i need to lose at least 20 pounds please help

Hi,
First of all congrats on your new baby! Making a baby is hard work!!
I too am new here but I agree with everyones posts. The time line is just off.
I too know what it is like to want to get back to your pre-baby weight but it takes time. Watchout if you are breastfeeding too. I only started back on my workout schedual after my son was 12 months old because we had some issues breastfeeding in the begining.
Perhaps your husband just needs to understand that it took you 9 months to make his child and it will take you at least as long to get back in shape...not to mention that his suport would be one way that he would help you meet your goals!

You can do it, just take it easy and be healthy!!

Cheers,
Rute