Neighbor smoking pot. What would you do?

GhostPack · February 2013

Aww, OP, you didn't like my bait-with-Denny's plan? lol

Seriously though, all pot / smoke debating aside, I do hope that you can get this resolved quietly. It would suck to have your wife lose her business... although, the silver lining in that situation might be that she would consider establishing an out-of-home daycare instead. That way, there would be no pesky neighbors to worry about in the first place.

I think this is a better option. To move the daycare to a out of home daycare. It's difficult controlling neighbors, and usually leads to having a bad relationship with them. Getting a 'real' business location gives you more options.
Less desirable option - If you're in a state that does not allow cannabis yet, let the Mom know you are planning to call the cops if it continues.

perfectingpatti · February 2013

I want to know your secret: how do you isolate all the exhaust emissions from anywhere that your child is?

You must have misread my comment. I didn't say I "isolate all the exhaust emissions from anywhere my child is". I said "I wouldn't put my children in a daycare that was next to car exhaust all day". My secret? You'll be shocked when you realize just how "secret" it is. Ready? I look into the daycare. If it is next to a plant, factory, dump, toxic waste site, or meth lab I don't leave them there. I know. Shocking!

There are a lot of LEGAL activities that are far more dangerous to my child than the neighbours smoking pot outside.

So, that means it's okay to knowingly expose them to "far less dangerous activities"? Why not try your best to protect your children from any and all dangerous activity if it's within your power? As a parent, that's how I roll.

MichelleW2013 · February 2013

I agree to try the Mom, than if nothing is done, call the Police. If the State is against Pot, than your household income is what comes first.
Pot smokers don't care who they offend, they lose that part of the brain when they increase the THC in their blood.
Go with what is right.

meeper123 · February 2013

Everybody is taking this so lightly. Why? You asked him to stop and he told you he didnt care. Her business could get shut down because some pot head *kitten* hole doesnt have respect for hard working people. He doesnt care about you, why should you care about him. call the cops. His mother obviously didnt raise him to respect people. He needs some kind of consequence.

Gah, what is wrong with you people? It doesnt matter if YOU dont think it is a danger for the children. Thats the health inspectors (or who ever) descision.

I dont think its cool to have children smelling pot at a young age. When they get older they will realize what that smell was.

Because pot heads will do anything to defend their position and many, many people fail to recognize that it is ILLEGAL. And so long as it is illegal you shouldn't be freaking doing it outside of your home.

its not in my sate and do you even know why and when it was made illegal? might want to look that up before you get on your high horse lol

I really don't care why it is illegal. While it IS, you shouldn't be doing it out in the open. Why is that so hard to grasp?

I'm not on a high horse. I haven't commented on whether it's bad or not. I have simply stated that it is illegal (and yes in some states it's not but in the OP's state it IS). And while it is illegal you do not have a right to do it out in the open.

really cause you sound like its wedged firmly between your cheeks it was made illegal for racist reason and not to mention it was going to hurt some senators bussinesses are those kids morons oh you bet ya no doubt they are just trying to be cool. He just needs to get some real advice and he isn't going to find it on myfitnesspal :P

foxro · February 2013

Bit of no brainer really. If the activity is illegal and its impacting your business, liberties, freedoms etc., call the police

Pink_Pandas · February 2013

I love how people are like: It's just POT, let them do what they want!

Except smoking pot is illegal.

So these kids are very blatantly breaking the law in their backyard.

If my neighbor was burying bodies in the backyard I'd call the police.
If my neighbor was handing alcohol to their underaged kids in their backyard I'd call the police.

If you're stupid enough to do it in a place where others can catch you at it, you're stupid enough to have the police called on you. Period.

OP: I really hope you get this sorted out. I'd talk to the mom one last time and let her know you WILL call the police if it continues because your wife runs the risk of losing her business and that's not acceptable.

So... you'd rather call the police and risk that event tarnishing your business with an unsuccessful raid / successful bust that spreads rumors about drugs being rampant in the neighborhood and gets EVERY parent to pull their child from the daycare, rather than try to resolve the issue quietly? That seems smart.

I highly doubt that one report would result in a "raid" -- he could just inquire and ask for advice from the police, or ask that they just stop by and place a warning. Its not always some huge flashy show. Most likely just one visit will give them the intimidation factor to just take it inside.

penrbrown · February 2013

Bit of no brainer really. If the activity is illegal and its impacting your business, liberties, freedoms etc., call the police

Exactly. Here's some common sense right here. *shaking my head*

BrownEyeAngel · February 2013

1st talk to the mother and if that doesn't work then call the law.

Midnight_Sunshine · February 2013

Count my vote towards hosing the kids down.

Yuk yuk.

anneerick · February 2013

If I dropped off or picked up my kids to the smell of pot I would be finding a new daycare facility.

Your wife has attempted to reason with the 18 year old and now is risking her business she has worked hard to establish.

Time to phone the police.

Ramberta · February 2013

I love how people are like: It's just POT, let them do what they want!

Except smoking pot is illegal.

So these kids are very blatantly breaking the law in their backyard.

If my neighbor was burying bodies in the backyard I'd call the police.
If my neighbor was handing alcohol to their underaged kids in their backyard I'd call the police.

If you're stupid enough to do it in a place where others can catch you at it, you're stupid enough to have the police called on you. Period.

OP: I really hope you get this sorted out. I'd talk to the mom one last time and let her know you WILL call the police if it continues because your wife runs the risk of losing her business and that's not acceptable.

So... you'd rather call the police and risk that event tarnishing your business with an unsuccessful raid / successful bust that spreads rumors about drugs being rampant in the neighborhood and gets EVERY parent to pull their child from the daycare, rather than try to resolve the issue quietly? That seems smart.

I highly doubt that one report would result in a "raid" -- he could just inquire and ask for advice from the police, or ask that they just stop by and place a warning. Its not always some huge flashy show. Most likely just one visit will give them the intimidation factor to just take it inside.

I dunno, smelling it and witnessing them smoking seems like probable cause for search and seizure to me. The problem with dealing with the police is, you can't actually control their response...

crazytreelady · February 2013

I retake my post back.... Did not know OP asked him to stop.....

In that case, make him a chocolate pie like in the Help, after he has smoked a big one...... His munchiness will cause him to consume the pie and you can laugh while he gets e coli....:laugh: :glasses:

Seriously though, if you asked him nicely, he should have stopped... Or at least moved far far away and used something to kill the smell and smoke.

perfectingpatti · February 2013

really cause you sound like its wedged firmly between your cheeks it was made illegal for racist reason and not to mention it was going to hurt some senators bussinesses are those kids morons oh you bet ya no doubt they are just trying to be cool. He just needs to get some real advice and he isn't going to find it on myfitnesspal :P

What??? :huh:

rosiereally2 · February 2013

Let the police handle it.

rdjamis · February 2013

suggest they should smoke a cigar so the cops wont recognize the smell..! they are on the waY!:laugh:

Midnight_Sunshine · February 2013

it was made illegal for racist reason and not to mention it was going to hurt some senators bussinesses

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Oh man... I love this website.

penrbrown · February 2013

it was made illegal for racist reason and not to mention it was going to hurt some senators bussinesses

Oh man... I love this website.
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Really? Because it just makes me weep for mankind.

ModoVincere · February 2013

order a pizza delivered to his place and join the party.

andeehrdz · February 2013

Is the saying "snitches get stitches" only valid in California?

Realistically, you probably won't get them to stop, even with the cops involved. I don't smoke but even though it is "illegal" weed is such a grey area.

I do think the vaporizer is a fabulous win-win option. It would also give you an up-hand with the neighbors if you ever needed their help with anything, but that's just my laid-back keep everyone happy attitude

*Katt Williams Voice* "Weed is not a drug. It's just a PLANT! It just grows like that!" (sorry! can never help to quote Katt Williams!! :laugh: )

MichelleW2013 · February 2013

Set up the sprinklers... But don't forget to talk to the mom. If she is a teacher, HELLO.... She needs to get a handle on this.

perfectingpatti · February 2013

Is the saying "snitches get stitches" only valid in California?

I can't stand this saying. How can we teach children to speak up when they or their friends are in dangerous situations if they hear adults around them saying this? Ugh.

Pink_Pandas · February 2013

I love how people are like: It's just POT, let them do what they want!

Except smoking pot is illegal.

So these kids are very blatantly breaking the law in their backyard.

If my neighbor was burying bodies in the backyard I'd call the police.
If my neighbor was handing alcohol to their underaged kids in their backyard I'd call the police.

If you're stupid enough to do it in a place where others can catch you at it, you're stupid enough to have the police called on you. Period.

OP: I really hope you get this sorted out. I'd talk to the mom one last time and let her know you WILL call the police if it continues because your wife runs the risk of losing her business and that's not acceptable.

So... you'd rather call the police and risk that event tarnishing your business with an unsuccessful raid / successful bust that spreads rumors about drugs being rampant in the neighborhood and gets EVERY parent to pull their child from the daycare, rather than try to resolve the issue quietly? That seems smart.

I highly doubt that one report would result in a "raid" -- he could just inquire and ask for advice from the police, or ask that they just stop by and place a warning. Its not always some huge flashy show. Most likely just one visit will give them the intimidation factor to just take it inside.

I dunno, smelling it and witnessing them smoking seems like probable cause for search and seizure to me. The problem with dealing with the police is, you can't actually control their response...

Making an inquiry and filing an actual report are two different things. Unless they are just ridiculous all he has to do is ask what the best option would be in his case. The person he's speaking with will either give them a personal opinion (which in most cases is what happens) or some cookie-cutter out of the book response because they just don't care.

My good friend's husband is a cop, and he explained to me once that unless its a very, very small town (or just some redneck morons, in which case is where I live) the marijuana drama is usually put at the bottom of the list. They have much more important things to do than to care about than dumb teenagers. Like sleeping in their car on the side of the road, or doughnuts. Something stereotypical like that.

I guess in all reality it doesn't really matter how we see it. I hope he comes up with a solution that he and his wife are comfortable with.

Ramberta · February 2013

Is the saying "snitches get stitches" only valid in California?

Realistically, you probably won't get them to stop, even with the cops involved. I don't smoke but even though it is "illegal" weed is such a grey area.

I do think the vaporizer is a fabulous win-win option. It would also give you an up-hand with the neighbors if you ever needed their help with anything, but that's just my laid-back keep everyone happy attitude

*Katt Williams Voice* "Weed is not a drug. It's just a PLANT! It just grows like that!" (sorry! can never help to quote Katt Williams!! :laugh: )

As much as I'd like to support this idea, you can still smell the odor of cannabis even with a vaporizer, and it actually makes the 'green' smell even more potent. A health inspector would still be able to detect it if it was happening that close to the kids' playground.

cassiepv · February 2013

the state could potentially shut her down because of the unsafe environment.

Unsafe environment lol

Are you suggesting that having litle kids breathing in pot smoke is somehow safe?

So now they're breathing it in? Come off it.

If you can smell it, then obviously you are breathing it in.
That is about as basic science as it gets.

Yeah, so basic you got it wrong.

^^^bam !

norcal_yogi · February 2013

1. mind my own business...

or 2. join in.

andeehrdz · February 2013

Is the saying "snitches get stitches" only valid in California?

I can't stand this saying. How can we teach children to speak up when they or their friends are in dangerous situations if they hear adults around them saying this? Ugh.

Also, there's a difference between snitching and speaking up, you should be careful when teaching your children that.

Pink_Pandas · February 2013

really cause you sound like its wedged firmly between your cheeks it was made illegal for racist reason and not to mention it was going to hurt some senators bussinesses are those kids morons oh you bet ya no doubt they are just trying to be cool. He just needs to get some real advice and he isn't going to find it on myfitnesspal :P

What??? :huh:

Some of the responses I've seen make me think that maybe there is a reason pot is illegal. Somehow the intelligence of a person drops quite a bit -- then they say things that don't make sense like that. Then people just get annoyed, disturbed and angry. Who needs that? :P

Is the saying "snitches get stitches" only valid in California?

I can't stand this saying. How can we teach children to speak up when they or their friends are in dangerous situations if they hear adults around them saying this? Ugh.

A-f*%&ing-men.

andeehrdz · February 2013

Is the saying "snitches get stitches" only valid in California?

Realistically, you probably won't get them to stop, even with the cops involved. I don't smoke but even though it is "illegal" weed is such a grey area.

I do think the vaporizer is a fabulous win-win option. It would also give you an up-hand with the neighbors if you ever needed their help with anything, but that's just my laid-back keep everyone happy attitude

*Katt Williams Voice* "Weed is not a drug. It's just a PLANT! It just grows like that!" (sorry! can never help to quote Katt Williams!! :laugh: )

As much as I'd like to support this idea, you can still smell the odor of cannabis even with a vaporizer, and it actually makes the 'green' smell even more potent. A health inspector would still be able to detect it if it was happening that close to the kids' playground.

Aw, thank you, I didn't know that

Learn something new everyday. Womp for my idea tho....

Ramberta · February 2013

I love how people are like: It's just POT, let them do what they want!

Except smoking pot is illegal.

So these kids are very blatantly breaking the law in their backyard.

If my neighbor was burying bodies in the backyard I'd call the police.
If my neighbor was handing alcohol to their underaged kids in their backyard I'd call the police.

If you're stupid enough to do it in a place where others can catch you at it, you're stupid enough to have the police called on you. Period.

OP: I really hope you get this sorted out. I'd talk to the mom one last time and let her know you WILL call the police if it continues because your wife runs the risk of losing her business and that's not acceptable.

So... you'd rather call the police and risk that event tarnishing your business with an unsuccessful raid / successful bust that spreads rumors about drugs being rampant in the neighborhood and gets EVERY parent to pull their child from the daycare, rather than try to resolve the issue quietly? That seems smart.

I highly doubt that one report would result in a "raid" -- he could just inquire and ask for advice from the police, or ask that they just stop by and place a warning. Its not always some huge flashy show. Most likely just one visit will give them the intimidation factor to just take it inside.

I dunno, smelling it and witnessing them smoking seems like probable cause for search and seizure to me. The problem with dealing with the police is, you can't actually control their response...

Making an inquiry and filing an actual report are two different things. Unless they are just ridiculous all he has to do is ask what the best option would be in his case. The person he's speaking with will either give them a personal opinion (which in most cases is what happens) or some cookie-cutter out of the book response because they just don't care.

My good friend's husband is a cop, and he explained to me once that unless its a very, very small town (or just some redneck morons, in which case is where I live) the marijuana drama is usually put at the bottom of the list. They have much more important things to do than to care about than dumb teenagers. Like sleeping in their car on the side of the road, or doughnuts. Something stereotypical like that.

I guess in all reality it doesn't really matter how we see it. I hope he comes up with a solution that he and his wife are comfortable with.

The other issue that OP mentioned was that any consequences for the kids might blow back on the mom. Even though an inquiry would be less involved, it could still arouse suspicion for the teacher mom, especially if it's a small area or she works for a large public school. Unless she's encouraging or enabling her kid's use, it wouldn't really be fair to jeopardize her career, especially if she doesn't know about her son's behavior. The main point I've been trying to make is that with the one exception of the mom being a sh!tty parent (which could very well be the case), the best solution is the quietest one, and that means not bringing the police into it at all. But OP will make his own decision that will be best for his wife's business, and that is ultimately all he can do.

RGv2 · February 2013

1. mind my own business...

or 2. join in.

Umm, it is their business because it is affecting their business.

So if the state were going to shut down your source of income due to illegal activities by your neighbors you wouldn't do/say anything? Right.:laugh:

Neighbor smoking pot. What would you do?

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