Being babied and pampered

jbutterflye
jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
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Are you more of a giver or a receiver?

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  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    i'm a giver.

    i think my wife has tried to take care of me when i am sick, but i feel guilty and usually get up and do what i need to do regardless.
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    Giver, definitely
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
    Giver
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    always been a giver. But I receive a lot now as well. Some balance is pleasant.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,416 Member
    Yes, please.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,979 Member
    I'm a conformer.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Receiver. I'm high maintenance. (I wish that were a joke. It's not.) Not so much the material things - we are too broke to buy milk and cheese in the same week, so it's not like I need someone whose willing to buy the bling. But I'm crazy, occasionally hysterical, sometimes unhealthy, and prone overextending myself. I need someone who 1) has experience with the crazy 2) understands that medications/ disorders/ etc can and will have side effects I have no control over and 3) will be willing to cook for me.

    Every night. I do clean, though. That seems to be appreciated, no matter whom I with.

    Oh, they also must love cats. I'd give up a lover before I'd give away any of my cats.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    Anyone want to come over here and pamper me a bit? Mommy is sick and really tired....
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Giver!
    I'm not sure that to do with it the other way around. Lol
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Both at the same time.
  • mattagascar
    mattagascar Posts: 708 Member
    It depends on who is on top
  • Brianna716
    Brianna716 Posts: 303 Member
    Giver. I like to take care of other people and often put myself last.

    I've moved myself up on the priority list lately... I've been doing better in school and I'm much healthier.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    There's a fetish for this.
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    I guess it can take any form. I was specifically thinking of massages, back scratching, head scratching, caressing, that type of thing. I'm very much a giver. Been told I have healing hands, so I'm always touching, caressing, etc. lol! I love to give massages too.
  • AMYJK7110
    AMYJK7110 Posts: 126 Member
    Honestly I'd have to say I am a taker. I know that makes me sound selfish, but my husband is def. a giver, and likes doing things for me, so I suppose it works out. We've married for 23 years, so something's working!
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
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  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    Seriously, did you have to?
  • bluskies01
    bluskies01 Posts: 72 Member
    Mostly a giver, although when I'm in a relationship I do like to be touched, massaged, hold hands, cuddle, spoon. My main love language is touch. I miss all those things :/
  • Ascolti_la_musica
    Ascolti_la_musica Posts: 676 Member
    i'm a giver.

    i think my wife has tried to take care of me when i am sick, but i feel guilty and usually get up and do what i need to do regardless.

    I *HATE* it when my husband does that! LOL
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Seriously, did you have to?


    Yes.
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    Seriously, did you have to?


    Yes.


    sigh.
  • BeingAwesome247
    BeingAwesome247 Posts: 1,171 Member
    I haven't given or taken anything in a very long time so screw this thread

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  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    i'm a giver.

    i think my wife has tried to take care of me when i am sick, but i feel guilty and usually get up and do what i need to do regardless.

    husband? is that you??? images?q=tbn:ANd9GcS7pEznkq6-epuCmMZEEPnpudzg_7QCQOl5DJ7rMH6KHymhLvzx

    lol.

    i'm the receiver. he is the giver. no apologies. no problems.
  • RobfromLakewood
    RobfromLakewood Posts: 684
    Whenever I meet someone, I put their name on a new ledger. I then make sure I am neither more of a receiver, nor more of a giver, but instead, 100% even. I find this an extremely healthy way to live life, no matter the weird looks I get. Though in truth, I have had to send some people's information to emotional bill collectors.
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    Whenever I meet someone, I put their name on a new ledger. I then make sure I am neither more of a receiver, nor more of a giver, but instead, 100% even. I find this an extremely healthy way to live life, no matter the weird looks I get. Though in truth, I have had to send some people's information to emotional bill collectors.

    Do you keep a spreadsheet? cause that's so hot!
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Whenever I meet someone, I put their name on a new ledger. I then make sure I am neither more of a receiver, nor more of a giver, but instead, 100% even. I find this an extremely healthy way to live life, no matter the weird looks I get. Though in truth, I have had to send some people's information to emotional bill collectors.

    This sounds like a good idea, but two people usually need two different things. My BF doesn't have the same issues I do, thus his attention to me looks different than my attention to him. (He, too, has issues that I do not.)

    I mean, if it were as easy as "I bought one apple, so I'll buy you an apple", that'd be alright, but how do you keep two people even when the things you need will - inevitably - require different efforts and approaches???
  • RobfromLakewood
    RobfromLakewood Posts: 684
    @jbutterflye, I do and I just started a ledger with your name and you owe me an answer to a question.

    @quirkytizzy, I set up the exchange rate, for answering your question, you owe me $2.13, but I'll bill you at the end of the month, I try not to be unreasonable to charge each time, plus my accountant appreciates it this way.
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    Receiver. Definitely.

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