Please help!!!!

My first question is why you let your boyfriend "let" you do anything? Do you tend to try to lose weight through unhealthy means like starvation? Tell him you can handle your own food and then take care of yourself--eat enough, watch your macros, and do a healthy amount of exercise.

I know you said you are agoraphobic, but it sounds like you can leave for work. Treat grocery shopping as work. Accompany him and remember you are doing this for your career and for you. Buy foods you will enjoy that will make you feel good.

Get yourself into therapy to find out why a) you're agoraphobic, b) why you allow your boyfriend to dictate what you eat, and c) why you eat the way that you do. In the process, you will discover things about yourself that will let you evolve into a better, happier person. Much luck to you.

Have you considered asking him to buy a few healthier options so that if you want to eat them you can. It doesnt have to be everything in the house all at once. But maybe if you had a couple options that were healthier for you, he may begin incorporating more healthy foods into the grocery list, for both of you.

If he isnt willing to give you a shot at healthier eating, do it yourself. He cant possible be there for every meal you have, there have to be 1-2 during the day when he is gone. Choose those meals to eat healthy and only eat half of the unhealthy things he makes for the other meal.

You set your diary to 900 calories. Unless a doctor told you to do that, that is not even remotely healthy. I think you need to seek professional help, rather than advice here. I don't say that to be mean, it just looks like you need more than what can be provided by an internet forum.

Sorry, but I third the BF comments? Sounds like you need to lose about 190lbs of man!

Do this for yourself, you can do it!

LOL--190lbs of man. I totally agree.

As far as getting him to 'let you' do things or 'tricking' him, that is hard. Every instinct I have is to tell you that if you have to do any of those things, weight is not your issue.

Quick weight loss--sorry. Quick off, quick back on. However, try to eat things like whole grains, lean protein, low fat dairy. Better choices without being too extreme.

I appreciate your comments about my boyfriend but he's all I have (I have no friends or family). He supports me, I don't make much money so he pays the bills etc. He's a great guy, I'm sure he has his reasons for not 'letting' me. But anyway, can anyone help me with advice about WEIGHT LOSS please? Like, is there a way I can trick him into letting me eat less/healthier. Any really effective diets you know about? Any tips you have for quick weight loss?

I'm sorry sweetie, I really am, but this entire post suggests to me that you really do need someone supportive in the non-internet world to talk to (therapist, spiritual leader, whomever) besides your boyfriend. If you'd like to look into this but don't have health insurance, check the universities around you to see if they offer a low/no cost counseling clinic, call your local united way for referrals to sliding scale professionals.

If you are feeling you need to trick or hide, you aren't in a healthy relationship--either with yourself and food or with your boyfriend (or both.) I wouldn't feel right giving you advice on either your weight loss or your relationship because of this. We just don't know enough about you. I really hope you reach out to someone who can give you better support. I wish you well and am truly sorry you aren't really getting what you were looking for from us. :flowerforyou:

This is something you need to do for you, not the boyfriend who is clearly not supportive and even a saboteur. There are no quick fixes. It takes hard work and determination. You didn't gain weight overnight and you're not going to get thin overnight either. I know everyone says loose the BF, and unless he can learn to be a positive support in your efforts, I'd agree with the rest of the posters.

Plug in to this website. Get connected to people. It really makes a difference. You'll discover a lot about yourself along the way and you'll make friends. And if the BF needs to go, he needs to go. :flowerforyou:

Get yourself into therapy to find out why a) you're agoraphobic, b) why you allow your boyfriend to dictate what you eat, and c) why you eat the way that you do. In the process, you will discover things about yourself that will let you evolve into a better, happier person. Much luck to you.

You set your diary to 900 calories. Unless a doctor told you to do that, that is not even remotely healthy. I think you need to seek professional help, rather than advice here. I don't say that to be mean, it just looks like you need more than what can be provided by an internet forum.

I'm sorry sweetie, I really am, but this entire post suggests to me that you really do need someone supportive in the non-internet world to talk to (therapist, spiritual leader, whomever) besides your boyfriend. If you'd like to look into this but don't have health insurance, check the universities around you to see if they offer a low/no cost counseling clinic, call your local united way for referrals to sliding scale professionals.

If you are feeling you need to trick or hide, you aren't in a healthy relationship--either with yourself and food or with your boyfriend (or both.) I wouldn't feel right giving you advice on either your weight loss or your relationship because of this. We just don't know enough about you. I really hope you reach out to someone who can give you better support. I wish you well and am truly sorry you aren't really getting what you were looking for from us.

Please read these three comments over again and take them to heart. You need to talk with a professional and learn why you are eating this way and acting this way. When you can get to the root of your problems, you can get to be a healthy weight.