Coworker competition

Finchtastic1
Finchtastic1 Posts: 60 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
My coworker is going to the gym to lose weight. But she is trying to compete with me. We are not the same body shape and I am significantly smaller. She is at least 25 pounds heavier than me. How do I stop this? It's like she wants to be as thin as me but that won't happen. In turn it forces me to obsess more about my weight even though she will never be as small? Any tips? I'm more annoyed if anything. It's like once she found out I was working out and getting in shape she wanted it too. I don't have much left to lose...3 ibs and just tone up. Damn actors and our competitive nature.

Replies

  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    Sometimes it's better to just not talk about your weight loss journey. I've tried to explain to a friend that eating back exercise calories (or points since she's on WW) is a good thing, and you don't have to deprive yourself or have a huge deficit to lose. She gets really annoyed with me and makes faces and says it doesn't work. I just stopped talking about it. Now she's grumbling that I'm looking slimmer and she's not...
  • Finchtastic1
    Finchtastic1 Posts: 60 Member
    I guess I keep working out and this will maybe motivate me to eat better and exercise harder. I just hate how its become a thing for her and my boss all because I was the one to lose weight. She was always like you look so skinny don't lose weight! Grr
  • dsendre
    dsendre Posts: 173 Member
    Interesting. I would think a lot of people wished they had someone to "compete" with to keep them on task toward their goals. Why does it bother you so much that this other person also wants to better herself? It doesn't sound like she's preventing you from staying on track with your goals or is trying to set you off course. Just sounds like this person was motivated by your actions and now also wants to improve her health and fitness levels.

    You're motivation for your coworker and boss to better themselves - what's wrong with that?
  • No_Finish_Line
    No_Finish_Line Posts: 3,661 Member
    i don't get how this is a problem.

    i'd be happy that i inspired people to do something they apparently felt was good for them
  • Finchtastic1
    Finchtastic1 Posts: 60 Member
    We are both actors who are each others competition. It just annoys me that she wants to get fit but doesnt eat right and ONLY decided to workout because I am thin. I dunno I find it weird
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    We are both actors who are each others competition. It just annoys me that she wants to get fit but doesnt eat right and ONLY decided to workout because I am thin. I dunno I find it weird

    Well, if you're competing for the same jobs, she may think you're likely to be picked because you're thinner. I would imagine you're in a tough field where everyone needs to try and stay fit. Be an inspiration, but you don't necessarily need to talk about it with her. Just keep doing what you're doing. If she asks or wants to compare notes, it's up to you if you want to help or if you want to change the topic.
  • djshari
    djshari Posts: 513 Member
    Just don't talk about it at work... or you could do something like bring in an almost empty bag of chips and eat the rest and pretend like you ate the whole bag and wasn't it delicious and then she will start eating chips instead or something.

Categories