Please help!!!!

My first question is why you let your boyfriend "let" you do anything? Do you tend to try to lose weight through unhealthy means like starvation? Tell him you can handle your own food and then take care of yourself--eat enough, watch your macros, and do a healthy amount of exercise.

I know you said you are agoraphobic, but it sounds like you can leave for work. Treat grocery shopping as work. Accompany him and remember you are doing this for your career and for you. Buy foods you will enjoy that will make you feel good.

Get yourself into therapy to find out why a) you're agoraphobic, b) why you allow your boyfriend to dictate what you eat, and c) why you eat the way that you do. In the process, you will discover things about yourself that will let you evolve into a better, happier person. Much luck to you.

Have you considered asking him to buy a few healthier options so that if you want to eat them you can. It doesnt have to be everything in the house all at once. But maybe if you had a couple options that were healthier for you, he may begin incorporating more healthy foods into the grocery list, for both of you.

If he isnt willing to give you a shot at healthier eating, do it yourself. He cant possible be there for every meal you have, there have to be 1-2 during the day when he is gone. Choose those meals to eat healthy and only eat half of the unhealthy things he makes for the other meal.

You set your diary to 900 calories. Unless a doctor told you to do that, that is not even remotely healthy. I think you need to seek professional help, rather than advice here. I don't say that to be mean, it just looks like you need more than what can be provided by an internet forum.

Sorry, but I third the BF comments? Sounds like you need to lose about 190lbs of man!

Do this for yourself, you can do it!

LOL--190lbs of man. I totally agree.

As far as getting him to 'let you' do things or 'tricking' him, that is hard. Every instinct I have is to tell you that if you have to do any of those things, weight is not your issue.

Quick weight loss--sorry. Quick off, quick back on. However, try to eat things like whole grains, lean protein, low fat dairy. Better choices without being too extreme.

I appreciate your comments about my boyfriend but he's all I have (I have no friends or family). He supports me, I don't make much money so he pays the bills etc. He's a great guy, I'm sure he has his reasons for not 'letting' me. But anyway, can anyone help me with advice about WEIGHT LOSS please? Like, is there a way I can trick him into letting me eat less/healthier. Any really effective diets you know about? Any tips you have for quick weight loss?

I'm sorry sweetie, I really am, but this entire post suggests to me that you really do need someone supportive in the non-internet world to talk to (therapist, spiritual leader, whomever) besides your boyfriend. If you'd like to look into this but don't have health insurance, check the universities around you to see if they offer a low/no cost counseling clinic, call your local united way for referrals to sliding scale professionals.

If you are feeling you need to trick or hide, you aren't in a healthy relationship--either with yourself and food or with your boyfriend (or both.) I wouldn't feel right giving you advice on either your weight loss or your relationship because of this. We just don't know enough about you. I really hope you reach out to someone who can give you better support. I wish you well and am truly sorry you aren't really getting what you were looking for from us. :flowerforyou:

This is something you need to do for you, not the boyfriend who is clearly not supportive and even a saboteur. There are no quick fixes. It takes hard work and determination. You didn't gain weight overnight and you're not going to get thin overnight either. I know everyone says loose the BF, and unless he can learn to be a positive support in your efforts, I'd agree with the rest of the posters.

Plug in to this website. Get connected to people. It really makes a difference. You'll discover a lot about yourself along the way and you'll make friends. And if the BF needs to go, he needs to go. :flowerforyou:

Get yourself into therapy to find out why a) you're agoraphobic, b) why you allow your boyfriend to dictate what you eat, and c) why you eat the way that you do. In the process, you will discover things about yourself that will let you evolve into a better, happier person. Much luck to you.

You set your diary to 900 calories. Unless a doctor told you to do that, that is not even remotely healthy. I think you need to seek professional help, rather than advice here. I don't say that to be mean, it just looks like you need more than what can be provided by an internet forum.

I'm sorry sweetie, I really am, but this entire post suggests to me that you really do need someone supportive in the non-internet world to talk to (therapist, spiritual leader, whomever) besides your boyfriend. If you'd like to look into this but don't have health insurance, check the universities around you to see if they offer a low/no cost counseling clinic, call your local united way for referrals to sliding scale professionals.

If you are feeling you need to trick or hide, you aren't in a healthy relationship--either with yourself and food or with your boyfriend (or both.) I wouldn't feel right giving you advice on either your weight loss or your relationship because of this. We just don't know enough about you. I really hope you reach out to someone who can give you better support. I wish you well and am truly sorry you aren't really getting what you were looking for from us.

Please read these three comments over again and take them to heart. You need to talk with a professional and learn why you are eating this way and acting this way. When you can get to the root of your problems, you can get to be a healthy weight.

Your boyfriend shouldn't be telling you what to eat. You have given him too much control. Eat what YOU want to eat. It sounds like you are ready to make a change and he doesn't get to determine if you will stick to it or not. If he can't behind you getting healthy, then he is not good for you and you should dump him. He is too controlling anyway. I agree that you need to get some therapy to talk through your issues.

I agree with the other commenters that you need to sort out the other issues before you can be successful at healthy weight loss. If you really think that you boyfriend's issues with your eating come from a place of him worrying that you will starve yourself and lose weight destructively, consider getting him on board by asking him to help you plan nutritionally balanced (and calorie appropriate, >1200 cal/day) meals using the MFP calculator. Seeing how you're doing it and understanding your food vs. exercise balance may reassure him that you're not going to do something unhealthy -- particularly if he doesn't currently understand healthy eating as anything other than not starving oneself. If he refuses to support you in a healthy plan, you need to think seriously about why you want to be with someone who is undermining and harming you.

You only need to lose 22 lbs and you're setting your calorie intake at 900?
Here I was thinking you were this really big/obese person by the way you made yourself sound at the beginning.
I don't understand why *some* men feel the need to do that to others. But well... since he is all you have, I would say do things in *moderation* and PLEASE up your calorie intake. You are doing more harm than good to your internal organs when you go that low. I don't care what people say, long term this is killing your body.

There are no quick fixes. Hydrate yourself and if you can't eat healthier, eat in moderation.

Ok so I took a look at your diary and I noticed some things that are missing. So I will help out a little here, like a lot of the posters have already said, the diet needs to change. And diet this even dudes do: High protien low carb diet, this is excellent for burning the calories. Definitely add Veggies to your meal. Remember the mantra calories are not the enemy, your body needs them otherwise it will make everything you eat into fat. Put your calorie meater to something more achievable like 1400 calories (of lean meats and veggies).

Instead of a banana for breakfast eat 2 boiled eggs. Have a piece of string cheese for a snack at lunch have some soup etc. There should be some of these simple foods lying around. Once your diet is level you will notice more energy to want to work out. Feeling like crap because of bad food is normal, you can either use it as a cop out or take control and control what you eat. I know you have a computer, use it to find work out plans that work for you, and whe you dont think you have time, look up the no excuse workout, or workouts you can do before the shower. They are only a few minutes long and pow you just increased your metabolism.

Now there have been a lot of comments about the boyfriend. He can either be the enemy like you have portrayed him or your best support. One thing I have noticed is he is truly worried about you and wants to make sure you are eating, so you dont die. Show him that you understand that but work together to get educated and find a healthy options. Your boyfriend sounds like he is communicating his concern to your welbeing and these measures seems pretty desparate to try to help you. In the end no one is forcing you, you are making the choices.

The longer you take to make changes, the more unhealthy and unhappy you will become. Also hint number one: the first week changing to a strict diet and decent exercise regimin normally gives you a large amount of weightloss and thereafter is about 10% of your body weight a week. Also make sure you are taking your vitamins especially vitamin b

Like, is there a way I can trick him into letting me eat less/healthier.

Buy a dog and slip your food under the table to the dog when your boyfriend is not looking.

Seriously, though, I agree with the many others who think it sounds like you need more help than you can get from an online forum. If your BF isn't helping you be a better person, and from the little you told us he is definetly not or being very misguided about how to help you, then you need a major change.

There are various charities that offer free or fee based on what you can afford counseling services. I think you should consider going.