Support/motivation vs judgement/railroading

trudijoy
trudijoy Posts: 1,685 Member
edited January 16 in Motivation and Support
..there is a difference. Some people need to learn it :)

reason 30970985 why i don't have my diary open....

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  • MuddyEquestrian
    MuddyEquestrian Posts: 366 Member
    I think sometimes people like to have motivation in a more "hard core" way. Which to people who don't respond well to that can come across as "judgement/railroading".
  • ToFatToBeSick
    ToFatToBeSick Posts: 113
    Same reason I keep my diary closed. What works for me isn't going to work for everybody.
  • aseymour13
    aseymour13 Posts: 782 Member
    Agree but it seems to me that the real negative comments I have seen are on the boards and not from comments from friends. Some of the comments I have seen on the boards I have almost found disturbing in the tone and nature. Maybe I'm a lucky one who has not had any issue with people I'm friends with.
  • Goddessmaker1
    Goddessmaker1 Posts: 114 Member
    Many here have this self righteous mentality because they have nice bodies most want. Some people are negative periodly and because this is online folks go all in. Sadly I have seen folks be real snarky and not supportive. It has made me delete all my friends here and just use the site to log.
  • d4ggl3s
    d4ggl3s Posts: 11 Member
    My favorites are the backhanded and sometimes not-so-subtle comments insulting fat people.

    Like. Do you not know what kind of website you're on? This isn't AlreadyFitClub.
  • trudijoy
    trudijoy Posts: 1,685 Member
    My favorites are the backhanded and sometimes not-so-subtle comments insulting fat people.

    Like. Do you not know what kind of website you're on? This isn't AlreadyFitClub.

    that and 'well you didn't get fat by not eating enough'. UM WTF?

    If you don't know someones story, you don't get an opinion
  • trudijoy
    trudijoy Posts: 1,685 Member
    Agree but it seems to me that the real negative comments I have seen are on the boards and not from comments from friends. Some of the comments I have seen on the boards I have almost found disturbing in the tone and nature. Maybe I'm a lucky one who has not had any issue with people I'm friends with.

    oh yeah there was only a minor issue with a friend of mine once since i've joined, but yeah some on the boards are brutal for no reason. This was something that came off totally diff to diff people but still got my back up
  • trudijoy
    trudijoy Posts: 1,685 Member
    Many here have this self righteous mentality because they have nice bodies most want. Some people are negative periodly and because this is online folks go all in. Sadly I have seen folks be real snarky and not supportive. It has made me delete all my friends here and just use the site to log.

    yup. theres a lot said on the internet that should stay in peoples heads. It's sad when it creeps into such a positive space as this can be though.
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