Am I going too fast? 9.2 lbs in three weeks but I feel fine

You'll naturally lose faster the first week or two but 1400 does seem low for a man but 1200 is low for most women too. You might want to figure out your BMR's and try eating above that for a more realistic approach.

Well you're a man so you should be eating more. Maybe have an extra snack when she's not looking or something. Or even if she is. I don't think she'll be mad if you have a cup of plain yogurt that she can't have. But if you're eating under your goal and not eating back calories, you need to eat if you're hungry, or you'll never manage to sustain it. If you're not hungry and feel good, i wouldn't worry about it.

Also, I lost a ton when I started too, then hit a plateau and it's slowed down a bit since. So it doesn't mean you'll keep losing as much long term.

Try adding in an extra healthy snack, or perhaps a slightly larger portion of what you and your wife are preparing for a meal. It doesn't have to be much. The fact that you are both doing it together is awesome!

Last week we had no work (break), and I spent it cooking healthy stuff for us and trying out new recipes. It's been good so far!

First off, congrats on the weight loss.

Cooking new food is a great way to stay focused as you literally see what your food is made instead of reading a label. It's important to have different flavoured options when eating healthy.

Yeah, I'm a lucky man :-)

My wife just wants/needs to loose a couple of pounds. In my case I was literally starting at the obese level (right now I am on the overweight level officially) and I got some tests back that show I have a high colesterol. At that point we both decided we needed a healthier lifestyle (as opposed to ordering Pizza and having hamburgers every other day which was what we were doing).

She even printed out a calendar for us to plan our meals with a "slogan" of "Because we love each other" :-)

Last week we had no work (break), and I spent it cooking healthy stuff for us and trying out new recipes. It's been good so far!

This is so lovely and warmed my heart I wish my husband wasn't a junk-a-holic doesn't put on a pound butt face haha. He is very supportive though.

Okay I have to add some cents being in your wife's shoes.

First off, congrats on the teamwork!!! Losing weight is difficult even more so when you are changing your eating lifestyle. It is easier when your loved one is right next to you on the same page. My boyfriend-now-fiance' and I packed on some weight while dating and completely did a 180 on our habits.

My fiance also has more calories he has to eat and he lost a whopping 65lbs in 10 months. My weight loss is another story. The fact that he could eat more than me didn't bother me either way. Now, what ticked me off (in a purely female-irrational way) was the fact that he dropped SO much weight constantly.

I am very proud of him and his dedication to better himself...but dang I am jealous!

I do get self-concious now that I am the heavier one in the relationship. The situation has led to some self sabatoge and awkwardness but again thats the female brain tripping me up. My man knows about it too and is always vocally supportive to give my self confidence a boost when I need it. We both are on the right track he's just a bit ahead of me. I don't mind the view at allll hehehe!

I don't know how your wife reacts to things but I know my man and I had to have discussion about our weight loss and not only the physical changes but the mental and emotional ones too. I had plateaued for over a month and was in a negative mindset. Seeing him keep losing made me bitter and then I'd self guilt over that. I became too restrictive on my calories thinking that was my problem.

Finally, I broke down and got a body media armband for an accurate caloric burn...turns out I burn alot more than I thought! I tweaked my diet and the weight began coming off again last week.

The thing we realized was we both have to always have the the conversations going about our healthy journey as individuals and as a couple. He keeps tabs on me to make sure my head is in the game but not getting discouraged or overwhelmed. I keep my eye on him since his foot is out on medical and he can't run, which is rough. Positive teamwork = positive results.


Just don't eat a Cadbury egg in front of her...she might throw something at you.

Men are biologically different to women. Men naturally carry more muscle than women, hence the need for more calories, partically protein. You need to stay up around 1800, give or take, to make a successful job of it. Try and get in quality protein to make up the difference. If you find, conversely, the women who try and eat like men, you'll soon find them on places like here looking for ways and reasons why they need to lose this mysterious weight gain. You'll find roughly a 600 calorie difference between men's and women's nutritional needs. A mate of mine is a practising nutritionist on the Central Coast of NSW. Go to his website askshannon.com.au and ask him any nutritional questions you have. He puts out YouTube answers for all to benefit.