I just need to vent (support is wanted)

Classic sign of stalking. Please report to the police as soon as possible.

You know no one in the world can separate your partner and you if you two have a strong relationship so don't fret please.

He is with you, if he wanted her, he would still be with her. I would have Mark set some boundaries with her if she doesn't keep her distance. Is she the one sending you the nastygrams from here? Mark is the one who is going to have to tell her to bleep off. Hearing it from you will only make her happy thinking you are jealous of her.

Girl you and Mark can get through this. Let me tell you my story. I meet my husband when I was 14 ( and everyone please don't judge me or him and don't think he is a bad guy). he was 26. He had been married before and had 2 kids with her. She gave up all her rights and visitation and all with the kids. I was in the court room when this happened the kids were 2 and 3. well after she found out we were together she started trying to get him back and at the beginning with help with his family. Well she said she could get him back as long as we didn't get married well we got married when I was 15, then she said she get him back as long as i didn't get pregnant. Well I got pregnant when I was 17 and had my son just 2 months before i turned 18. So we have been married for 18 years girl and she is still trying to get him back..... At the beginning it bothered me and I felt the exact same way as you do..... One thing that has helped me through these whole 18 years of her trying to get him back is the saying that my mom has always told " IF she or anyone else can take him away from me then he wasn't worth having in the first place" I now its hard I've been through the same thing. It Does get better...........................................................................on a different note girl you sure we not twins we REALLY have a lot in common

Mark should change his phone number, she shouldn't have anyway of contacting him. Sounds like that is the first step. I have been where you are at with the insecurities and other girls trying to get in the way, in fact the other girl was my relative to beat it all. You two share something more precious than any love they could of had, something tangible and real, something that proves the love you two have, miraculous mixture of the two of you, your child. She can't take that away, don't let her have that power over you, walk with your head high, you are his and take pride in that. Don't show her or him that it bothers you and that will show your confidence. She can't take your baby and raise it with him, thats a FACT! So who cares what she says, and honestly sweetie if words with no meaning could take him away from you, he didn't deserve you to begin with. Girls like her give all women a bad name. Don't waste your time, you'll regret giving her so much of your energy and anxiety, you have a baby that loves you more than anyone else could, hold on to that, because if it were to end between you and Mark, your child is what is left and that is all you need in the end. Your confidence will take precendence over her jealousy in his eyes and he will love you more for that. BUT he needs to change his number, period.

Bless you my girl, you have a lot going on! I believe this stalker ex is trying to make sure she ruins your life because she is so unhappy. Do not let her succeed. Tell your mark to nonthreatenly tell this ex he is not interested and then you two try hard to totally ignore her. This will get her goat because she will realize you two are not playing her game anymore. If need be , keep talking to the police if she continues. Best wishes that your life will soon be easier!

I can see why you are so frustrated. It must be very hard to deal with such a pursuer.
Has he changed his number?

Second this woman has no right to put you down or anyone else. She is most likely projecting her feelings about herself onto you because she is upset that he is with you, that he loves you and not her, and she is frustrated that her advances towards him are not working. I know it's hard but hold you head high, be the better person. She is now trying to break you since she can't break him. Ignore her distugsting remarks. I've learned one thing that to say to her that will take away all the power from her and give it to you is next time she says something nasty to you and you can't take it is just say, "Thanks, I'll remember that next time," smile and walk away.

It takes all the power out of her mean remark, will leave her confused and stunned. Plus it shows how strong of a person you are. Eventually she will realize that you both are too strong for her and she will leave you alone.

Keep thinking positive. You can get through this. Even if you have to fake it for a while pretty soon your positive thoughts turn into positive actions.

Sorry my dear - hope everything works out.

Always good to vent your feelings

You should make a goal to excercise everyday to bring healthy serotonin into your daily life. Believe in yourself!!!

I have had some crazy exs that no matter how little I talked to them they would not give up. I highly doubt that he's trying to string her along. Some people just get too obsessed.

Can't you get a restraining order to keep her from calling and texting? I don't know the answer to this you may have already tried.

Sorry this is happening to you. Hopefully someday she will get over it.

Smack a *****. She's effing crazy. Just try to push her out of your mind and focus on you and your family. You should be able to get a restraining order of some sort. Hope things get better!

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I agree with so many of the other posters. Mark needs to nut up and tell her to shove off. Also, keep a detailed log of ANY encounter with her....dates, times, what happened, etc. With said detailed log go to the police, if they won't help you consider seeking legal advice. Depending on your cell phone provider you should be able to get copies of any text sent to your phones as long as they are from a prior billing month. Maybe you guys need to have a sit down discussion with said mutual friends and lay down the law. You will drop them like a bad habit if information keeps getting back to crazy ex girlfriend. And be crystal clear that she is stalking and you are concerned for your daughter as a result of it.

Keep your head up. If she can see it bothering you she's going to keep doing it. But if you and your fiance quit playing into her game and be sure to make it crystal clear then hopefully she'll get the picture and move on. Right now though, she's winning because you are letting her get to you. You have to be in control of your life. When you can feel the anxiety coming on from this situation see if someone can watch the baby so you can go for a walk to clear your head. I had a similiar situation happen to me and I went so far as to join a gym so i could take my rage out on the equipment instead of my family and friends. Basically try to resort to healthy options to deal with the resulting anxiety. And if things don't get better see about moving further away and only tell certain people. If you don't tell everyone you know and the info gets back to her then the list of possibly untrustworthy peeps is MUCH shorter.

Hope things get better for you!

Has the S/O had the..."Get lost ya crazy Psycho" Talk?

Sorry you're going through this and especially since you have a little one and health concerns of your own. Obviously, get copies of your cell phone bill and highlight each time she tries to contact you. Print off all text messages she sends so you have a record that those 20 different phone numbers are, in fact, all from her. If it were me, I would look at the cell bill and make sure no outgoing contact was made to any of her numbers - for 2 reasons: to remind you who to take this out on and that you have a good man, and so that when you see her on an oh-so-cozy smoking encounter and she tries to lie on your man, she won't see a rattle of doubt in your eyes. That's what she wants - to make you argue, so he will get tired of it and ultimately leave.

Also, change his phone number and give it only to family until things settle down. Ask the manager if you can switch apartments - tell them the situation. You most likely will not get out of a lease but they may be willing to accomodate you if there is another vacancy. When the lease is up, get out of dodge and don't tell anyone. Have a yard sale if you have to and sell all you own so you don't need "friends" to help you move. Your family, health and sanity come first. It may sound extreme but you're starting a life...there is no future in the past. It's time to get this girl behind you.

A celebrity had an issue of all her personal business showing up in the tabloids. In order to find the mole she told different people different 'truths'. Say you're suspicious of "Brad". Well, tell "Brad" you're moving to "Appletown in 2 months". Or tell "Sally" you think you're pregnant again. When you hear it from your ex, you'll know where it originated. It may not mean it came directly from that person, but there is a link. So stop sharing any info with "Brad" or "Sally" when the rumor comes back.

Your man needs to sit down with her, face to face and remind her of the reason he left her to begin with. If he reminds her of the fights, the unhappiness, etc. coupled with how she must appear to everyone else they had known in their old circle of friends...perhaps she will feel the shame of her actions and see herself for what she is doing. In her mind, perhaps getting to you means you're jealous of her because he must want her. If he were to remind her of all the past rejections, and that her constant calling and moving in next door makes her look like kinda creepy...and is wasting her own time from finding herself a healthy relationship that is actually better than the one she envisions with your man....hopefully she will move on.

I've been in a situation with an ex before. It's hard. But talking to your man about it only brings it between you two. Perhaps having a "don't ask, don't tell" policy will help for awhile so you can keep your health in check. Unless a threat or physical contact is made, it will help you to have more peace and control over your thoughts throughout the day. In time, it will begin to fade and when you see her, it won't be as raw and fresh on your mind.

Quit smoking - you won't run into her outside and you'll feel better about your health. Working out and focusing on your personal health and well being is the best remedy and weapon!

If all else fails, smile! When he brings you flowers, leave them in the window so she can see he's moved on and is in love with YOU!!!! Answer the door in lingerie, cook delicious smelling foods and be the best future wife ever. He's going through a hard time, too - he's watching you break and it's breaking him. Continue to be the woman he fell for...

Good luck!