Being asked how much weight you've lost
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I think it depends on how they ask it. Some people are genuinely curious because they are not used to seeing real people (not TV people) loosing weight (and continue loosing weight). I got used to answering honestly with these people. After all, it's just a number.
Then there are those people who just want to know how "cocky" you are. You can tell those apart by their body language. They are not so impressed. With those people, just say "not enough to brag about".0 -
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I work in retail and my regular customers comment on my weight loss all the time. I don't mind telling them how much weight I have lost but one cutomer comments EVERY time I see him. This gets old. Not only does he ask about my weight loss but will ask me what I weigh and how much more I want to lose. I find this VERY inappropriate. I know he means well but I really wish he would stop!
This!!! My customers ask me all the time how much I have lost, which makes me kind of uncomfortable but I will still tell them because I don't think they mean it in a rude way. Recently some have started asking how much I weigh now, and I still can't believe how many people think this is an okay thing to ask!!!!0 -
I got approached out of the blue a while ago by a woman at the gym. She noticed how I was always at the gym for a few months and could tell I had been losing weight. I was caught off guard a little and I did feel awkward about it but I told her about nearing 200 lbs lost. Her mouth dropped and there was silence. Then she smiled and said I was an inspiration, congratulated me and went on her merry way. I don't go broadcasting it to the whole world but it doesn't bother me anymore.0
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Not rude IMO.0
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I absolutely hate when people want me to pin down a number and most of them wait till they get the answer that satisfies. How am I supposed to remember the last time I saw them and how much I weighed at the time?. I have had many people want me to pin down an exact number and it makes me a bit irritated and uncomfortable. When you have had a life of ups and downs in weight, the last thing you want to do is pin down a specific number. Just leave it at "you look great" and call it a day. I also hate when people mention something every time they see me. That also makes me feel like they really judged me before. It is less than encouraging especially if you haven't lost anything lol.0
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I don't think it's rude because it normally transitions into a healthy conversation.
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How dare they! I hope you gave them the, "WTF" look.0
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I say proudly what I have lost. It is a huge accomplishment and you should be very proud of yourself !!!!0
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People ask, I tell them. People then criticise me for losing it too quickly and only then do I ignore them0
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I agree, it can be awkward depending on the person. With a lot of people it makes me feel proud to tell them how much I've lost. Then with others, I feel judged, and uncomfortable with the idea that they're noticing my body (body issues much?). So when this happens, I just trot out the old, "I'm not going by the scale, I'm going by how my clothes fit." line . No wonder my nose is so big.0
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I say shout it from the roof tops losing weight is a major victor and you should be proud and loud. LOL0
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The exact same has happened to me. Person I barely know at work asking how much I've lost. I'm bad with people commenting on my weight anyway so I did not like it AT ALL! I said "Oh quite a lot."0
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I am very proud of myself for the little weight that I have lost. Most of the time when people ask I tell them honestly and usually they ask how am I doing it. I actually have people that have asked me about it and are now on this site with me as friends. You never know who you would help by telling your story. I think people mean well overall.0
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I always say, "Not enough yet"! as I am not at my ititial goal yet, and I will revise down when I do reach it.
I personally never ask someone that question either. I think it is rude and the number really doesn't matter.
I am proud of myself, but it really isn't anyone else's concern, and the number of pounds is irrevelant to anyone except me.0 -
I'm thrilled when someone notices my weight loss and happy to share my accomplishment! I don't think anyone has any nefarious intent when they ask about it... I've never felt anything but a positive attitude, even if the questions seem a little personal or overly curious. They mean well and it's definitely a compliment!0
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I'm not one to take compliments well, so I have a hard enough time with people telling me I look good. If they start to ask how much I've lost, my typical response is "a lot" or "probably more than you currently weigh". If they really push, I'll tell them.
On the other hand, if they ask "how'd you do it", I'm more than happy to jump on my soapbox and talk about lifestyle changes, eating healthy, and exercise. You'd think I worked for MFP with as much as I praise its benefits to my friends and coworkers. But nobody wants to hear that stuff - they'd rather hear about the latest fad that will let them lose 20 pounds in 3 days...0 -
Personally, I love it when they ask how much I have lost. Then I get to shock the piss out of them with the number. So far, all have been really impressed and have asked how I did it. That gives me the opportunity to share and possibly help someone else decide to change their life. I know that because of the changes we have made in our lifestyle, we have encouraged at least 7 people that we love to change their lives.
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I feel the same way, I started getting asked around 60 pounds. I don't think it is rude, but just makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially since I can say I've lost 100+ and I'm still chubby, lol bc then I feel like they want to fallow up with OH MYSH WHAT DID YOU WEIGH??!!! lol.
But no worries. I'm not doing this for anyone else anyway, I'm doing it for me. I just reply. "Oh, Lots" most of the time.0 -
It doesn't bother me at all. If someone asks, I'm proud to say that I've lost over 2 and a 1/2 stone since January last year :happy:0
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I have mixed feelings about this question. Sometimes I welcome it with close friends and relatives. Other times I feel as if it is an invasion of my privacy. For example, the other day I ran into my ex-boyfriend. He did not ask me how much I had lost but he just commented on : OMG you have lost more. I told him it was rude and walked away. We have not spoken since we broke up and I thought without a hello, how are you. I was shoked by his comment and knowing he was there when I started my lifestyle change.
Where as at yoga, one of the yogis commented on my weightloss. It was one of the most pleasant conversation I have had about my journey. I even told her how much I lost. So for me it depends on who and how it is asked.0 -
I started in May of 2008 and the first year or so or 100 or so pounds I had so many issues I usually wouldn't respond -- can you imagine how much I did weigh to have lost that much. Now I am used to the questions just answer it and go on of course then I get asked how long how fast and ( wait for it ) whats your secret?? When I tell them my secret is not drinking anymore changing my life completely and exercising run and gym for over 10 hours a week they aren't interested anymore and never ask again if we see each other0
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A lot depends on who is asking... if it's the nosey lady who's always sticking her nose in my business or the competitive gal who is hoping it's not as much as SHE has lost., I won't talk about it. If it's someone who seems genuinely interested, then no problem.0
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lol yeah rude or not rude??? I never actually say.....I just say something like...oooo only a few pounds or no just toned up a bit......0
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I think you should be flattered, alot of of the time if people ask its just because there interested and want to be able to loose the same amount0
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Totally depends on who is asking. Someone I know and trust, I might tell. Nosy busybodies, I just smile and say, "A bit." When they push, I just keep smiling and saying, "A bit."
The main reason I don't like telling people is because a number seems to quantify where you are at. I'm close to my goal weight, but not there yet. And if I tell people I've lost over 40 lbs, they tend to say, "Oh that's enough. You don't need to lose any more." For whatever reason, giving out a number tends to open up people to giving you an opinion about how much you've lost or where you should be.
Also, it tends to lead to "How?!" and like others have said, no one wants to hear "Good old fashioned diet and exercise with the help of a tracking app." They almost get irritated or disappointed that you don't tell them what secret, magical pill you must be hoarding to have lost the weight (at a steady and healthy rate over the course of many months, mind you.)
I understand people's natural curiosity. Heck, I've asked the question before. But I tend to find that it comes more from people needing to justify their opinion about you and your health more than a desire to make the change for themselves or just a pure compliment0 -
I never mind, but I am usually first to give the figure, others just say they've noticed I've lost weight. But I am a guy so maybe it's different, plus I am a numbers man and I find it interesting.
I wouldn't take it as rude though.0 -
Again, I have no problem telling people how much I've lost, but when asked how I did it, I look around as if I'm checking to see who might be listening, then motion the person to get closer to me, like I'm going to tell them some magic secret and whisper..." there is a magic formula..... eat less, move more!" And maybe it isn't really magic, but it seems to satisfy them.0
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Slightly uncomfortable, but more flattered than anything that a stranger has noticed. And even if you haven't actually lost any weight, it's still a compliment. I'm ok with it!0
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Wow I never thought someone would see this as a rude question. When I was loosing weight I would freely broadcast to my co-workers how much I had lost to keep them up to speed with my progress, whether they care or not.lol
I did have someone ask me this question once, my answer to him might have been strange though. I said "I don't know because I would have to know what weight I was the last time I saw you (years ago) because my weight goes up and down every year.0
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