how do you handle....

KimLovesDon
KimLovesDon Posts: 152 Member
in Motivation and Support
Jealousy? I see how far others have come and I want the same thing, but I want it now! I look in the mirror and think "Oh tubby, you have got such a long way to go! " Sometimes I just want to cry!

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  • Pamko57
    Pamko57 Posts: 182
    I used to come here and read and think the same thing, that I have far to go,and I still have far to go, about 50 pounds to get to my goal weight.

    Remember this is a marathon, not a sprint. We didn't get here overnight, and we're changing our habits, learning new ways of living, of eating. The time is going to pass one or the other, but if we are working toward the goal, we'll get there.

    Keep on keepin' on.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    Go ahead and cry if you need to, I know I did more than once. Just don't give up. Also, go for long walks when possible. They're good for you, help your mood, and of course burn calories.

    Also, setting smaller goals along the way helps. Smaller goals with non-food rewards are even better.
  • KimLovesDon
    KimLovesDon Posts: 152 Member
    Thanks y'all! I'm not going to quit or anything, just sometimes it's so frustrating!
  • cppeace
    cppeace Posts: 764 Member
    oh dear you are in the excitting part, the first 30lbs or so. You see the scale drop, you get excited, you begin to see little changes in yourself. Sure you've a long way to go but right now is the good part. Save the frustration for the last 40lbs or less. Those are the killers. Those are what drove me off the wagon and when get back there I sure hope I can stay on it this time. But going from losing 1-2lbs a week to 1-2lbs a month for someone still obese is simply insanely irritating. So dear woman keep pushing, stay focused, measure measure measure and stay on here! It's a great group of motivated souls!
  • Petrapoo45
    Petrapoo45 Posts: 271 Member
    Ive been feeling this way a little bit the last few days. I find it hard when I feel like Ive been doing good, but then I start talking to my friends and they are all loosing weight on different programs...making me feel as though what I am doing is somehow not as good. I know its crazy. And my friends truly have been nothing but supportive. Its sooo hard not to compare yourself to others. And what I have to keep telling myself is what works for someone else, might not work for you. and that is okay. You have to do what is right for you. I was simply not prepared for how emotional loosing weight is. No one tells you that.
  • squindles
    squindles Posts: 350 Member
    Go ahead and cry if you need to, I know I did more than once. Just don't give up. Also, go for long walks when possible. They're good for you, help your mood, and of course burn calories.

    Also, setting smaller goals along the way helps. Smaller goals with non-food rewards are even better.

    That's such good advice :flowerforyou: OP we WILL get there! I just take it 7lbs at a time. If I think about the total I've got to lose, I think I'd jacki it in lol
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    Save the frustration for the last 5kg or so. That's the real killer. Seems like it took me forever to get to that point.
  • MaretL
    MaretL Posts: 50 Member
    I used to feel like that too but then I started to notice that others didn't get there overnight but it took them months and months. So my focus changed, I understood that they must have felt the same overwhelming feeling as I was when they where starting but they persisted and got to their goal with lots of work and dedication. If they can do it - I can do it!!!
  • Alissakae
    Alissakae Posts: 317 Member
    I feel your pain. It can be so discouraging to be working so hard and still hate the image in the mirror, with a long way to go to look remotely good. I'm trying to focus on my success so far rather than how long the road ahead is. We just have to hang in there!
  • jackzlukasik
    jackzlukasik Posts: 12 Member
    I find that the best thing is looking what I've done over where I need to go. Seeing what I've lost and what confidence that has given me (and a better body when I look in the mirror) keeps me going. Don't get stuck on the number left but where you have come from and what you have learned so far.

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