Need help motivating hubby

rockerbabyy · February 2013

So i think last night, hubby hit his "low point"... he went to get on my new scale and was over the weight limit. he pulled the old one out and was too embarrassed to actually tell me his weight for a good 15 minutes. He's always been very muscular and carried his weight well, but his pants are starting to not fit and hes having a lot of foot pain and issues with his kneee. i asked him last night what he wanted to do about it, and he said he didnt really know other than going to the gym again. he hates counting calories (and i dont blame him, it is kind of a pain) but said he would start watching his snacking and portions. then gym has been difficult to get to lately.. im 7 months pregnant and my dr doesnt want me doing much more than walking.. he usually doesnt get home from work until 7pm or later and then we have dinner and put the kids to bed. we used to go 3-4 times a week after the kids were asleep (his dad lives with us and keeps an eye/ear on them while we're gone). he works 10 hour shifts and i know hes tired when he gets home and ive been more tired lately and we just make excuses to not go.
hes very discouraged that he now has 100 lbs to lose... ive been there and i know how rough it is to start but im not sure how to help encourage him without being the nagging, pushy wife. he has made some changes recently (stopped drinking soda, switched to tea/sweet tea etc) but im really worried about him. ive told him in the past that im worried and that ill do whatever it takes to help him without nagging, but we both have been lazy lately and so i havent even really been able to lead by example

dmpizza · February 2013

Its great he is interested. He possibly eats too much. Have him honestly calculate what he usually eats. Not to track, but da an example. Best of luck to you

KansasCowgirl · February 2013

Lead by example. Preaching won't do any good. YOU need to get up and get active. Cut the crap out of your diet. Who does the grocery shopping? If there's no junk in the house, you can't eat it.

Do you have a Wii? Not even kidding, get the Gold's Gym Cardio workout. I do the boxing every day. I did it through my entire pregnancy as well. Go for a walk with the kids. Play in the back yard. And eat a LIGHT DINNER since he doesn't get home until late. Going to bed 2 hours after eating such a late dinner is KILLING your metabolism!

Once he sees you making these changes and having success - he'll join you. And use your kids for motivation. You both want to be around for a loooooong time, you don't have the right to ruin your bodies and leave those babies too early.

Cherbear67 · February 2013

Tell him to not get discouraged..Counting calories could be a good thing.. I didn't do it for the longest time and the last few months I started to track everything I put in my mouth.. I was to say the least shocked and now tend to chose better things to eat and even measure my food...I have a hard time getting to the gym myself but even if he is tired when he gets home tell him to even take a short walk before dinner or even after...

Having you as his support team is the best thing as well.. Just be there for each other and it will happen..Tell him you want him to be there for you and his children for a very long time..

Good luck to the both of you..

bikermike5094 · February 2013

My wife told me I could trade my current motorcycle in for a 2013 Harley Davidson Ultra Limited....... If I lost 80 lbs. So we wrote up an agreement on a cocktail napkin while having dinner at TGI-Fridays and my kids signed it as witnesses. That was 2 years ago.. but I still have the napkin and I'm down 20 lbs since 1 Jan... and she says there was no expiration date on the napkin so you'll be seeing me sporting a new ride this summer...

Frigs · February 2013

I have the same struggles and have finally found that although I love him dearly, it is his responsibility to commit to a lifestyle change. So I started to take care of myself and low and behold he is catching on slowly. I always make sure "HIS" foods are in the house, Chili made, Golden soup make ( french onion without all the cheese and bread ) lots of nuts, Oatmeal in the morning is becoming his lifeline. Slowly but surely he is starting to get motivated because I am motivated. Eating is one thing...and boy he is a toughy..in times of stress and no time breaks out the cereal and milk routine ( left over...gotta get rid of it...YUCK!!! ) Exercise is another issue with him. He seems to use all of his time to volunteer at Boy Scouts or Civil Air Patrol...so I put my foot down.. Either figure out an exercise 3 days a week or I am getting a dog...That was enough to get him now to walk the three miles to Boy Scouts once a week and then I pick him up. Still working on the other two days. We may be getting a dog yet.

Good luck. I truly think he will come around once he is ready and sees the great results you are getting. It's a long journey to change ones lifestyle when it has veered so far off track but as you can see..in just a years time amazing things can happen!

rockerbabyy · February 2013

thanks guys - we do have a wii and i will look into that game.
i know part of it (at least for the last month) was that his mom died in early january..she also lived with us so getting used to that change and the loss has been rough on all of us.
i know i need to step it up too its just so much easier to make excuses lol

Anthonydaman · February 2013

Sad to say, this is an individual choice that one has to decide to do for his/herslf

RobThompson76 · February 2013

Have your husband join up on myfitnesspal! Tracking calories does suck, but my girlfriend and I just got the app and recently joined the gym and hired a personal trainer! I have 100+ pounds I am looking to lose. It may not all be weight that I will drop because at the same time I will be strength training with my personal trainer so it will be turning into muscle! Tell him to add me as a buddy on here and I can help him with his motivation! I see a lot of women on here and not as many men, so maybe it would help having someone with the same goals. We started 3 weeks ago and the clothes are already fitting better!

I work in an office all day and have to go to the gym usually at 7:15pm! Work out for an hour and call it good. 3 times a week is all my PT is asking for in the 1st month. Then we are bumping it up... Its hard work but feels good! I hope that in 1 year I will be where I want to be and your husband can be too! My girlfriends username is: tahvay333 if you want to add us as buddies! Catch you later!

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