Bad day..
Fraileya19
Posts: 42
So, today at work an outpatient walked onto my unit while I was at the desk mistaking it for the clinic where he had an appt. I explained to him where the correct area was.. blah blah.
HOWEVER, then the dude proceeds to tell me that "You need to exercise" My response.. Why do you think that? *with a smile remaining on my face* His response, "Because you work at one of the busiest hospitals in the nation and the hospital holds health highly and since you work here you need to represent that".. and I still smile.. and then he thanks me
and goes on his merry way..
....not knowing that his comments REALLY hurt my feelings. This guy knows NOTHING about me. He doesnt know I AM exercising or that I have lost weight. I have been overweight my WHOLE life and so has my family. Ugh, I struggle so badly with my weight AND my low self esteem. Needless to say, I am feeling really down.
HOWEVER, then the dude proceeds to tell me that "You need to exercise" My response.. Why do you think that? *with a smile remaining on my face* His response, "Because you work at one of the busiest hospitals in the nation and the hospital holds health highly and since you work here you need to represent that".. and I still smile.. and then he thanks me
and goes on his merry way..
....not knowing that his comments REALLY hurt my feelings. This guy knows NOTHING about me. He doesnt know I AM exercising or that I have lost weight. I have been overweight my WHOLE life and so has my family. Ugh, I struggle so badly with my weight AND my low self esteem. Needless to say, I am feeling really down.
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I'm sorry you had that experience...keep doing what's right for you and surround yourself with positive people...all the best!0
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don't let people like that ruin your progress. You're right, he DOESN'T know you or your background and he is obviously a miserable person himself to say something like that to you.0
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Agree...he is very unhappy with himself. What he did was uncalled for. Just keep doing things right like you have been. :flowerforyou:0
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So sorry that fella decided to share his negativitiy with you. Have you ever seen this blog; http://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/
She's into health and acceptance rather than the Hollywood ideal. Love her profile pic - I'm certainly not that flexible!
Have a glass of water, take a deep breath, and start fresh tomorrow.0 -
I'm very sorry that happened to you. I saw that tv anchor address a bully like that on television. If you haven't seen it , Youtube weight and tv personality local.
I'm Jacque. I'm a cardiac RN. If you ever wanted attention about your weight, work here. My colleagues run marathons and sometimes I feel like I'm a warning to patients.
But the truth is... I'm an inspiration. Because you and I represent the real strength and best example of those who try.
We are more like most - in that we aren't perfect, but we're getting healthy.
Every day you rack up exercise, you're doing more than 50% of the adult population.
Every day you don't eat fast food, that's a day where you aren't like 60% of the adult population.
Getting healthy while being larger, is 10x better than being slim- with clogged arteries, or a crappy attitude.
You leave guys like today by the side of the road on your way home.
That's what i do. I just imagine the bad parts/patients/people being dropped off and not coming home with me. And then I get excited because I can't wait to swim tomorrow, or go dance at aerobics.
Hang in there.0 -
Don't let ignorant comments from a stranger bring you down. Obviously you are healthier than he is since you're there because you are an employee, not a patient.
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The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.0 -
Not sure how people get through life just saying whatever comes to their little pea brain head. They chalk it up to speaking their mind. Noooo its not cool. Usually they are covering for a large inadequacy but in his case its a very small one. I'm sorry he said that to you honey. He's a horrible person & is probably going to hell. Feel better.0
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The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
FEEL ME!!!!!!!!!!
I thought the same thing. What a douche.0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
Its called being nice and understanding towards her situation.0 -
Your are on your way to being healthy, your changing. He will always be a jerk!0
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The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
What is wrong with you? :huh:
P.S. to pg3ibew just to be clear. I hate these quotes within quotes where it's hard to know who said what.0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
Its called being nice and understanding towards her situation.
I totally undertand her situation. I have been called a fat *kitten* my entire life. It sucks. But, you know what, it WAS the truth.0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
What is wrong with you? :huh:
Nothing at all.0 -
This week was supposed to start off as my 3 month workout and healthy living plan, but since its dental assistant appreciation week i have yet to eat healthy nor workout!!! And today was killer!!! Homemade breakfast, store bought donuts, coffee with creamer and all sorts of goodies!!! I really need help getting back into my routine again, its so bad that i dont feel like making my lunch for tomorrow!! Any suggestions on what to do??0
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The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
Its called being nice and understanding towards her situation.
I totally undertand her situation. I have been called a fat *kitten* my entire life. It sucks. But, you know what, it WAS the truth.
I'm sorry that happened to you. No one deserves to be called names. But she is clearly needing to vent and is hurt. Don't add to it. Even IF it were true. There is a time and a place for everything. A weight loss site isn't the place to do it. She's here for help, not to feel worse.0 -
You behaved in a professional manner in that situation. Know that. Hold your head high, because you are doing what you need to in order to improve your health AND you have the self control to be polite and kind to people who don't share those skills with you. You rock!0
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If you can't say something nice how about keeping that crap in your head?0
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Ok. Got my thoughts together a little bit. OP, there are some really cruel, nasty people in the world. That was true in the past, true today. I know you were really hurt, and rightfully so. This guy was totally out of line. I think you handled it with class by maintaining your composure and holding your smile. Sometimes it's harder & takes more discipline, and character, to NOT say or do something ugly in a situation like this.
Keep on with your goals & don't let this stranger derail you.
Big hugs.0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
Yes, thank you for your sage wisdom and advice. Now I can free myself of these dang rose-colored glasses and see the world for what it truly is.0 -
So, today at work an outpatient walked onto my unit while I was at the desk mistaking it for the clinic where he had an appt. I explained to him where the correct area was.. blah blah.
HOWEVER, then the dude proceeds to tell me that "You need to exercise" My response.. Why do you think that? *with a smile remaining on my face* His response, "Because you work at one of the busiest hospitals in the nation and the hospital holds health highly and since you work here you need to represent that".. and I still smile.. and then he thanks me
and goes on his merry way..
....not knowing that his comments REALLY hurt my feelings. This guy knows NOTHING about me. He doesnt know I AM exercising or that I have lost weight. I have been overweight my WHOLE life and so has my family. Ugh, I struggle so badly with my weight AND my low self esteem. Needless to say, I am feeling really down.
Basically he was pissed because you made him feel stupid, then he proceeded to insult you to make him feel better about himself. Believe me, he knew his comments hurt you because he did it on purpose.
Please don't let a douchbag like that make you feel bad. He's a pathetic excuse for a human. The only mistake you made was being way too nice to him and playing into his rude comment. A comment like that deserves no response. It was such a rude unexpected comment you were caught off guard and it's our natural response to try to be nice. Next time just ignore him until he leaves or call security if he insists on getting a reaction out of you.
Keep doing what you're doing and forget about this jerk. :flowerforyou:0 -
Keep on keeping on and you'll continue making progress, which will make him look even more like an *kitten*!
SHINE BRIGHT!
(Oh man that didn't sound so cheesy in my head)0 -
I really admire you for smiling through it at him-had it been me, I probably would have broken down and cried right in front of him.
Don't let the *kitten* of life get to you-you are losing weight for a healthier you, and thats all that's important. And I bet your family friends and family are damn proud of you.
Keep your head up xo0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
Yes, thank you for your sage wisdom and advice. Now I can free myself of these dang rose-colored glasses and see the world for what it truly is.
There ya go. You are moving in the right direction now.0 -
People like that are just miserable and unhappy with themselves and deflecting it onto you. Don't let it get to you!!0
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The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
Yes, thank you for your sage wisdom and advice. Now I can free myself of these dang rose-colored glasses and see the world for what it truly is.
There ya go. You are moving in the right direction now.
You frequently miss the sarcasm bus, don't you?0 -
The TRUTH. Cuts like a knife.
Imagine what he DIDN'T say to you.
You mean something like, "Sorry for being a massive neanderthal," right? The OP is working towards her goal and making progress; no need for her to hear "the TRUTH" from some uncouth IDIOT.
I thought the same thing. What a douche.
Life AIN'T all rainbows and unicorns kids.
Yes, thank you for your sage wisdom and advice. Now I can free myself of these dang rose-colored glasses and see the world for what it truly is.
There ya go. You are moving in the right direction now.
You frequently miss the sarcasm bus, don't you?
It is possible that YOU may have missed it.0 -
What an *kitten*.0
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