So my bf wants to take me bikini shopping...

Erisad
Erisad Posts: 1,580
in Motivation and Support
Last night my bf says out of the blue, "Hun, have you noticed you lost a ton of weight?"

I reply, "Yes, it was intentional." Like how could I not notice? I know what he meant though. I have lost about 40 pounds since we met a year and a half ago.

He comes back with, "We need to go bikini shopping."

Honestly, I still have a little bit of a jelly belly and not sure how good I'd look in a bikini. He says I have a toned belly and I'd like to have his vision checked. I've been overweight all my life and honestly I'm having a hard time shaking the "fat girl" mentality out of my head. So I figure I'll accept his offer and go try on some bikinis when they start popping up in the store, which should be soon as the stores are always a season ahead on EVERYTHING. :P

That being saaaaid, does anybody know what style of bikini would look good on an petite hourglass lady? Or where is the best place to shop for one? I'd need a little bust support too. I'm between a 14-16 at the moment. I don't really want to spend a fortune on one either. Thanks for the help in advance! :)

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  • leilaphoenix
    leilaphoenix Posts: 839 Member
    He wants to take you bikini shopping and you are considering saying no?? Do it.
  • Goosiesnougs
    Goosiesnougs Posts: 420
    :my opinion ...and it's only that! If you feel like you still have a "jelly belly" you are only going to be self-conscious in a 2 piece that shows it off. Maybe a tankini.....or one of the retro bikinis like Katy Perry wears that come up high? There are tons of flattering suits, but I think your "friend" may want to get into your knickers :embarassed:
  • 88meli88
    88meli88 Posts: 238 Member
    Oh my god, I laughed so hard "have you noticed you have lost 40 pounds???" ummmmmmm Yeah to bikinies that said, i would never go clothes shoppiing w my significant other....those lights in the dressing room are pretty terrible....you could mail order a bunch, try them on at home, and show him the ones that really flatter you....you would have much more control over the expereince that way....
  • beskimoosh
    beskimoosh Posts: 375 Member
    If my finace offered to buy me clothes, I'd be all over it! Sounds to me like he wants to show you off :smile:

    If you're not comfortable with your stomach, you could try a 50's style high waisted bikini? With a halterneck top, it'll draw attention to your waist instead of your stomach, and you can get ones with control panels for the bit of extra tummy support.
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    He wants to take you bikini shopping and you are considering saying no?? Do it.

    I probably will...if nothing else than to say "See, I told you I look bad in theeese?" But he'll probably still say I look good. He even offered to help with the extra sunscreen I'll need since I'm so deathly pale. :P
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    :my opinion ...and it's only that! If you feel like you still have a "jelly belly" you are only going to be self-conscious in a 2 piece that shows it off. Maybe a tankini.....or one of the retro bikinis like Katy Perry wears that come up high? There are tons of flattering suits, but I think your "friend" may want to get into your knickers :embarassed:

    ...um, since he's already my boyfriend I think I know that. :laugh:

    But yeah, I'll probably look for something high waisted.
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    Oh my god, I laughed so hard "have you noticed you have lost 40 pounds???" ummmmmmm Yeah to bikinies that said, i would never go clothes shoppiing w my significant other....those lights in the dressing room are pretty terrible....you could mail order a bunch, try them on at home, and show him the ones that really flatter you....you would have much more control over the expereince that way....

    Yeah, I'll probably go in by myself and just send pics to his phone. "Yes, no, OH GOD NO! I'm not even sending a pic so don't assssk!" :laugh:
  • tapdance66
    tapdance66 Posts: 29
    I struggle with wearing a bikini even thought I've lost a lot of weight. I understand about "jelly belly," because that's how I feel even though my husband also says it looks good. I agree with some of the other posters. A higher waisted bottom (I was even lucky enough to find a pair of bottoms that are similar to shorts which I am totally comfortable running around in on the beach - playing frisbee, etc) and a halter top. Both allow me to get some sun on the tummy, but also make me feel like the parts I'm sensitive about are covered up and not going to pop out.
    If he's buying, go for it!! You might have to try some different styles, but it's a great reward to rock a bikini after working so hard to drop the pounds!! :smokin:
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    If my finace offered to buy me clothes, I'd be all over it! Sounds to me like he wants to show you off :smile:

    If you're not comfortable with your stomach, you could try a 50's style high waisted bikini? With a halterneck top, it'll draw attention to your waist instead of your stomach, and you can get ones with control panels for the bit of extra tummy support.

    Probably. Since his family invited me to go to the beach this summer, he wants to show them he has a cutie pie. :)

    Oooo, I like tummy support! :D

    I have to go to work, I'll be back in about 10 hours, play nice everyone. :)
  • Goosiesnougs
    Goosiesnougs Posts: 420
    BF....I'm so stupid!!! I thought Best Friend!!! LOL
  • Lifting_Knitter
    Lifting_Knitter Posts: 1,025 Member
    The are a ton of cute bikinis out. I actually just picked out one for myself the other day. <
    hence the picture. I would try on any at you think are totally cute and find your favorite from there. This one was my favorite. One will speak to you.
  • tricksee
    tricksee Posts: 835 Member
    let the fat girl mentality keep you on your toes but don't let her take over! throw that b1tch in the back seat and allow the CONFIDENT you take the reins!!

    go bikini shopping as much as you can and continue with the loss, you're fantastic!!!

    boom!!!!!
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    The are a ton of cute bikinis out. I actually just picked out one for myself the other day. <
    hence the picture. I would try on any at you think are totally cute and find your favorite from there. This one was my favorite. One will speak to you.

    I got this funny image of some kind of divine bikini speaking to me, "try me on, it is your DESTINY!" Lol
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    BF....I'm so stupid!!! I thought Best Friend!!! LOL

    Lol it's cool.
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    let the fat girl mentality keep you on your toes but don't let her take over! throw that b1tch in the back seat and allow the CONFIDENT you take the reins!!

    go bikini shopping as much as you can and continue with the loss, you're fantastic!!!

    boom!!!!!

    Thanks. I gotta keep that in mind. I will go when the time comes...in the meantime I am up the ab exercises :-P
  • fervc6064
    fervc6064 Posts: 77
    Pictures
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    Pictures

    Um....I may post some depending on how the trip goes. It won't be for a while yet though. I will probably post it in one of those bikini pic threads that pop up every now and then. :-P
  • DixiedoesMFP
    DixiedoesMFP Posts: 935 Member
    Get a spray tan or some sunless tanner....you won't look cute under dressing room lights if you're deathly pale
  • 777Gemma888
    777Gemma888 Posts: 9,578 Member

    That being saaaaid, does anybody know what style of bikini would look good on an petite hourglass lady? Or where is the best place to shop for one? I'd need a little bust support too. I'm between a 14-16 at the moment. I don't really want to spend a fortune on one either. Thanks for the help in advance! :)

    I agree with the suggestion of a 50s style suit. Another cut you can consider are hipster cut (boy shorts) bottoms. You could also choose a monokini for variety (eg. Herve Leger Cross Front Bandage Monokini Suit). There are some flattering tankinis on the market too(eg La Blanca - Has a peeping belly, but not too much where you may get self conscious). And with a proper bikini(even high waisted as recommended above), consider coveralls. Have fun with it and enjoy shopping with your man.

    ETA: boy shorts.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Take it as a compliment. My wife always makes a point that I repeat. String bikinis are the most flattering because they are so adjustable you can basically "put them" where you want them.

    Enjoy.
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    I saw some ADORABLE bikinis at Victoria's Secret last week. The good thing about them is that most of them had underwire and a little padding for extra support.
  • mahanaibu
    mahanaibu Posts: 505 Member
    Just adore those clueless men...but he clearly loves you and is thrilled about what you've been doing.

    Take a look at modcloth online Lots of different types of suits, and you can mix and match the tops and bottoms. More modest styles are in now, so you can get a bikini top and a full-brief-style bottom. Or all kinds of things.

    For support, those bandeau tops with straps have worked great for my DD-cup daughter. they have the bikini look, they minimize, they support, they're very flattering.

    and congratulations on your stunning accomplishment!
  • KirstenTheFamilyCoach
    KirstenTheFamilyCoach Posts: 327 Member
    I've been thinking about maybe venturing into bikini territory myself this summer. Your post motivated me to look into what I might be willing to wear:

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  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I usually get bikinis from a store called La Vie En Rose Aqua (but I don't know if that is just a Canadian store).

    Congratulations on your weight loss, btw. :drinker:
  • Corruptkitten
    Corruptkitten Posts: 157 Member
    I've been thinking about maybe venturing into bikini territory myself this summer. Your post motivated me to look into what I might be willing to wear:

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    This is what I was going to suggest. Order it online and surprise him once you are comfortable?
  • dorothytd
    dorothytd Posts: 1,138 Member
    Kohl's has a decent selection if you go early enough in the season. If he wants to take you shopping, let him! And be confident - men see us as a package; they don't notice every flaw like we do. So don't point them out! Have a great time. (Then go back and buy the one you really want!) :smile:

    Congrats on your terrific loss!
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    I've been thinking about maybe venturing into bikini territory myself this summer. Your post motivated me to look into what I might be willing to wear:

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    Ooooo I like those!
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    Get a spray tan or some sunless tanner....you won't look cute under dressing room lights if you're deathly pale


    Yeeeah I have had bad experiences with spray tans. Streaks everywhere! Besides I like being pale, I just gotta apply sunscreen every hour on the hour to keep my Nicole Kidman skin. :-P
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    Kohl's has a decent selection if you go early enough in the season. If he wants to take you shopping, let him! And be confident - men see us as a package; they don't notice every flaw like we do. So don't point them out! Have a great time. (Then go back and buy the one you really want!) :smile:

    Congrats on your terrific loss!


    That's a good way to put it....I will try not to harsh his vibes with my nitpicks and keep my answers to yes or no.

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