why is being healthy such a bad thing?

People feel threatened. When I was in denial about my weight, when I knew I wasn't eating right, I didn't like to hear people talking about eating right or getting healthy. It wes a reminder that I wasn't. I didn't, however, ever say anything out loud.

Ignore them and keeping on keepin' on.

When one embarks on a journey of self improvement, others often take it as a slap in the face. To hyperbolize a little, you are saying you will not eat any more brownies; therefore if they eat a brownie you must think they are a bad person. Therefore you must be brought back down to your rightful place.

Just keep doing your thang and when you reach your goals and stay there they'll be coming to you for advice! (and probably not taking it, but that's another topic, ha)

I'd say that feeling threatened is definitely a huge part of it, along with feeling guilty about their own food choices and whatnot.

In addition, I think that Westerners in general have too often confused decadent food with "The good life," which I suspect is probably some kind of holdover from when it was hard to get enough food to get fat and you couldn't just go buy a bag with 1500 calories for a dollar. :P

I agree! You hear it all the time, might as well eat that pizza, cheeseburger, etc...we're all going to die. Might as well die happy.
It's their choice...honestly, a lot of those foods are starting to lose their sparkle. I love my low calorie dishes I'm discovering. I feel myself not wanting that brownie....tell them they can have your piece

:huh: Friends are always like that.
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I might need to make new friends :grumble:

Anyway, I do believe that they are threatened, but it might not be because of your new lifestyle change. It could be because of the change in general. After all, little things manage to turn into huge deals in the female mind (I can't speak on behalf of the male mind)
When someone in the group changes, the whole group vibration changes as well. Those who changed can't feel the new vibe, they just feel the negativity.

It might not be that they want you to fail, they just don't want you to leave them behind. They might not need a lifestyle change, but when someone changes a lifestyle, they tend to find friends who are within that same lifestyle as well. That is why high school relationships end, it's not that the friendship ended due to lack of love; it was due to lack of consistency.


I never met your friends so I don't know if this is the case. Keep things in perspective though. We all have different versions of fear for the same thing (I could fear clowns because I think they look creepy, you could fear them because you had a a bad experience with one; either way, same fear of clowns, different causes)

Feeling insecure. Next time they comment tell em youve been having a raging case of diarrhea lately and the only thing that keeps you from crapping your pants is your food. People often back off when you say crazy things. When people offer me food I go NO I'm fat enough! They usually quit offering.

It's funny cause me and my boyfriend are both eating healthier and exercising, cause ya'know we wanna live longer and better, not just look better. Anyways, we have this friend named brandon who has been fairly overweight for a while, and has suddenly decided he wanted to slim down. When he see's us eating lean and healthy meals, he ALWAYS makes comments. Meanwhile he will go to the gym once a week and eat a couple pounds of bacon and hamburger meat, and we say nothing about his approach to his weight loss goals.


Maybe they feel threatened, or maybe they just know they don't have it in them to be strong with their diet choices..?
Who knows?!

ive been made fun of too!!! it's hard but you keep strong and in the end all that matters is that you are healthy. In Christmas, I told my brother, I don't drink soda then he gives me one, i forcibly drank it LMAO

ever since i started eating healthy, my friends have all bashed me or made fun of me about it. "you won't even have a bite of a brownie??" "whats wrong with fries!?" i make my lunch at home every day, and they never go a day without commenting on what I'm eating. I've told them its a lifestyle change, not a diet, and they'll thrown that in there too as if I'm suddenly gonna switch back to eating unhealthy. i know what i eat is healthy, so why do they have to push me around about it so much?

Health has so much more involved than just eating. Weight, exercise, rest, stress, environment, risk behavior (like smoking), and genetics all play a part. Many take the idea that just because the eat better, yet ignore the others, that they would be healthier than their peers, but if one of their peers does all of the above and has a brownie or fries (without exceeding calorie limits) then chances are that person may be in better health.
But you are headed in a good direction. It's okay to have a brownie or fries once in awhile. It didn't kill you then and won't kill you now unless that's all you're eating.

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Why can't friends be supportive????!!!!

Sounds like they are insecure about themselves and they are projecting that onto you.. and they aren't real friends in my opinion..

Don't give a damn about what others think or say to you about your choices.. they are YOURS and you are the only person you have to answer to..

I have experienced the same comments. It always comes from people who are overweight and live an unhealthy lifestyle. I have come to the conclusion that they are directing their insecurities onto me.

It is hard I agree... girls are terrible for that and the main reason behind it is jealousy. As long as you aren't extreme with them or you aren't a damper on the party then who cares, theyll' get over themselves. If you get invited for a girls nite bring some healthy brownie bites or something!

fatties gonna fat

Yeah. People want to opt for the easy way out and misery loves company. Just stick with it. They'll get over it when they find something else to feel insecure about

ever since i started eating healthy, my friends have all bashed me or made fun of me about it. "you won't even have a bite of a brownie??" "whats wrong with fries!?" i make my lunch at home every day, and they never go a day without commenting on what I'm eating. I've told them its a lifestyle change, not a diet, and they'll thrown that in there too as if I'm suddenly gonna switch back to eating unhealthy. i know what i eat is healthy, so why do they have to push me around about it so much?

You answered your own question. "Change",

Suddenly you've gone from eating what they eat - which apparently comprises of brownie and fries - to being more mindful, no longer eating these things and furthermore, classifying these foods as unhealthy. Of course they'll "bash" you a little, because you're "bashing" them by all-but declaring their diet - or lifestyle, whatever you want I call it - is wrong.

They aren't at all "jealous" or whatever, they just don't like being insulted.. Remember it's you who's made a change. Not them.

A Healthful Lifestyle is NOT a bad thing! People FEAR those things and People that are different from them. By doing the OPPOSITE of them you are saying very loudly that THEY are living Unhealthy Lives, and that makes people defensive. The thing about being who YOU are is that YOU ARE who You are...BE THAT. In time, as you mature, this type of "Razzing" will begin to bore you and you will begin to wonder why you hang around people who do not support positive thing you do in your life, and you will naturally branch out. Those same defensive people will also criticize you for making new friends and expanding your interests. All I can say is keep on growing, STAY healthy, and find people where your interests are who can support your new Lifestyle.