Eating/exercising at my boyfriends

gcgrl788
gcgrl788 Posts: 30
edited September 21 in Health and Weight Loss
So I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (3 hours apart) which means when I visit him it's usually for a weekend or a few more days than that and I have to stay at his house. Now he does not care what he eats or when he eats it and I usually go along with him when I'm there. The worst part is he usually eats at his worst late at night. It's so hard to watch him eat and not eat anything as well, especially if I am drunk. How can I eat right and even get some exercise in while I'm there? I am on L1D5 of 30 day shred so I will also not be able to do my work out, how could I compensate my work out with some other exercise that's not awkward to do at my boyfriends house (who still lives with his parents). I'm going there this weekend and he will be at work for a few hours two of the days I'm there. I was thinking I could do some abs but I don't know if that's enough.

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  • Eliannasmom
    Eliannasmom Posts: 55 Member
    Go outside and walk or run... then do some abs if there is a lake to walk around that is always a nice thing to do together!
  • dore0021
    dore0021 Posts: 137
    Kind of a broad question.... you have many many options.
    1) Food. Pick healthier options if you go to a restaurant. Eating late at night opt for veggies and dip while he eats other junk food. You could always search for the diet pop cake on here... it's delicious! Search for other snacks too you can munch on that are lower calorie to eat while he's eating.
    2) Exercise. Do you have a gym membership? Go to the gym for an hour each day. Or go outside for a fast paced walk/run?
  • Yurippe
    Yurippe Posts: 850 Member
    Get him to "work out" with you! Ask him to go for a walk, a hike, play frisbee, whatever works. Exercise doesn't have to be a video or in the gym staring at a wall. Find something fun to do outside.

    Guys are very competition driven. Bring 30DS with you and challenge him to work out with you. Tell him how you don't think he can make it all the way though and you might just trick him into it.

    If he is aware that you are trying to watch what you eat maybe he will be more supportive. You could suggest cooking together as a fun activity or even cooking for him to make sure you know exactly what is going into your mouth. If you are already full of good food and he starts snacking on garbage it should be easier to resist joining in.
  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    There's really no reason you can't do the 30DS while he's at work. It's only 26 minutes, right? That's quite a bit of your calorie burn right there. And honestly, I don't mean this to be rude, but don't get drunk! That's even worse for your weight loss efforts, and then maybe fending off those cravings or temptations late at night won't be as bad.

    My boyfriend eats real late as well because he works late and then hasn't eaten since dinner 5 hours previously so for the first couple months we were together, I was eating a LOT and late at night and gained 30 lbs! So, I just had to say if I do stay up, I'm not eating, and if I HAVE to eat, it's going to be something good. Now, I just make a point to go to bed at around 10 and then I don't have to worry about eating at 11, 11:30, TWO o'clock in the morning.
  • Ge0rgiana
    Ge0rgiana Posts: 1,649 Member
    Leave alcohol alone. Not only does it interfere with your training (JM does preach this), it lowers your inhibitions and makes you more likely to do things you wouldn't normally do, like eating junk food.
  • gcgrl788
    gcgrl788 Posts: 30
    Leave alcohol alone. Not only does it interfere with your training (JM does preach this), it lowers your inhibitions and makes you more likely to do things you wouldn't normally do, like eating junk food.






    I know I should leave the alcohol alone but I'm only 21 and he's 22 and usually on the weekends when I am there his friend will go to a bar and we'll join them.
  • spiralgirl71
    spiralgirl71 Posts: 374 Member
    For food:
    I would pack healthy snacks that won't spoil and break those out during your stay. If you can use part of his fridge, even better because you can bring cut veggies or other healthy and low cal options.

    Also, if you decide to drink, be accountable for the calories. That way if you do indulge and you aren't able to work out, you still might be okay on a daily basis. However since it's not great to drink all of your calories, maybe cut back a bit so that if you do snack, you will stay in your calorie range. I don't know how much you would drink but maybe cut that in half and drink slower and nobody will even notice.

    For exercise:
    If you are going to be at your BF house for 2-3 days, workout hard the other 4 of that week. Allow yourself one day off, and that leaves only 1 or 2 to worry about.

    If he's in a safe area, I'd go for a walk or run.

    If he's not, think about investing $10 or so in exercise tubing. You can take it with you and workout in his room or outside with it. It packs easily and can be a great way to get some strength training in.

    For cardio, if you're unable to walk, are you able to do any of the cardio portions of 30DS at his house? Even jumping jacks or something to get your heart rate up for a bit?

    Another idea, is to see if you can find a workout on You Tube.

    Or, find a short workout and memorize it (in case you can't get to a computer or dvd player) I have a DVD called Last Minute Abs. It's 5 minutes long and part of the Hip Hop Abs series. I've actually done the DVD for 30 minutes before by just restarting it. Something like that can even be done without the music because the moves and counts are pretty easy to remember. It doesn't take up space nor is it bouncy where I'd be shaking someone elses house if I were doing it there. Something short like that.
  • Yurippe
    Yurippe Posts: 850 Member
    Leave alcohol alone. Not only does it interfere with your training (JM does preach this), it lowers your inhibitions and makes you more likely to do things you wouldn't normally do, like eating junk food.

    I know I should leave the alcohol alone but I'm only 21 and he's 22 and usually on the weekends when I am there his friend will go to a bar and we'll join them.

    They are not going to kick you out of the bar for only drinking water or diet soda. :laugh: Drink if you WANT to drink, not because you are in a place that serves alcohol.

    Go to the bar with a plan. Example: This drink has X amount of calories and I can fit two of them into today's calorie goal. After that point I will only drink water or diet soda.
  • KristyO
    KristyO Posts: 126
    Girl, I am with you on this one. It is really tough. My boyfriend also does not care what he eats or when he eats it. BUT, you really need to have a conversation with your man about what you need from him to keep up with your own plan. I asked a trainer on the site for some advice about my weekend eating, because I was going way overboard, and he made a really good point which was don't just tell your boyfriend you are trying to lose weight (or be more fit, whatever), tell him WHY. I explained to my boyfriend how important it is for me to reach my goal weight, how it makes me feel so guilty at the end of a weekend when I've eaten too much. We had a really great talk about it on Friday night and when we went to a county fair on Saturday night I said "I really want french fries..." and he said "no you don't" and steered me right past the DOZENS of food stands. I still can't believe we went to the fair and didn't eat anything!

    If he's the right guy for you, he'll understand and help you. And the relationship will be stronger for it.

    ALSO - I agree with others that have said get him into doing something outdoors with you. The BF and I love to ride bikes, play basketball and go to the beach where we swim and go for long walks.
  • gcgrl788
    gcgrl788 Posts: 30
    For food:
    I would pack healthy snacks that won't spoil and break those out during your stay. If you can use part of his fridge, even better because you can bring cut veggies or other healthy and low cal options.

    Also, if you decide to drink, be accountable for the calories. That way if you do indulge and you aren't able to work out, you still might be okay on a daily basis. However since it's not great to drink all of your calories, maybe cut back a bit so that if you do snack, you will stay in your calorie range. I don't know how much you would drink but maybe cut that in half and drink slower and nobody will even notice.

    For exercise:
    If you are going to be at your BF house for 2-3 days, workout hard the other 4 of that week. Allow yourself one day off, and that leaves only 1 or 2 to worry about.

    If he's in a safe area, I'd go for a walk or run.

    If he's not, think about investing $10 or so in exercise tubing. You can take it with you and workout in his room or outside with it. It packs easily and can be a great way to get some strength training in.

    For cardio, if you're unable to walk, are you able to do any of the cardio portions of 30DS at his house? Even jumping jacks or something to get your heart rate up for a bit?

    Another idea, is to see if you can find a workout on You Tube.

    Or, find a short workout and memorize it (in case you can't get to a computer or dvd player) I have a DVD called Last Minute Abs. It's 5 minutes long and part of the Hip Hop Abs series. I've actually done the DVD for 30 minutes before by just restarting it. Something like that can even be done without the music because the moves and counts are pretty easy to remember. It doesn't take up space nor is it bouncy where I'd be shaking someone elses house if I were doing it there. Something short like that.



    Yeah the reason why I did not want to bring my 30 day shred (even though I can fit it into the time he is at work) is because his room is on the second floor of the house and I did not want to shake the house with the jumping jacks or other cardio parts and bother his parents (who are a bit elderly).

    If it's nice I guess I could go for a walk (I'm not that great at running) and even get him to work out with me (since he's been wanting to lose weight too).

    Thanks everyone I guess I just needed some motivation to get through this weekend. I just don't want to ruin everything I've been working at this week!
  • KristyO
    KristyO Posts: 126
    Leave alcohol alone. Not only does it interfere with your training (JM does preach this), it lowers your inhibitions and makes you more likely to do things you wouldn't normally do, like eating junk food.

    I know I should leave the alcohol alone but I'm only 21 and he's 22 and usually on the weekends when I am there his friend will go to a bar and we'll join them.

    They are not going to kick you out of the bar for only drinking water or diet soda. :laugh: Drink if you WANT to drink, not because you are in a place that serves alcohol.

    Go to the bar with a plan. Example: This drink has X amount of calories and I can fit two of them into today's calorie goal. After that point I will only drink water or diet soda.

    I order liquor on the rocks with lots of lime (usually patron). It eliminates the calories that come with the mixer and you get buzzed faster anyway. I'll sip on my drink while everyone else goes through 2-3 beers.
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