Please tell me, I'm not the only one !

donyellemoniquex3 · March 2013

Currently 22 years old, living with my parents rent free (but I pay for groceries) taking care of them and I have my high school diploma.
I want to go to college, and move 1200 miles down south (I'd be staying with my mom's bestie)
When I think of years down the road, I feel as if that it's "the end" and that I'm hopeless.
I don't drive (personal choice) and it's hard to find a job when you want something that'll last more than 6-12 months around here. All the places are like a revolving door with employees.

HELP !!!
Is this a quarter life crisis or am I strange ?

kusterer · March 2013

Sounds a little stuck, or even depressed, which I have a lot of experience with.

Get out! Get thee to an urban place, where no car is normal, and where there are more and different kinds of jobs.

When I was 18 (almost 50 years ago, I can't believe it), I left CT by thumb, up Rt 8 to the MassPike, west to San Francisco. Came back to CT briefly later, but I was by then a different person.

donyellemoniquex3 · March 2013

Bump

NormInv · March 2013

I heard something today on TV: fear and faith are the same thing. You can choose to invite either into your life and they would oblige. Have faith and back it up with action. Have a plan on paper with goals for next week, month, year. Anybody at your age has to work their behind off to get anywhere in life. Be accountable to yourself and go for your dreams. Only you can change your life.

quirkytizzy · March 2013

Quarter life crisis is a good way of putting it. :laugh: I felt that way around that age, too. Just old enough to know I couldn't act like I did when I was younger, too young to know what the hell I was going to do with my life. (I STILL don't know.) It eases. You've got lots of time.

aquaventure · March 2013

Go for it and don't look back. There is a big world out there and so much to experience especially when you are young and single. Your life will move in directions that you never dreamed possible. Do it step by step, day by day and while there is anxiety and fears along the way, don't ever let them rule your life. Oh, to be young again and have your whole life ahead of you is such a gift. At 55 I am still out there exploring and living a life I would never have dreamed. Enjoy it!

77tes · March 2013

Facing grown up life is scary! All my kids have gone through similar times (I probably did, too, but it was so long ago that I don't remember, lol). I'd definitely recommend college if you have a plan. If you're not sure of what you want to do, try community college in your area to find your passion and get some general education requirements out of the way.

Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Alcanta · March 2013

I felt exactly as you are feeling when I was your age.

Change is scary.

20 years have passed ever since. I have had at least a dozen of jobs, my own company for a while, and self-employed professional for almost 10 years.

You never know where you will end up, for how long or whether you will enjoy it or will move on. The only answer is go for it.

The "job for life" "husband for life" "home for life" idea may no longer apply to us.

All the best.

Your age is a difficult one (your are not the only one!)so please if you really feel that something is not right, consult your doctor.

In any case here you will find suppor and sympathetic friends willing to help. Every day. :flowerforyou: