Seen as one of the "guys"

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  • lawandfitness
    lawandfitness Posts: 1,257 Member
    Dont change who you are... if you are being friend zoned by these guys then they aren't meant to be with you.
    The right guy will come along who will love that you act like one of the guys but like the female side of you ;)

    This DEAD ON!
  • capnrus789
    capnrus789 Posts: 2,736 Member
    Let me just clear the air. I have liked a few guy friends from the past before, but I currently don't have feelings to any of them. Im not trying to bash on other women or anything or make fun of how "girly" they are. Being super feminine is just not who I am. Some of you might imagine me as super butch or something, but Im not that either. I just tend to hang out with more guys because theyre less dramatic than women are. I wear makeup, i go and get my nails done, and I make my hair all pretty too. I love makeup, actually. I was just confused on why guy friends in the past havent seen me as one of the girls theyd go for. From what I know of, when guys see you as a friend, their minds dont really change from that.

    They me see you as "one of they guys," but I guarantee they still want to see your boobs. Often. They're just being polite, which isn't necessarily a bad thing.
  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    I talked to my boyfriend about this last night. He reckons girls who get friendzoned are the ones not putting out the 'I'm interested' vibes. He also reckons that a girl can be a total tomboy (like me) but not look like she is (like me! lol!). You're very pretty, I seriously doubt that guys friendzone you because you're not attractive enough, so maybe you do give off the vibe of not being interested?
  • suey07
    suey07 Posts: 48 Member
    I talked to my boyfriend about this last night. He reckons girls who get friendzoned are the ones not putting out the 'I'm interested' vibes. He also reckons that a girl can be a total tomboy (like me) but not look like she is (like me! lol!). You're very pretty, I seriously doubt that guys friendzone you because you're not attractive enough, so maybe you do give off the vibe of not being interested?

    I guess you're right. I tend to lean more towards the shy side when it comes to flirting and giving off that vibe. Now where to start.... lol
  • suey07
    suey07 Posts: 48 Member
    Let me just clear the air. I have liked a few guy friends from the past before, but I currently don't have feelings to any of them. Im not trying to bash on other women or anything or make fun of how "girly" they are. Being super feminine is just not who I am. Some of you might imagine me as super butch or something, but Im not that either. I just tend to hang out with more guys because theyre less dramatic than women are. I wear makeup, i go and get my nails done, and I make my hair all pretty too. I love makeup, actually. I was just confused on why guy friends in the past havent seen me as one of the girls theyd go for. From what I know of, when guys see you as a friend, their minds dont really change from that.

    They me see you as "one of they guys," but I guarantee they still want to see your boobs. Often. They're just being polite, which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

    Haha, I'll definitely keep that in mind!
  • Copaiba
    Copaiba Posts: 75 Member
    I have a lot of guy friends and they all put me in the friend zone as "one of the guys" cuz I like sports and don't act all prissy. What am I doing wrong here? Should I change my ways and squeal when I see a spider like most of the girls guys tend to like? Guys seem to claim they want a girl that likes things that they do, yet they go for girls that are nothing like them. Im confused.

    ALWAYS be who you are. If you act like someone you are not, you will attract someone who like a person that is not like you. Continue to do the things that you like to do and when you meet tha right person it will be while you are both involved in something you have in common. You're only 24; you are in no hurry. I didn't meet the perfect person for me until I was in my mid-30's and we have been together now for 25 years and I can't remember or imagine a time in my life without her.

    Great post ^ :happy: I'm 24 as well, sometimes I feel like the time is already running out for love, happiness, etc, it's good to hear that people still find it later in life.

    "later in life." ?? Ouch. That stings a little.

    LMAO! Babies thinking mid-30s is old. Yeah, its kinda sad.
  • Copaiba
    Copaiba Posts: 75 Member
    Far as I can tell, guys are all about how girls look when they are looking for a girlfriend and then they stay with the girls who are smart enough to be true to themselves. Good luck and Godspeed.
  • SakuraRose13
    SakuraRose13 Posts: 621 Member
    Be yourself there are men who like strong independent women,who like sports and all that,in fact the thought of having a woman completley dependent upon them irritates them we dont live in the middle ages .Women can be whomever they want and a person who loves you will love you and not comment on you being one of the guys just because your not the stereotypical girly girl doesnt make you not a woman.Being a woman is a state of being not a look,or how you act .

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