Seen as one of the "guys"
I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.
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Dont change who you are... if you are being friend zoned by these guys then they aren't meant to be with you.
The right guy will come along who will love that you act like one of the guys but like the female side of you
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I love clothes and high heels and I have long hair but aside from that, I am not a girly girl. I fix my own car, I'm not scared of spiders, I run the money in my house, I am fiercely independent and I am happy to get dirty with sport, or repairs, or anything that needs doing.
But my man still thinks I'm a princess and treats me as one. Because accepting me for who I am is important. And while some of your friends may not see past the 'one of the guys' persona they've placed on you, they're the ones missing out. Don't change who you are because the guy who who will like YOU for you will be worth waiting for.0 -
hey! spiders are scary!
and just be yourself! not all guys like prissy girls. maybe one of your guy friends will realize how awesome you are and take it to the next level! you never know 0 -
men want to date women...maybe you're sending out a more manly vibe? i hate to say it and sound sexist, but if you throw on a little extra makeup, hike up your skirt a little and say some girly things...it will get their attention. ask them to open something for you, or if they are taller than you, ask for them to reach something for you.
don't change who you are, just soften yourself up.0 -
I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.
I am the "best friend guy" too and i tried a lot first to reason with myself n with the 'friends' , why not me...but nobody ever gives a straight forward answer..now i stopped asking why , and get rid of any of those who try to string me along..
don't be confused , be happy
,just be friends if that's what they want, no expectation or special favours ,never change who you are , and when the time n person is right then..
will happen...:drinker: 0 -
Just do YOU, the right guy will come along....and he probably WON'T like sports and stuff! Opposites DO attract. Guys NOR Women want people like them! They are the HARDEST to get along with! Guys only say that when they want a woman to empathize with what they have done...usually something stupid. The most important thing is to get someone who shares your core Values, it is no biggie if when the game is on he is in another room watching PBS or cooking or weight lifting or out cycling... As long as you DO spend time together and any one thing does not take over the relationship.0
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Thanks everyone for the input! I dont have feelings for any of my guy friends, but it just seemed like all the guy friends that I do make, tend to automatically put me in that friendzone.0
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Take your shirt off. Things will change.0
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So if I can gather this correctly...you have a crush on one of your friends?
Seeing as the best relationships tend to be built on friendships, I would say the best way to progress would be to get really drunk and start making out.
The next day, you'll be forced to talk about all the things you should have just talked about in the first place.0 -
Depends on what your aim is. If you are fine with being "one of the guys" then just continue what you are doing.
If you want to be viewed as a romantic interest then you have to start acting like it. Start squealing when you see a spider and come off as slightly vulnerable, guys love that stuff. Limit your sports watching on TV and start doing girl stuff, like getting waxed/mani/pedi/etc.0 -
I fully endorse this post.So if I can gather this correctly...you have a crush on one of your friends?
Seeing as the best relationships tend to be built on friendships, I would say the best way to progress would be to get really drunk and start making out.
The next day, you'll be forced to talk about all the things you should have just talked about in the first place.
And add, don't be so cynical about other women and what they may or may not do. Nobody likes catty. Don't bother yourself with others.0 -
I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.
ALWAYS be who you are. If you act like someone you are not, you will attract someone who like a person that is not like you. Continue to do the things that you like to do and when you meet tha right person it will be while you are both involved in something you have in common. You're only 24; you are in no hurry. I didn't meet the perfect person for me until I was in my mid-30's and we have been together now for 25 years and I can't remember or imagine a time in my life without her.0 -
Man up.0
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dont change yourself!!!0
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So if I can gather this correctly...you have a crush on one of your friends?
Seeing as the best relationships tend to be built on friendships, I would say the best way to progress would be to get really drunk and start making out.
The next day, you'll be forced to talk about all the things you should have just talked about in the first place.
I'm not usually an advocate of alcohol for things like this, but in moderation, yeah.
I would heartly recommend, from bitter experience, not changing yourself to try to be something you're not. Trust me, you'll be happier in the long run.
Also, dating seems to grow out of friendship these days (unless you're using dating sites), so maybe you just haven't found the right "friend-who-wil-become-a-date" yet?0 -
Be yourself yo', the ideal guy is gonna come along and LOVE the fact you're not like every other girl and those kinda relationships are built to last
Your ideal partner should be your lover AND your best friend 0 -
Show up with beer and a big coat...right before the game starts ask them if anyone wants a beer. Take off your coat wearing a French Maid outfit and start serving...bet the guys change their tune!0
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I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.
ALWAYS be who you are. If you act like someone you are not, you will attract someone who like a person that is not like you. Continue to do the things that you like to do and when you meet tha right person it will be while you are both involved in something you have in common. You're only 24; you are in no hurry. I didn't meet the perfect person for me until I was in my mid-30's and we have been together now for 25 years and I can't remember or imagine a time in my life without her.
Great post ^ :happy: I'm 24 as well, sometimes I feel like the time is already running out for love, happiness, etc, it's good to hear that people still find it later in life.0 -
Do not change your ways. There are many men out there who would prefer to have a woman who enjoys sports and isn't so "I can't do things unless its with a man". If they look at you as one of the guys its not a bad thing. Never change for anyone...unless your into hardcore black tar heroin type drugs. Then you should really change your outlook on life.0
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No.
You should sleep with them.
That'll get you out of the friend zone pretty quick . . . .0 -
The problem with most people who complain about getting friendzoned is that they never really asked the other person out. That or they suck at flirting yet expect the other to "pick up the signs". Now, many girls or guys who are more successful with the opposite sex (or same in some cases) are really good at giving signals or are bold enough to ask others out. However, people who get friendzoned are just shy (or wuss) and so what do they do? They act nice. They think that if they first become the persons friend, they'll eventually see what a nice person you are and magically would fall in love with you. Well, they did magically fell in love with you. Like a brother loves his sister. That is it. Its not going to go further.
So man up, ask him out. Tell him exactly what you expect without being forceful. If they say yes, then thats a go. If no, well, now you know where you stand. As his friend only0 -
I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.
ALWAYS be who you are. If you act like someone you are not, you will attract someone who like a person that is not like you. Continue to do the things that you like to do and when you meet tha right person it will be while you are both involved in something you have in common. You're only 24; you are in no hurry. I didn't meet the perfect person for me until I was in my mid-30's and we have been together now for 25 years and I can't remember or imagine a time in my life without her.
Great post ^ :happy: I'm 24 as well, sometimes I feel like the time is already running out for love, happiness, etc, it's good to hear that people still find it later in life.
"later in life." ?? Ouch. That stings a little.0 -
I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.
Let me be clear here, you are not being "friend zoned" because you like sports and don't act prissy. I mean, I'm not entirely sure why you are - because you haven't really provided a lot of information. But there are plenty of guys who love a woman who likes sports and are not prissy. Plenty.0 -
Suey,
You're in the friend zone probably because they truly are your friends. I agree with what a lot of people said here, don't change who you are. Plus you're still a baby, there's no rush (other than the likely event that your parents are wanting you to get hooked up like yesterday).
Just do you, the right guy will come along.0 -
I get "friend-zoned" like that all the time, and I'm seen as the less feminine friend out of my group of girl friends (because I'm so much taller and laid back than everyone else. I've never been the type to get flirted with or hit on by guy friends or classmates. Which is actually nice because I get to have all the real conversations instead of the shallow insincere compliments. Who knows, maybe it's more because I'm so serious and up front, and has nothing to do with my womanly charms. However, my husband thinks I'm perfectly fine the way I am, even if I never wear dresses or makeup. To him I'm still his perfect lady. In fact, I think me being so laid back helps him feel more comfortable and able to relax around me. Though he may be too relaxed with all those dirty clothes on the floor/furniture. lol
The problem isn't being friend-zoned, it's just that you want to find someone who'll appreciate the real you. Don't change, be sincere, and you'll find your perfect someone someday.0 -
Let me just clear the air. I have liked a few guy friends from the past before, but I currently don't have feelings to any of them. Im not trying to bash on other women or anything or make fun of how "girly" they are. Being super feminine is just not who I am. Some of you might imagine me as super butch or something, but Im not that either. I just tend to hang out with more guys because theyre less dramatic than women are. I wear makeup, i go and get my nails done, and I make my hair all pretty too. I love makeup, actually. I was just confused on why guy friends in the past havent seen me as one of the girls theyd go for. From what I know of, when guys see you as a friend, their minds dont really change from that.0
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I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.
ALWAYS be who you are. If you act like someone you are not, you will attract someone who like a person that is not like you. Continue to do the things that you like to do and when you meet tha right person it will be while you are both involved in something you have in common. You're only 24; you are in no hurry. I didn't meet the perfect person for me until I was in my mid-30's and we have been together now for 25 years and I can't remember or imagine a time in my life without her.
Great post ^ :happy: I'm 24 as well, sometimes I feel like the time is already running out for love, happiness, etc, it's good to hear that people still find it later in life.
"later in life." ?? Ouch. That stings a little.
I never said *how much* later :laugh: I come from a family where everyone is usually "settled down" and having kids by the age of 22-27 average, so it's mostly an ingrained concern that I'll never find "Mr. Right". 0 -
Really?! If you were still interested in them, and you opened that door, you might not find that true.I was just confused on why guy friends in the past havent seen me as one of the girls theyd go for. From what I know of, when guys see you as a friend, their minds dont really change from that.
My guess would be you are so comfortable being one of the guys and being friends that you may not make your interest clear and they guys may assume you see them as a friend. Bit of wild guess though not knowing you.
I agree with the others, no need to change and be more girly. I know plenty of not so girly girls, and they have had no problems attracting someone.0 -
I am the epitome of tomboy...always have been (seriously...I've just gotten in the last couple of years where I wear makeup, do my hair instead of just a pony tail, get my nails done, etc...otherwise, I hunt, like sports, drink, cuss, fix crap, cut wood, etc). I think it boils down to making your interest known and whether that other person also feels that spark. You can't make it happen, really.
Be you...you'll find someone who appreciates you for you!0
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