WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME????

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ChristieDF
ChristieDF Posts: 178 Member
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I am a 40 year old mother of 3, had a hysterectomy and I feel like I just need to give up. I am never going to loose this weight!!! No matter how hard I try it won't come off!! I am changing everything again and this is the last time. I will open my diary in the a.m and I will eat healthy. I keep letting myself down and getting all DEPRESSED!!! This is not good at all and I AM NOT A QUITER!!! But since yesterday all I have done is cry and I feel like I could just curl up in a ball and just take every diet pill known to woman/man. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :cry: :cry: :brokenheart: :brokenheart:
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  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
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    Hey Christie, there's nothing wrong with you, we all get discouraged sometimes.
    Please don't waste your money on diet pills, they don't work. Eat at a moderate caloric deficit, try to get some exercise, and most importantly, BE PATIENT.
  • hofosho1020
    hofosho1020 Posts: 179
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    Just take it one day at a time! Think of it this way--you wouldn't forget to brush your teeth one morning and then just decide, "CRAP! I blew it! I'm never brushing my teeth again! I give up!"

    Just every time you have a choice, try to make the healthy choice. And then make the NEXT healthy choice, and on and on.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
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    Are you making it harder on yourself than you need to be? As long as you are eating below your TDEE you will lose weight so maybe up your calories closer to it so you aren't tempted to give up.
  • marksvizz
    marksvizz Posts: 33
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    just take it one step at a time and don't give up, you will succeed but you have to have a positive attitude , You will and can do this!
  • kinsellae
    kinsellae Posts: 167 Member
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    Are you making it harder on yourself than you need to be? As long as you are eating below your TDEE you will lose weight so maybe up your calories closer to it so you aren't tempted to give up.

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  • templerenovations
    templerenovations Posts: 1 Member
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    Christe - There is nothing wrong with you - you are beautifully and wonderfully made and YOU WILL BEAT IT! You will because you are not a quitter - you matter - you want more for your life and your children's life. Keep up the fight!! I know it is hard I myself am a backslider from many moons back. I need to loose 100 lbs and I keep loosing and gaining the same 15 pounds now for two months. I am committed to change for me, for my family, and just as an example to all the students I teach. Dont quit on yourself - you are a winner.
  • ChristieDF
    ChristieDF Posts: 178 Member
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    Thank you all!!! I will try harder and focus more on me.
  • heather86RN
    heather86RN Posts: 46
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    I like the toothbrush analogy! You do have to be patient and make focused choices several times a day. You are a beautiful woman, and you can be strong! I was in a wheelchair 3 years ago, and now I can ride a horse, walk a mile, lift weights and take care of my children! You never know what is in store for you tomorrow.:flowerforyou:
  • skinnyjayb
    skinnyjayb Posts: 2
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    It takes time, don't give up and don't look at anyone else's wt loss to compare yourself, we are all individuals. Are you walking or doing any form of exercise? With diet and exercise together, the wt loss is more. You can start by taking brisk walks 30-45 mins 5 days a week.
  • dancingj2
    dancingj2 Posts: 4,572 Member
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    :flowerforyou:
    Many of us have been there too with one diet or another. And I do still have days that I hear the siren song of chocolate, chips or pastries calling. And sometimes I answer it :( But every day is a new beginning and I get too start over.

    Try not to let the number on the scale define who you are. Start every day anew. And remember we are here for each other:smile:
  • lazyspice
    lazyspice Posts: 8,515 Member
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    I had a hysterectomy 10 years ago and for a while my hormones were all over the place. I found it hard to focus on anything and my motivation hit an all time low.

    Don't be so hard on yourself, take it a day at a time - you'll get there :flowerforyou:
  • brookelynhoneycutt
    brookelynhoneycutt Posts: 22 Member
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    My mother has always been a fit person (she is a certified personal trainer), and after her hysterectomy, she gained weight and had a very hard time getting back to the fitness level and weight range where she feels good. After a hysterectomy (or menopause), losing weight can be more difficult due to the changes of hormone levels in your body.

    After my mom got fed up with not making the progress she wanted to see, she had an appointment with a holistic doctor specializing in women's health and got on a regimen to balance out her hormone levels. Since then, she has seen much better results!

    Do not let yourself get discouraged, but sometimes it is more than just being patient, as our bodies are constantly changing through life and the aging process :smile:
  • Keysted
    Keysted Posts: 21 Member
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    I live in a northern state and the combination of the weather, losing weight, and other issues that crop up from time to time -with daily living - can be get me down. I talk it out with good friends just like you did with your post. I also keep telling myself to take it one day at a time and do what I need to do for that day only. When I get to feeling bad I try to think of the good things I have - my husband & children, my health, a place to live, my friends, etc. When my focus is on other things rather than on eating and what I can't have I seem to do better. I don't know you or your situation except for what you have described but I am concerned for you. Please keep posting and letting us know how you are, we are all here to help you on your journey.
  • melwa
    melwa Posts: 44 Member
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    I hear your frustration. If you believe you're never going to lose weight, you're right. If you believe you've tried everything and nothings worked then there's no hope.
    You need to believe you will drop the excess weight. You need to realise that you just haven't found the way that will work for you.
    This journey is tough, especially when your body's out of whack. But the tough get it done.

    Look at how much you're exercising; look at how much you're eating; look at what you're eating.
    Hook up with people here who are active and have results.

    Come back and tell us what you decide to do in terms of changing behaviors.

    You can do this.
  • skamnorth
    skamnorth Posts: 43
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    Emotional binging can be a symtom of low serotine levels. If you feel depressed on top of it all and handle stress badly (also a symptom) then perhaps it is time to go see a doctor about it?

    Good luck to you :heart:
  • katy84o
    katy84o Posts: 744 Member
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    It's tough. You will be so proud of yourself if you push through. You are a mother, they need you. They need you to be around, they need you to teach them healthy ways so they do not become overweight as they grow up. Do it for yourself, but do it for your children to.

    This place is great to gain support. But no one here can do it for you. You must have the determination to accomplish this goal. Nothing is wrong with you, you just need to set your priorities and start today. You won't lose it fast, it will take time. Try to learn as much as you can about nutrition and fitness, and what works and doesn't work for you.

    It's your life. Do you want to live healthy?
  • pinkupooh
    pinkupooh Posts: 155
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    I like the toothbrush analogy! You do have to be patient and make focused choices several times a day. You are a beautiful woman, and you can be strong! I was in a wheelchair 3 years ago, and now I can ride a horse, walk a mile, lift weights and take care of my children! You never know what is in store for you tomorrow.:flowerforyou:


    very inspiring. Thanks!!! I need motivation as well. At most I have only lost 15 lbs at a time and gain it all back as soon as I go off track. I do want to make life style change and be healthy and energetic as I have 2 little ones to take care.
  • lmckillo
    lmckillo Posts: 127 Member
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    Hi, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, we all go through this at some point. If you think about it, it has taken you a lifetime to get to this point so you really can't expect it to come off in a short period. You have 3 beautiful reasons to keep trying...your kids. There is no substitute for hard work and determination, no pills will every work as well. Being healthy is a not a short term goal, it is a lifetime of eating healthy, being active. Good luck
  • ChristieDF
    ChristieDF Posts: 178 Member
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    I thank you all very much. Y'all are so so supportive. I have been under a lot of stress and I have decided that I need to focus on myself for a while. I need to stop trying to fix everybody else's problems. I love my friends but, sometimes they can suck the life out of you. I'm gonna crack the whip on myself. Thank you all so so much!!!! And NO diet pills!!
  • JRaeZins
    JRaeZins Posts: 171 Member
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    Keep that beautiful smile on your face and the negative thoughts out of your head!

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