Neighbor smoking pot. What would you do?

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  • Pink_Pandas
    Pink_Pandas Posts: 27
    I love how people are like: It's just POT, let them do what they want!

    Except smoking pot is illegal.

    So these kids are very blatantly breaking the law in their backyard.

    If my neighbor was burying bodies in the backyard I'd call the police.
    If my neighbor was handing alcohol to their underaged kids in their backyard I'd call the police.

    If you're stupid enough to do it in a place where others can catch you at it, you're stupid enough to have the police called on you. Period.

    OP: I really hope you get this sorted out. I'd talk to the mom one last time and let her know you WILL call the police if it continues because your wife runs the risk of losing her business and that's not acceptable.

    So... you'd rather call the police and risk that event tarnishing your business with an unsuccessful raid / successful bust that spreads rumors about drugs being rampant in the neighborhood and gets EVERY parent to pull their child from the daycare, rather than try to resolve the issue quietly? That seems smart.

    I highly doubt that one report would result in a "raid" -- he could just inquire and ask for advice from the police, or ask that they just stop by and place a warning. Its not always some huge flashy show. Most likely just one visit will give them the intimidation factor to just take it inside.

    I dunno, smelling it and witnessing them smoking seems like probable cause for search and seizure to me. The problem with dealing with the police is, you can't actually control their response...

    Making an inquiry and filing an actual report are two different things. Unless they are just ridiculous all he has to do is ask what the best option would be in his case. The person he's speaking with will either give them a personal opinion (which in most cases is what happens) or some cookie-cutter out of the book response because they just don't care.

    My good friend's husband is a cop, and he explained to me once that unless its a very, very small town (or just some redneck morons, in which case is where I live) the marijuana drama is usually put at the bottom of the list. They have much more important things to do than to care about than dumb teenagers. Like sleeping in their car on the side of the road, or doughnuts. Something stereotypical like that.

    I guess in all reality it doesn't really matter how we see it. I hope he comes up with a solution that he and his wife are comfortable with.

    The other issue that OP mentioned was that any consequences for the kids might blow back on the mom. Even though an inquiry would be less involved, it could still arouse suspicion for the teacher mom, especially if it's a small area or she works for a large public school. Unless she's encouraging or enabling her kid's use, it wouldn't really be fair to jeopardize her career, especially if she doesn't know about her son's behavior. The main point I've been trying to make is that with the one exception of the mom being a sh!tty parent (which could very well be the case), the best solution is the quietest one, and that means not bringing the police into it at all. But OP will make his own decision that will be best for his wife's business, and that is ultimately all he can do.

    I agree with you, I think whatever is most peaceful or quietest is the best way for everyone involved. I wish his neighbors would have just been a bit more respectful. If someone were to ask me instead of just calling law enforcement or jumping in my face I would have thanked them rather than being a jerk.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I would talk to the mother to see if she will be reasonable. Kids are kids and smoking weed really isn't that big of a deal, so it would be a shame for either your wife's daycare to be shut down or the neighbors mother to lose her job. Explain the details and IF she doesn't care or it continues, just go ahead and call the cops. It isn't you or your wife's fault that they can't smoke responsibly.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Call the cops now, I mean they doing something that is not legal and should not be done anywhere near a house with young kids.

    No.
  • fatgirljessica
    fatgirljessica Posts: 44
    My wife runs a home based day care and, a large part of this day care is outside time in our back yard.
    The problem is that the teenager next door and his buddy enjoy smoking pot outside. The smell is strong enough to come into the back yard.
    It is also strong enough to where I can smell it as soon as I get out of my car (approx 50 yards away).
    My wife has talked to the kids (well, 18 years old) and explained that the state could potentially shut her down because of the unsafe environment.
    One parent who smelled the weed has threatened to pull her kid out already.

    It happened again today and my wife went over there to explain it one more time but this time, she said that she was going to talk to the boys Mother.
    The reply was "go ahead and tell her. I don't care".


    So, should I
    1: Talk to the Mom?
    2: Just have my wife call the cops the next time?

    The problem with calling the police is that if word gets around that dope was found in the house, the mother could lose her job as a school teacher and that would suck.

    Suggestions?

    I smoke weed and this is how I would react. They clearly don't respect your wife or their mom so sending her to talk to their mom is not gonna solve anything. They would probably smoke more in spite because they are immature 18 year olds. If you care to, as the man of the house I would let them know that smoking weed or any illegal substance within 10 feet of a daycare will get them more jail time or a higher fine if it gets to the point where police are called. Ask them not to smoke that close to the fence during business hours. If the problem persists the next day and you still don't want to call the police buy your wife incense for outside or start growing lavender. Otherwise call the police on them because they obviously don't care. Don't threaten to call the police, just wait until they are smoking, dial 911 and say I have a day care and my neighbors are doing drugs in their backyard and this is bad for the kids. The mom will not lose her job unless she is the one who is arrested for drugs or unless someone says hey this teacher's son just got arrested for smoking weed. Even if the cops don't get there in time to find the evidence the neighbors will know its not a joke and try to be more discrete (in theory).
  • brandiputney7
    brandiputney7 Posts: 1
    I would go tell the mother - then call the police not so much to get them in trouble but cover your butt in case someone does smell it
  • taylorwaylor
    taylorwaylor Posts: 417 Member
    1) first and then if things dont change call the cops.
  • ajhugz
    ajhugz Posts: 452 Member
    I agree to try the Mom, than if nothing is done, call the Police. If the State is against Pot, than your household income is what comes first.
    Pot smokers don't care who they offend, they lose that part of the brain when they increase the THC in their blood.
    Go with what is right.

    Please don't generalize all pot smokers. I smoke and I am respectful to my neighbors and I care if I offend someone. People don't smoke weed and turn into *kitten*, they are *kitten* first and then become weed smoking *kitten*.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I agree to try the Mom, than if nothing is done, call the Police. If the State is against Pot, than your household income is what comes first.
    Pot smokers don't care who they offend, they lose that part of the brain when they increase the THC in their blood.
    Go with what is right.

    Hooray for negative stereotypes! You clearly know what you're talking about.
  • zumbajheri
    zumbajheri Posts: 200 Member
    MIND MY OWN BUSINESS.
  • leopardjunkie
    leopardjunkie Posts: 149
    If you want to attempt to keep a decent relationship with your neighbors then talk to them first. they are probably not going to stop so maybe ask if they would smoke inside during the hours of operation or somewhere else like inside the house. let them know you have allready talked to the son and there will be no more chances and hold to it. They have to be responsible for their own outcome after that.


    If you have no intentions of keeping a hospitable relationship with your neighbor, than just call the cops and get ready for the fun to begin. Call the cops each time you have an issue :) but don"t except that it will be a pleasurable expereience if the mom is supporting his behavior :) good luck
  • casi_ann
    casi_ann Posts: 423 Member
    Talk to the mother. If that doesn't work, shove the bong up their *kitten*.

    this :)
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    The OP has said he's going to call the mom next door first.
  • wafflesarepancakeswithabs
    wafflesarepancakeswithabs Posts: 3 Member
    I would buy the kids a vaporizer

    this. You could sit next to them and not even smell it

    and then you might as well just go smoke with them. ;]
  • ChrisinGA
    ChrisinGA Posts: 116 Member
    Call the cops now, I mean they doing something that is not legal and should not be done anywhere near a house with young kids.

    Agree!! I would have called the cops the first time. Teens today have no respect for others. I would have gotten an *kitten* whopping if I would have done anything like that...
  • carryingon
    carryingon Posts: 609 Member
    Both 1. and 2. Illegal is illegal. Maybe some time in county jail will be a learning experience for them. I know people who have benefited from their stays there. If the mom doesn't know, she should. Those are her children. On top of that you both have a responsibility to the children in your care and their parents who trusted you. There is also the question of your families livelihood. I wouldn't want that mom to lose her job either, especially if she's a single mom. However, if it comes down to her or your wife losing income the answer is obvious.

    I have turned my neighbors in a few times while I was living in an apartment building. I was pregnant and had small children. I have a legal right not to have to take my children or unborn child through that stench. One family was warned with no affect and then evicted. The other family learned to stuff a blanket around their door.

    Good luck!:flowerforyou:
  • ajhugz
    ajhugz Posts: 452 Member
    If you want to attempt to keep a decent relationship with your neighbors then talk to them first. they are probably not going to stop so maybe ask if they would smoke inside during the hours of operation or somewhere else like inside the house. let them know you have allready talked to the son and there will be no more chances and hold to it. They have to be responsible for their own outcome after that.


    If you have no intentions of keeping a hospitable relationship with your neighbor, than just call the cops and get ready for the fun to begin. Call the cops each time you have an issue :) but don"t except that it will be a pleasurable expereience if the mom is supporting his behavior :) good luck

    Why should he care about keeping a decent relationship with these kids when his wife has already spoken with them twice and they don't care? I understand making sure the mom is aware but chances are her awareness isn't going to stop them.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    If you want to attempt to keep a decent relationship with your neighbors then talk to them first. they are probably not going to stop so maybe ask if they would smoke inside during the hours of operation or somewhere else like inside the house. let them know you have allready talked to the son and there will be no more chances and hold to it. They have to be responsible for their own outcome after that.


    If you have no intentions of keeping a hospitable relationship with your neighbor, than just call the cops and get ready for the fun to begin. Call the cops each time you have an issue :) but don"t except that it will be a pleasurable expereience if the mom is supporting his behavior :) good luck

    Why should he care about keeping a decent relationship with these kids when his wife has already spoken with them twice and they don't care? I understand making sure the mom is aware but chances are her awareness isn't going to stop them.

    He was talking about the relationship with the kids parents.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Both 1. and 2. Illegal is illegal. Maybe some time in county jail will be a learning experience for them. I know people who have benefited from their stays there. If the mom doesn't know, she should. Those are her children. On top of that you both have a responsibility to the children in your care and their parents who trusted you. There is also the question of your families livelihood. I wouldn't want that mom to lose her job either, especially if she's a single mom. However, if it comes down to her or your wife losing income the answer is obvious.

    I have turned my neighbors in a few times while I was living in an apartment building. I was pregnant and had small children. I have a legal right not to have to take my children or unborn child through that stench. One family was warned with no affect and then evicted. The other family learned to stuff a blanket around their door.

    Good luck!:flowerforyou:

    So much wrong with this.
  • poesch77
    poesch77 Posts: 1,005 Member
    Ask him to share
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    I would buy the kids a vaporizer


    Hhahahahaha, sorry that just brings me back
  • agirltoremember98
    agirltoremember98 Posts: 24
    Talk to the mom before the cops.
  • poesch77
    poesch77 Posts: 1,005 Member


    Please don't generalize all pot smokers. I smoke and I am respectful to my neighbors and I care if I offend someone. People don't smoke weed and turn into *kitten*, they are *kitten* first and then become weed smoking *kitten*.


    Haha! This is awesome.
  • sally_jeffswife
    sally_jeffswife Posts: 766 Member
    maybe try filing a harassment order saying you have talked with them and they keep harassing you by lipping off and refusing not to smoke near your daycare property. It may be hard if they are real close neighbors if their residence is near you but they could get somewhere on paper they can't come near you or they can't smoke within so many feet of your home then atleast.
  • ajhugz
    ajhugz Posts: 452 Member
    If you want to attempt to keep a decent relationship with your neighbors then talk to them first. they are probably not going to stop so maybe ask if they would smoke inside during the hours of operation or somewhere else like inside the house. let them know you have allready talked to the son and there will be no more chances and hold to it. They have to be responsible for their own outcome after that.


    If you have no intentions of keeping a hospitable relationship with your neighbor, than just call the cops and get ready for the fun to begin. Call the cops each time you have an issue :) but don"t except that it will be a pleasurable expereience if the mom is supporting his behavior :) good luck

    Why should he care about keeping a decent relationship with these kids when his wife has already spoken with them twice and they don't care? I understand making sure the mom is aware but chances are her awareness isn't going to stop them.

    He was talking about the relationship with the kids parents.

    oooooooh gotcha
  • MrsFlotron
    MrsFlotron Posts: 39 Member
    Talk to the homeowner. Asking them to smoke inside is a reasonable request.
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    This is your business and it's a livelihood so the kid needs to take it seriously, if they aren't the first option is to speak to the parent and give a deadline for the occurrences to stop. If it hasn't stopped by the given time then call the police every time it begins to smell that way. Just like any business you have to do what you have to do to keep it running.
  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    MIND MY OWN BUSINESS.

    it becomes their business when their income to feed their family is as stake...
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
    It's just pot...
    Just nag the mom of the kid to make sure they smoke it indoors. :/
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Talk to the homeowner. Asking them to smoke inside is a reasonable request.

    Or to do it in a room with a carbon filter exhaust, or with a vaporizer, or to cook and eat it, etc etc etc.
  • 2ht2hand1e
    2ht2hand1e Posts: 116 Member
    I suggest moving to somewhere that you have more space from neighbors. I wouldn't be able to smell smoke from my neighbors' backyard, and we do have neighbors.
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