, and actually got a lot bigger.

    I love to cook, so when I came into the picture, his diet got a lot better too, which helped his physique. Now I'm reaping the benefits *touches fingers together dramatically*...

    Your reason for being here is a perfectly good one. Check things out, see if you like the direction you're headed, and give it an honest effort. You might like what you end up with!
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,420 Member
    If you feel a need, any reason is a good reason.

    Self esteem is tied to a lot of things, one of which is how we feel in relation to others. I think you look good the way you are - and I'm sure your friends do, too. But it is about what YOU think. You will find you actually have a boost in your mood if you start getting more protein, more food in general, and start working out.

    It's really common for younger men to still be very slim. Unless you do some weight-lifting, it is just your natural physique. Luckily we all look a little different - what a boring world if everyone were built exactly the same!
  • benflando
    benflando Posts: 193
    GAIN BROTHER!
    Shovel food into your mouth like no other.
    It will be hard to keep a clean bulking diet because of the limited calories.
    Limit your cardio and lift some weights.
    You have a lot of potential to gain.
    EAT EAT EAT EAT EAT EAT EAT
  • g0tr00t
    g0tr00t Posts: 192 Member
    Friend of mine was in your place. Best thing he did was consult a doctor and worked up an exercise and meal plan. Worked out great for him. Blood work every 3 months and monthly 'check ins' to make sure all was ok and the gains were coming on.

    Do yourself a favor, work with a professional :bigsmile:
  • BonaFideUK
    BonaFideUK Posts: 313 Member
    Figure out your TDEE then add around 200-300 calories. Figure out a weekly lifting routine. Throw a bit of cardio in there but not too much. You'll see results.
  • rhodesbr
    rhodesbr Posts: 48
    My husband is 6'2 and about 135....feel no shame in yo gain!
    lol thanks
  • sbailey27
    sbailey27 Posts: 36
    6'5" 140 . You could gain a little lol
  • rhodesbr
    rhodesbr Posts: 48
    6'5" 140 . You could gain a little lol
    hopefully about 40 lbs
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    I hate being taken. :grumble:
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    I would say consult with a physician before doing anything. Just to make sure your weight isn't medically related to anything.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Aaaaaaaaand deactivated. My help is no longer needed here
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    OP deactivated. :ohwell:
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    TROLL

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  • SmileyFaceGuy
    SmileyFaceGuy Posts: 201
    I don't get it. Was what he said intended to be inflammatory?
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    I'll say this about that. Many people use avatars that are similar to them now or similar to their goal. He wouldn't be the only person here posting under a meme
  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    TROLL

    broscience-2_zpsca60683d.jpeg

    How did you find that so quickly?

    I wonder what reaction the troll was hoping for :ohwell:
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    I'll say this about that. Many people use avatars that are similar to them now or similar to their goal. He wouldn't be the only person here posting under a meme

    He said it *was* his pic on his other thread re his arms.
    I'm trying to gain muscle all over but what are the best exercises to increase the size of my arms? My new profile pic shows how bad I need some muscle.
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    TROLL

    broscience-2_zpsca60683d.jpeg

    How did you find that so quickly?

    I wonder what reaction the troll was hoping for :ohwell:

    I have it saved and ready to 'go' in photobucket so I recognized it.

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