Online Dating - Does anyone EVER read the profiles??

MelodyinGa
MelodyinGa Posts: 202 Member
edited January 16 in Chit-Chat
I've been on match.com since October and it's quite....frustrating! IMHO, it's all about whether or not you are eye candy and I wonder if anyone ever reads the profiles. I don't know...maybe I'm bitter...

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  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    You look hot.
  • MelodyinGa
    MelodyinGa Posts: 202 Member
    You look hot.


    and your love language is words of affirmation! So sweet, but I'm not buying...lol
  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    If I find the person attractive, I read the profile. If I am not attracted to someone, I don't want to go out with them. And I wouldn't want someone to go out with me if they do not find me attractive.

    And just because I may find someone attractive does not mean I am interested. It just determines if I bother reading the profile to decide if I am interested. Most of the time, I am not.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    If the pictures are attractive - yes.

    If I don't find the person attractive- no
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Very interesting article about this exact thing: http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-dating/cupid-on-trial-a-4-month-online-dating-experiment/
  • Rhonnie
    Rhonnie Posts: 506 Member
    I haven't ever signed up for an online dating site, but when presented with similar circumstances (given a picture and a name and you need to click on them before getting more information) there has to be something compelling to make me click - it can be looks/attraction or the composition of the picture itself is interesting (where they are at, what they are doing, some kind of 'personality' coming through). Now, when I say it can be looks/attraction - it doesn't mean they have to be drop dead gorgeous or anything - there just is 'something' there that I'm attracted to. Obviously the picture you chose can be very important because we can look so different from one pic to another and every picture has a 'mood' or 'personality' to it. I look at a picture of myself that maybe is a headshot for work vs me truly smiling/laughing with friends and I look completely different and give off a completely different vibe.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    You look hot.


    and your love language is words of affirmation! So sweet, but I'm not buying...lol

    :P
  • tallgirlshelley
    tallgirlshelley Posts: 108 Member
    If I give a crap enough to message them or before replying to someone I may be interested in, I definitely read the profile. I understand you can't retain every ounce of someone's profile information. But when they ask you a question, right off the bat, that would be like "duh" obvious, it's like Strike #1.

    I have a love/hate relationship with online dating. I live in the middle of nowhere, so if I ever want to go out, it's the only way to meet guys. But I have had so many bad (not horrid) experiences. Always so lopsided and awkward.

    I've also found that no matter how old, balding, married, heavy, jobless guys are, they still think they deserve Miss America. Perhaps women are the same way? I'd like to think I'm not.
  • StheK
    StheK Posts: 443 Member
    I've also found that no matter how old, balding, married, heavy, jobless guys are, they still think they deserve Miss America. Perhaps women are the same way? I'd like to think I'm not.

    This whole concept about "deserving" to date a person who looks a certain way just boggles my mind. I see that word used all the time and I don't get it. What have any of us done to "deserve" a date who looks a certain way? Since when did the person you date turn into an entitlement? And it implies that the other person is of no value beyond how they fit into your image of you.

    All y'all who bother dating at all have my sincere admiration for your courage and my sincere condolences for playing in a world where people think they have somehow achieved some pinnacle of fabulousness where they "deserve" a date who looks a certain way.
  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    If I give a crap enough to message them or before replying to someone I may be interested in, I definitely read the profile. I understand you can't retain every ounce of someone's profile information. But when they ask you a question, right off the bat, that would be like "duh" obvious, it's like Strike #1.

    I have a love/hate relationship with online dating. I live in the middle of nowhere, so if I ever want to go out, it's the only way to meet guys. But I have had so many bad (not horrid) experiences. Always so lopsided and awkward.

    I've also found that no matter how old, balding, married, heavy, jobless guys are, they still think they deserve Miss America. Perhaps women are the same way? I'd like to think I'm not.

    It has nothing to do with deserving any given person. I know I am not the most attractive person in the world. But I also know looks are subjective, and there are some, albeit maybe few, women who find me attractive. And there are some women I find attractive, and others I don't. Just because I may not be attracted to someone does not make them "unattractive." And just because I may be attracted to someone else does not mean I think I deserve someone who looks like her. If I am going to date someone, I am going to be attracted to her. Just like I suspect if someone is going to date me, she is going to be attracted to me.
  • jcmartin0313
    jcmartin0313 Posts: 574 Member
    I think you have to accept that dating websites are sex first, date second, relationships third places. Add to that, the ability to quickly peruse profiles and give a quick yes or no. I admit that even on here I look first and read second, and I am not looking for anyone.
  • actingnurse1
    actingnurse1 Posts: 153 Member
    I've also found that no matter how old, balding, married, heavy, jobless guys are, they still think they deserve Miss America. Perhaps women are the same way? I'd like to think I'm not.
    HEY!... Bald's sexy. lol
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Very interesting article about this exact thing: http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-dating/cupid-on-trial-a-4-month-online-dating-experiment/

    This article is full of so much awesome and funny/snarky win. <3
  • tallgirlshelley
    tallgirlshelley Posts: 108 Member
    I've also found that no matter how old, balding, married, heavy, jobless guys are, they still think they deserve Miss America. Perhaps women are the same way? I'd like to think I'm not.
    HEY!... Bald's sexy. lol

    Sorry. I agree. Maybe "terrible comb-over" is more what I was thinking...
  • MelodyinGa
    MelodyinGa Posts: 202 Member
    I think you have to accept that dating websites are sex first, date second, relationships third places. Add to that, the ability to quickly peruse profiles and give a quick yes or no. I admit that even on here I look first and read second, and I am not looking for anyone.

    Is this a man's perspective or is this an unfounded blanket statement? I'm not online to meet men for sex
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