Really struggling with motivation.
knarr88
Posts: 19 Member
I was always a larger child but by the time I got to the age of 17 I was 182lbs and 5ft 3. Through university and various diets I managed to get down to around 150lbs. Then when I finished university and had more of a structure to my life I got down to about 119lbs. I was very happy at this body weight, I went up and down and my body weight settled at around 126lbs. I stayed around this weight and happy for around 2 years. I went back to university to do a masters and met my boyfriend and now I am back up to 150lbs. I hate being this heavy and fat! But I just dont seem to have any will power this time round, my bf loves fatty foods, meat and everything unhealthy, I love fruit and vegetables and all things healthy but also fatty foods!! He doesnt think I need to control my eating he just says I need to tone up a tiny bit through exercise but he didnt know me when I was really thin. Does anyone have any suggestions for this sort of thing?
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1. Stop blaming your boyfriend.
2. Start logging your foods accurately
3. Start getting more active
4. Repeat steps 1-3 until they become habit.0 -
Try being almost 300lbs at 5'9. Having surgery losing, 75lbs and gaining 80lbs back in less than 2 years. Always remember that there is someone out there in worse shape then you. Dont be yourself up about it either, get up and do something about it. Take baby steps!0
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1. Stop blaming your boyfriend.
2. Start logging your foods accurately
3. Start getting more active
4. Repeat steps 1-3 until they become habit.
This is all true.
You mail fail, but get back up and keep trying..0 -
You don't have to eat the same things he eats
and since he is supporting you on exercise maybe he would do that with you 0 -
1. Stop blaming your boyfriend.
2. Start logging your foods accurately
3. Start getting more active
4. Repeat steps 1-3 until they become habit.
Yep.0 -
I have a boyfriend who loves the same crap. I and you are in control of what we eat. You buy the foods that are good for you and stick to your menu. I used to think it was my boyfriend who sabotaged me but it was me who let myself down. You know what YOU need to do to make yourself happy. I'm thinking he doesn't love you enough to support you. Get back to your healthy regimine and be true to yourself. :flowerforyou:0
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you dont have to eat what your boyfriend eats, you have to look at yourself long and hard and decide other than kicking your boyfriend into touch and getting a new one, take controal of yourself and eat more healthy, if your boyfriend loves you he will come round to your way, when he sees he has a sexy lady there with a nice body and he is big and fat...0
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1. Stop blaming your boyfriend.
2. Start logging your foods accurately
3. Start getting more active
4. Repeat steps 1-3 until they become habit.
This is pretty much it. I've been consistent on logging, diet and exercise for two months now and it is now fully integrated into my life and routine.
I eat Primal and my wife eats garbage. You control what goes into your mouth, no one else.0 -
This is your thing, not his.
Quit casting blame around, eat better, log what you eat, and start moving. It's the only way to get results.0 -
1. Stop blaming your boyfriend.
2. Start logging your foods accurately
3. Start getting more active
4. Repeat steps 1-3 until they become habit.
This is all true.
You mail fail, but get back up and keep trying..
Old Japanese Proverb:
Get up one more time than you fall down.0 -
Just do your best Daily!! to say NO!! and eat clean foods. Your Boyfriend has nothing to do with what you put in your mouth..
You have to PUSH THROUGH !! Stay Focused..0 -
When I start to lag in motivation, I make a list of WHY I want to lose weight & get fit. Then, I write a list of what I HAVE to do to get there. It always works once you want it bad enough. You can do this!0
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Everything you eat is YOUR CHOICE. You can make it healthy or otherwise, regardless of what anyone around you is doing. Staying at a stable healthy weight is as much about your own mind, what you think, what you believe, what you truely want as about what you eat.
You can stick to the mfp plan. There are lots of us here doing just that. If you want to include a dessert you can allow for it. Love peanut butter....totally doable. Have a bad day and totally pig out....so what? it's all part of the process of learning about yourself and what you need. The main thing is to keep on keeping on the best you can on any given day.
Get some people your own age as solid mfp friends and support each other in this process. You can do it if you believe you can.0 -
I was right there with ya babe. My Husband and I, when we were just dating, used to put away some food back in the day. McDonalds was our second home. lol.
The thing is that when you get with someone you start to focus more on making them happy - be it eating out, going on shopping sprees, or staying inside the house. Sooner or later you will find that in order to make them happy you have to be happy with yourself. Take a stand against those emotions and eat the healthy food that you love and eat the food he loves in moderation. Live an 80/20 life and if he wants to have a fatty burger for dinner then let him and opt for a healthier option.
You should ALWAYS do what's right for you first. Good luck!0 -
Look it all about your self discipline, if you want change you need to commit! There is no fast fix, I've the holidays I got a little out of shape,gained 15 pounds of fat in les than six weeks I I shedded all that excess fat look at my profile pic , eat healthy! Manage your macros,stay within your calorie but realize what your calories consist of not all calories are created equall , exercise , if you want it you must work for it and once you achieve your goal you must still work to keep it. There isnt any quick fix. YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BAD! Your goal has to precede any cravings and weakness or what you seek you will not find.
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Oh and if your boyfriend isn't a nutritionist, dietitian,or personal trainer nor in the best of health himself he is in no position to give you advice,so don't listen to him if you haven't Bern getting the results you want by following hos advice!0
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Not sure if this will help, but when my husband and I first met we worked together and ate out for lunch almost everyday...we even got on a "salad kick" occasionally. Anyway, I really got into cooking and learning new recipes at home because I wanted to know what was in my food. Since I cook and he doesn't, I have more say-so over what we eat together...
when we do go out, I always say I don't want an appetizer or dessert (although, honestly sometimes I will order one of them to go and plan to eat it later - it's like i'm spreading the calories out) AND a meal. that way, we aren't splitting unhealthy stuff. My entrée is different than his, so I can eat what ever I want.0 -
it's you who is in control of what you eat, not him
if you truly want to tone up, lose some weight, and live healthier, it's really only by your own motivation you can do so.
if he's truly bothering you with the eating, try talking with him, tell him how important this is to you, and I'm sure he'll understand as your significant other. 0 -
This might be a good test of the strength of your relationship with your boyfriend. Just tell him exactly what you need to start doing to feel better about yourself. If he cares about you, he will support you, or at the very least, not get in the way. If he's a keeper he might even try to be healthier right along with you. We tend to look like the people we hang out with, so your enthusiasm may rub off on him. Good luck and keep us posted. 0
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Try forgetting about your diet for now and going balls to the wall crazy with exercise. After a couple months if you want quicker results, start playing with your nutrition.
You dont have to jump into all the things all right away.0 -
This might be a good test of the strength of your relationship with your boyfriend. Just tell him exactly what you need to start doing to feel better about yourself. If he cares about you, he will support you, or at the very least, not get in the way. If he's a keeper he might even try to be healthier right along with you. We tend to look like the people we hang out with, so your enthusiasm may rub off on him. Good luck and keep us posted.
This is great advice. He should want to support you and encourage you along the way! He could be an accountability buddy for you that you can talk to any time you want.0 -
Do,or do not. There is no try.0
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What I'm going to say is that it just seems that you're not motivated. You have to be ready to do a lifelong change, otherwise you're just wasting your time.
I'm not saying this in a negative way. I was in your shoes 3 months ago! Then it clicked and I was finally able to take the steps to do it. And my husband still eats crap all day (I do groceries so I limit the junk but we have kids so it's harder at times). It takes a lot of willpower, so you really have to be ready for it to be able to take the first step. If you're not, it's fine. Just prepare yourself mentally to do it in the near future.0
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