Question For The Guys On Here! Long But Please Bear With Me

Let's say you broke up with your girlfriend & then later on down the road you decided it was a huge mistake and you really wanted to be in a relationship with her again.

Let's say that ex-girlfriend lives a 1 hour & 10 minute drive away from you. If you still had strong feelings for her & really wanted to be with her, would you let that amount of distance stop you? Would you instead decide oh screw it, I guess I'll just date someone else that lives right in my city since that would be more convenient for me? I think I already know how most of you will answer this but please let me know what you think.

I ask that because my ex & I have been broken up for a long time but he's constantly trying to convince me to move to his area. He does this even though he's been with someone else for a year now. He's been texting me a lot the past few weeks asking me if I want to rent out one of his properties (which is right in his area). I've told him before that I have absolutely no interest in having an ex-boyfriend as a landlord but he just keeps asking me anyways. He left me a voicemail this morning saying he has several people interested in renting this property but hasn't rented it yet because he was waiting to see if I want it. It was really annoying me that he keeps asking about it so after a week of ignoring his calls and texts I sent him this text about an hour ago:
"I have ZERO interest in renting out/living in your ____ property so go ahead & rent it to someone else that wants it. I've made it very clear that I have NO interest in living there so any further inquiries about if I want to rent ___ or ANY of your properties will be ignored".

Here was his response via text:
"Why not? I want you and ____ (my daughter) to live there".

When I didn't respond to that one he sent another text saying:
"What if we were dating"?

Is it just me or is that really sh**ty of him to keep trying to convince me to move to his area when he has a GF that he hasn't even broken up with yet? Not to mention, I've told him that I'm happy where I am right now & have no interest moving to his area anytime soon. We've actually been broken up for a few years now&he always tries to get me to move up there & makes it sound like the "long distance" is the number one reason we've never ended up reconciling. To me that sounds like just an excuse though. If he really wanted to be with me, I'd think that he'd be willing to do just about anything to be with me including driving an hour and 10 minutes each way to see me. Am I crazy for thinking that way? Does anyone else agree with me that he must not be that into me because if he was he'd be more than happy to make the drive to see me because he'd think I was worth it?? Not to mention I told him before that if/when we ever got engaged&it was obvious we were planning on trying to make things work for the long haul, then I'd be willing to move to his area. (We were in a relationship for 3 years and have also been apart for nearly 3 years now).

He's said before that if we got back together he's sure we'd be engaged pretty quickly. In my mind, that's just a bunch of b.s. because if he really meant that then why would he think driving back and forth 1 hour & 10 minutes to see me was a big deal if it would just be temporary until we got engaged? P.S.) Apparently his current GF that he's been with for a year broke up with him a week ago because she was upset that they're still not engaged yet. I guess she quickly changed her mind though & decided she wanted to try and work on things so they were only broken up for like one day. If she's upset they're not engaged yet, I'm sure he prob. just have told her the same kind fo stuff that he's told me before like how he just needs a little more time to be ready & then they'll get engaged. He's initiated countless reconciliation type talks with me the past few years yet when given the opportunity to reconcile with me, he's chosen one girl after another instead of me. Yet, he sends me texts saying stuff like "When I'm ready to get married, you're the one I want to marry". He also texts me stuff like "Please don't date anyone. I don't want you seeing other guys. I would be devastated if you get serious with someone else".

Advice/input please would be much appreciated. I've gone NC several times with him the past few years but I always seem to get sucked back into talking to him. I've told him before that I want all or nothing. Either him&I being back together & serious about trying to make it work for the long haul or else I want absolutely nothing to do with him and for him and I to have no contact. He just doesn't respect that though. Even though he's clearly not interested right now in giving me/us his all, he keeps contacting me almost every single day which I think is one of the biggest reasons I've had a hard time getting over him. I went through some rough times financially last year & he ended up loaning me quite a bit of money (which he said I wouldn't have to repay him IF we got back together). I have an inkling that he's pretty wealthy so it was probably not a hardship to him at all to loan me that money. Still though, I don't understand why he apparently cares about me enough to lend me that much money yet apparently doesn't care about me enough to actually want to be with me?

I thought it was really nice of him at the time to loan me that money but now I see it as more of a crappy thing that he did, like it was maybe more of a way to try to keep some control over me as he knew it would ensure that I'd have to maintain at least SOME level of contact with him until it was all paid back. I'm really stressed out right now because I thought I'd get a really big tax return and would be able to pay him back at least a big chunk of what I owe him with it. However, I just did my taxes last night and cried when I realized that I really can't afford to send him even a penny of my tax return as it was much, much smaller than I was expecting. I need every penny of it just to help me get caught up with my current bills. I'm so sad and stressed right now. I don't have a car (haven't had one for the past few years). I want so badly to get a car. I'm getting so sick an tired of having to take the bus and/or cabs everywhere. Also, I have a teenage daughter that's going to want to get her driver's permit within the next year or two. I definitely want to be able to help teach her to drive & of course I can't do that without a car. So, now I'm stuck with a bit of a moral dilemma that I'm really torn about. Do you guys think I should not get a car until AFTER my ex is totally paid back? Or, should I send him a little bit less every month than what I can actually afford to spend and put the rest towards buying a car?