I Always Relapse Please Save Me!!

I am in the same boat with you. I start my diet over each week and sometimes after 1 or 2 days. I have got to get this weight off. I hate looking in the mirror each day. Summer is fast approaching and we spend a lot of time outside at baseball games. I don't want to be the fattest mom of the team anymore. I actually started eating good yesterday and then I blew it at dinner. So, today I am eating better again and even exercised for 30 minutes! I keep telling myself.....one day at a time.

My guess is when you get motivated you start with a very restrictive plan. That is a hard plan to follow for a long period of time. You can make healthy foods that taste good (admittedly less tasty than junk) and will leave you full. If whatever plan you follow leaves you constantly struggling with hunger it is doomed to fail. I also think it is important to think of this as a lifestyle change. Whatever plan you follow must fit your daily lifestyle from this time forward. Its not a diet. Nobody can tell you what will fit your lifestyle, so it is up to you to do some experimenting to learn to cook things you like and find activities that you can tolerate. You might even find exercises that you will learn to enjoy.

Good luck

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I am in the same boat with you. I start my diet over each week and sometimes after 1 or 2 days. I have got to get this weight off. I hate looking in the mirror each day. Summer is fast approaching and we spend a lot of time outside at baseball games. I don't want to be the fattest mom of the team anymore. I actually started eating good yesterday and then I blew it at dinner. So, today I am eating better again and even exercised for 30 minutes! I keep telling myself.....one day at a time.

I'm glad I am not the only one who does that! It is so hard to diet.. or eat right... I understand your pain completely!! :flowerforyou: Good luck... and feel frree to add me as a friend.. I'm always looking for more motivation and support!

I feel you. I've done every diet and cleansing and juice weight loss program there is. Nothing has stuck.
I started therapy which really made me look at why I was eating so much. I highly reccomend it.
But I am sick of quitting too... I'll support ya!

hi what plan do you follow do you just eat healthy then count the cals

I think some where along the line we all do, the thing is, keep going and don't beat yourself up over it

Don't diet this time. Just log what you eat. Every two weeks pick one new healthy habit and incorporate it into your lifestyle. Once you get enough healthy habits, you'll start losing weight without working at it.

Just believe in yourself, you can do anything you put your mind to. Take it day by day, and you will see it will get so much easier.

You need a lifestyle change. Perhaps in the past you've tried to deprive yourself and that hasn't worked.

good luck Rycka!
Try "making friends" with some people on here that can help keep you motivated. Use this space as a resource for any questions you have so you can get input from people going through similar things as you. Feel free to add me if you would like.

Also, make sure you know what you want. Set small goals to start so you don't get discouraged easily, maybe its to hit your calorie goal 4 days a week, maybe it is to lose that first pound, or walk 4x per week. Once you achieve these, keep creating new ones to keep you going. Make sure you are doing this for the right reasons. It has to be for yourself, your health, your desire to feel/look different. If you are doing it for any other reason than the ones important to you, you won't have as much success and you will be more likely to quit. Last, remember it will take some time so be patient! If you set your mind to it, you will be successful!

Hello Everyone,

My name is Rycka, and I have had no stickability in the past and I am SICK OF IT!! I am sooo ready to get this weight off (as if I have not said this before) but even more so now because I am fed up with quitting. I pray that I am able to stick with it this time, and hope to make some new friends in the process.

Thanks guys, feels good to be back.

Habits are hard to break. You slip up because you haven't built the habits to support your weight loss. So best advice is start slow, do things that are fairly easy. Like exercise 10mins a day, eat 1 or 2 healthy meals a day and start there. Once that habit is solid, increase it, exercise a bit more add a 3rd meal etc... it takes time. Habits take time so be patient.

Weight loss isn't a crash course.

I agree with the guy above. For me I started working out first and then I started eating more healthy. The more weight that I noticed would come off the more I ate healthier. It has taken me almost 8 months to take off 30lbs but it was the only way that I knew would work for me. I still have a treat no and then but I find myself craving healthy foods, which I never thought would happen.

I completely understand as this is my umpteenth weight loss attempt. I've been successful before, but obviously not at the maintenance. I did somehting I haven't done before though, and made it through a 4 week plateau, normally I would have thrown in the towel as I was working my butt off (or trying to!) during that time. My advice is...don't think of this as a diet, think of it as a lifestyle change...really, I never use the word diet, I may just say that I'm no longer eating sugary foods, etc...set short term goals, such as I want to lose 10 lbs or so many inches by such and such date, when you reach that one, set a new one...find some exercising that you enjoy doing and do it a lot, I started out working out a min. of 1 hour a day and currently have some days I might do over 2 hours and some just 30 minutes but I try for an average of an hour a day...I have a goal dress that I have hanging on the outside of my closet door so I see it all the time...I make sure I have healthy food on hand at all times so that when I do want to stress eat, I can quickly find something low calorie....I log into MFP everyday and log EVERYTHING I eat, when I eat it if I can ( or I forget about those carrots, or apple and it can add up)...I am doing a weight loss contest, not that I expect to win, I just don't want to embarrass myself and come in last...I have lots of friends that know I'm doing this and check up on me in a nice way...try not to weigh all the time and don't worry about the number, remember this is about how you look, so when your clothes are looser and you're losing inches that's even more important than the humber on the scale (I have to remind myself of this all the time)...I have a longer term goal of wanting to look great when my daughter graduates in 2015 which will help me with the maintenance phase.

I am no expert, just 9 weeks or so into this but I'm almost at 20 lbs loss and just feel like something has clicked this time that will make it work. Feel free to friend request me if you like, I enjoy encouraging others because I know how hard of a journey this can be! You can and WILL do this!!! :happy:

Good Luck and you can do it. Think Positive. (:

Dont worry we've all dont it! but the first thing to keep in mind is don’t think of it as a diet but rather think of it as a lifestyle change. It's normal to want to eat a burger or want to eat pasta and that's fine as long as you don’t make it a routine. But you have to start small and the best way to do that is if you want a burger go get you a burger but don’t get a triple meat triple cheese (old personal favorite) get you a single or Jr. and only eat half the fries that way you get your craving out of the way and it wasn’t so bad on your “diet”. Eventually once all your good eating choices have taken over all your bad eating choices that’s when you will your new lifestyle. Everyone needs those “bad” meal's every once in a while to help you keep staying focused. Because if not you’ll start to feel like a junkie going through withdrawals and once you crack and get tired of your diet you’ll start eating every unhealthy delicious thing just so you can find just to get your fix (I know i did). There’s nothing harder quitting all your bad habit’s cold turkey that’s why so many people fall off the wagon the best thing to do is ease into it so you can stay on track. remember stay positive don’t get discouraged and theres always help here on the MFP.

This! Baby steps. You're posting what so many of us has gone through at one point or another. At one point I got tired of starting over. Want to know how I did it? I stopped quitting. Even if I ate a bag of m&m's, it wasn't the end of the road. Over time you will develop healthier habits. This is a lifestyle change. No one gained weight overnight so it will take time to come off. Some journeys are longer than others but take every loss and every gain and every bump like you mean business. Its not easy, its not supposed to be. It won't kill you to have an off day as long as you don't make it a habit. Best wishes. Keep your head up.

Hello Everyone,

My name is Rycka, and I have had no stickability in the past and I am SICK OF IT!! I am sooo ready to get this weight off (as if I have not said this before) but even more so now because I am fed up with quitting. I pray that I am able to stick with it this time, and hope to make some new friends in the process.

Thanks guys, feels good to be back.

It seems to me that the people most likely to quit are the ones that make big huge drastic changes at the beginning of their 'diet' (eliminating food groups and exercising like a maniac ect)...then they find it hard to sustain those changes for a long period of time and wind up crashing and burning. That being said - consider this a lifestyle change and take it and slow and easy. Establish a sensible calorie goal (no starvation diets!!), eat foods you love in reasonable portions, get some exercise. Keep it simple, there's always time to fine tune it later on as the weight starts to melt off!! Good Luck:flowerforyou: