Am I being rude if I...

I don't think it's rude at all...you have to put yourself first! Just explain to them that you are really trying to lose some weight and that u have to eat healthy. If they care about you and your well being they will understand
Lauren
P.S.- I also have a friend who is a fast food junkie..and she DOES get irritable when I order a salad or whatever. I think she's jealous...lol

OH! I got another idea for the playdate thing... do a BYOF "bring your own food" picnic! lol Could be fun....just sayin..lol

You are not being rude. Just let people know that this is your choice. There are times I bring my own food. I also have an aunt who is celiac and she is constantly bringing her own food (even to a community dinner, she just explains that this is her dinner and she can't eat the items being served).

As for the fast food....I ran into this issue a couple of years ago and I brought my own food. If anyone asked me why, I told a little white lie and mentioned that I got sick eating the fast food. My stomach can't handle it.

I know most places now have healthier options, so that makes it easier, but who wants to eat a salad when everyone else is eating a hamburger. So I would bring my own pattie. I didn't have any problems.

I don't think you are being rude at all!! I think you are serious about getting healthy and being VERY smart about it! I can't even tell you the reasons why exactly but when I was 10 I just decided that I wasn't going to eat red meat, pork, or dark poultry anymore...and haven't since. I had a REALLY bad addiction to pop (Mountain Dew and Dr. Pepper were my fav's) and when I was 18 I just stopped completely. I now am almost completely organic and VERY VERY rarely will I eat chicken breasts (pretty much the only meat I have had in the last 20 years)....my point is that I have had a lot of cookouts and lunches and parties, and I have received a lot of questions and strange looks and so on, but I have to stay true to who I am and what I feel is right for my body. I do bring my own food sometimes, other times I eat before or after, and other times I find the "good for me" stuff and just have that. I have found that if you are real with your friends and explain to them why this is so important to you, they will be supportive (and if they are not...that is their issue, not yours!!!)

As far as the play dates go...why not decide to do picnic lunches? You could both bring your own, and this way not only are you going to stay on track, but your kids will eat healthier too (always a big bonus!!) If she wants fast food for her and her kids, she certainly can still go to a drive thru and then meet you somewhere for a picnic at a playground or whatever.

You are doing GREAT!!!!! Hang in there, don't get frustrated!! Be true to yourself, you family, and your fitness goals!!!

BLESS YOU!!!

Nope - not rude at all... I do it all the time.

I have a friend who "thinks" that she knows how to eat healthy...but doesn't really get it. We play cards with them all the time and she's gotten used to me bringing food to her house. If we're having hamburgers, I bring some turkey burgers to throw on the grill. I bring hummus and veggies. I bring some bottled water. I've even brought my own fruit. She doesn't take offense - though she's asked me several times if what I'm eating is REALLY that much healthier than what she made... at which point I pull out food labels and show her the differences. And I explain to her that while one high calorie meal may not ruin everything - for me, I try to save those "less healthy choices" for times when it's a REALLY unusual special occasion or when I simply have no other choice.

I agree with the picnic lunch idea for the playdates. This is the time when you need to stand up for what's best for your kids... happy meals are not best for them. If you're making the stand for yourself... make the stand for them too!

I don't think its rude, if they are your true friends, then they will support you all the way. Sometimes if i know i'm going to a BBQ and know theres not going to be anything low calorie, i'll try and eat just before and then bring something healthy to the BBQ like a salad or something and snack on that.

As far as the lunch and playdates, i agree, a picnic is a wonderful idea. Perhaps you can invite them back to your house for lunch and the little ones can continue with their playdate. Good Luck and good for you!

If packing your own meal is what you need to help you have self control; then you have to do what you know you have to do. You are not being rude at all. For me this is the first time in my life that I am taking care of me. You are more important than what they think, Love yourself and keep taking care of yourself. Research before you go. Do you have an IPhone and the MFP app? I love it, it is so helpful. I can enter what I am about to eat and it will tell me what is in it. Then its up to me to make the right choice. This is my first week, my husband thought I was being rude and going on FB or texting friends, but now he knows I am looking up calories. Salad is very safe its the dressing that is high in calories. Allot of Restaurants have the calories posted. I also have heard it is a good idea to ask for a to go box and put half your food away to take home. Just remember You are taking the first steps in loving yourself and you matter. I think the park is a great idea and sounds fun, the kids will love it.

I think you should bring your owe food also to the cookout. Or get some exercise in before going or ask your friend to go for a walk once you get there. Or take a plate and put your food on it and only allow yourself to fill it once. No grazing.

As far as the playdate pack a picinic lunch and bring it along. Just tell her money is tight and you are trying to feed your family more healthy.

You can do this! You need to look out for you. If you don't who will?

I don't think it's rude, exactly but you might want to reconsider. The thing is that you're going to be faced with these issues for the rest of your life. Dinner out with friends, family picnics, celebrations etc. You need to learn how to cope with them now and in a way that you can sustain for the rest of your life.

Do you really think that for the rest of your life you're going to take your own food whenever you're invited? Also, candidly, I think it makes people uncomfortable.

I would advise instead that you take a healthy dish as a contribution to the meal. Then eat mostly your healthy dish and have a small, controlled portion or one or two other things there. Practice control. Put together a plan and then you'll know that you can handle the situation in the future rather you've had time to plan for it or not.

As for eating out. Same thing.....put together a plan. At just about every restaurant you can make optimal choices. Stay away from the appetizers and bread. No cream, cheese, butter sauces. Make a choice for something grilled and a veggie salad. Drink water or diet drinks. etc. Again, come up witha strategy that you can use forever.

Just a thought. Have fun and good luck!