Sometimes I hate certain people......

Sorry that you went through that crap! Glad to hear that you are not going back to him. He does not deserve you as a client.

My gyno is like my therapist, it's such a personal relationship it HAS to be better than that.

This is so me! Except I have a midwife. She is completely awesome and very sensitive to my needs never a jerk about anything. 100% there when needed.

If he has other doctors that work in the same office, then I would put in a formal written complaint. Then exploit him all over the internet on all the websites that you can leave feedback from your visit with him. Then I would contact your insurance company and explain that you were not seen correctly and that he can not charge for improper medical care. Then I would ask his office for a refund for my co-pay and if they don't refund you, tell them that you will call all the tv stations and let them know the whole story.

Sorry, I hate certain people too! And they can't get away with that!:devil: :explode: :mad:

im sooo sorry that happened to you that really sucks. what a jerk!!! i cant believe him... or any doctor that would do that in general. what the hell? i thought they would compliment you for your great effort. and completely ignoring the real reason you went there for not... what you are doing...

two different thing... >.<

Change your doctor. that the best choice... by far... dont let him discourage you. you are wonderful beautiful girl and i love having you as my friend you are so pretty and got that lovely smile with your glasses i just adore you ♥

What an awful, awful man and doctor!! I am glad you will not be going back to him and if there was anyone you could report him to I'd say go for it! What an *kitten*, you totally did not deserve to be treated like that.

Keep doing what you are doing honey and discard all the negative people and stay positive.

((HUGS))

Your young, so you haven't had time for your skin to thicken a bit.......but I bet your MOM wishes she had been there

Doctor's are weird in the weight loss issue department.I think they feel their words fall on deaf ears.

I have been going to my PCP for 25 years. He knew me when I was an unhealthy 99 pounds, and has treated me all the way up to 175. Nary a word about my weight gain!!

Not ONCE did he say "Jeannie, you are reaching an unhealthy weight, which will cause you problems as you age. Here is a diet to follow. Eat more fruits, walk 2 miles each day and drink plenty of water!"

What he did say is, "Her is a script for your high cholesterol........your joint pain.......you GERD........your IBS...........here is another for your depession.............your sleeplessness.............your anxiety..........." Pills pills and MORE pills!!

So I go to him for a 6 month follow up for cholesterol meds. He walks in :noway: walks out and calls the asst. Walks back in and looks at the chart the entire time I am :happy: :happy: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :happy: :happy: I had lost 30 pounds and did not need a refill on any scripts!!

He says "Great job, keep up the good work Jeannie, you are doing everything right!!"

I am so sorry your doctor did not take the opportunity to build some rapport with you. To share in your success........and encourage you to continue on this path.

Grea job hon!! I for one am very very proud of your new life choices!!:flowerforyou:

Your doctor should have congratulated you on your progress thus far and your new helathier lifestyle & asked if there was any way he cold help you in the process. I would defintiely make a complaint to the clinic and look for another doctor.
This was years ago, but I went to a very obese doctor with a nervous tic. My baby was about a year old and the healthiest baby you ever saw ( little rolls of chubs!!) I was a young mother and the doctor lit into me about how I was ensuring my young son a life of obesity. I think he blamed his mother for his problems. My son is 30 years old now, not a bit overweight, never has been once he lost his baby fat and thirty years later I still remember how terrible I felt from the words of that one doctor.
I never returned to that doctor again and since have always keep shopping around until I found the msot caring compassionate physicians. You deserve the best.
Congrats on your weight loss so far. :flowerforyou:

Yes, switch doctors and write a letter to his office explaining why you are switching dr's. writing the letter might be therapuetic too.

Yes, switch doctors and write a letter to his office explaining why you are switching dr's. writing the letter might be therapuetic too.

This.

Make the letter 'constructive' rather than aggressive though. If you come out with a load of negative energy they are more likely to ignore you, say you like the surgery but after being treated that way you feel you can no longer attend there. And perhaps look for a higher authority that you can send a copy of the correspondence to as well.

As I said in another thread, it shouldn't be 'hidden' from people that they are fat, but getting abused about it is just so wrong.

It is okay for your doctor to want you to be healthy but pushing the issue, after you have recently lost 11 lbs was too much. Yes, he is a doctor but you are paying for his services and, if he is not providing the service you are paying for, then take your business elsewhere and get a new doctor. Maybe, after he loses enough patients, he will understand that people need compliments more than complaints and a little compassion and customer service can go a long way. Yes, doctors do need to provide customer service too! It is hard enough to go to your annual OBGYN appt and spread it and bear all infront of him but to take that kind of verbal abuse is insane. He should be more sensitive.

Time to change doctors! If your doctor does not listen to you and does not encourage you then he is not good for you. I have been going to female doctors for 20 years. I find that female doctors listen and have more than likely gone through what you are going through. Good luck!

Think about it... a male doc has absolutely no idea how you feel as a female. Just like I wouldn't see a female urologist. Not a question of sexism, it's just a question of relatability. She wouldn't have my hardware. He doesn't have yours. Good luck finding a better doc! They are out there!

vox779 is right on the money! That fool just wont ever understand you 100%. For too many reasons, please switch doctors :ohwell:

On a more important note.....CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR AMAZING ACCOMPLISHMENT!!!! :flowerforyou: :drinker:

hon, pick a new doc. i work for a large hospital company and before this spent several years working at a the 2nd largest private health insurance company in the US. That type of behavior from a health care provider is rude, unprofessional, and unacceptable. If this doctor was in any way recommended by your insurance company or by another physician i would suggest reporting the incident as well. These kinds of things are taken into consideration when it's time for contract negotiation.

honestly, it sounds like he was not focused on you, didn't pay attention to your chart and may have forgotten that he'd already covered the weight conversation with you. Sometimes when you see a doctor for a first visit or for a well exam, they aren't in a mindset to "treat" and therefore fall back on criteria based counseling. for instance if a patient is over a certain height/weight ratio then he automatically counsels them on weight loss regardless of other underlying issues. he may have looked at your BMI and just started rattling off a lecture out of habit.

As I'm sure everyone else has said, I hope you find a new dr and quickly! No one needs that! You deserve better then that.

I went to my doctor on Wed......let me just specify this is my OBGYN....I'm just going for a yearly. Well I get there and he does whatever and is asking me while he's in the room the first time if I've been getting any exercise and I said yes and he asked if I've been eating right and I said yes and that I've lost 11lbs.....so he leaves the room and comes back and give me a lecture about how I need to be losing atleast a pound a week and goes off on me about my weight.....SERIOUSLY?!?! I understand that! And it's fine if a doctor wants to ask about it but he already knew I was doing something about it AND I am getting results and he still insisted on pushing the issue!!! Implying that he didnt think I was really doing both things because I'd be losing more if I were.... THEN I had super important questions I needed to ask him about my personal stuff and he embarrased me and had shocked me so much by saying that that I had to leave so I could go cry........Why was that okay?? And I even filled out a sheet when I got there that had a list of problems I'm having on it and he didnt even ask me about my problems...he basically just called me a fat *kitten* slapped my self esteem to the ground and totally ignored the reason I went there.......>.< That was a level of discouragement that I could have lived without.

If you can, change doctors. You can do without that. He gave you a lecture in the true sense of the word too - telling you what to do and going on and on and on about it even though you are fully aware of what to do and even better, you are already doing it!

Don't let him discourage you for goodness sake, he sounds like an insensitive bear with a sore head who doesn't listen.

Oh and to top it all, he doesn't even let you air your concerns about your problems.

I hope you find a much more suitable doctor, preferably one that doesn't make you feel worse than when you went in! xxx

I have been going to my PCP for 25 years. He knew me when I was an unhealthy 99 pounds, and has treated me all the way up to 175. Nary a word about my weight gain!!

Hi Jeannie! It's nice to see someone else has a great relationship with their male PCP for 25+ years. It really is fabulous. He's like an old friend and a big part of my life. He is also the doctor for many of my family members. He even attended my father's funeral.

To everyone else... we all have our preferences, but remember not to discount all male docs. Look at the success that Jeannie & I have with our doctors. :flowerforyou: