Feel self conscious when ordering healthy food

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  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    I get those comments.
    Do people honestly think that if you're skinny that you just automatically stay that way no matter what?
    I just think to myself, " I wouldn't STAY this 'skinny' if I didn't eat like this".
    It's your body, you chose what you put in it.
    Do you tell them what to eat?
  • amye004
    amye004 Posts: 32
    Some responds I would use:

    No, I'm seriously not getting it, my plan is to order it, have them cook it, bring it to me, and then change my mind.

    I am eating it because it tastes good...mmmmm veggies

    If I am going to pay for the food, I'm going to get it the way I like it.

    If you want to be blunt/ are completely fed up: I don't comment on what you order, why are you commenting on mine?

    You could try talking to them. Let them know it makes you uncomfortable when they make comments on your food choices. It has nothing to do with losing weight, you know that you are skinny. This is what you want to eat and if they can't deal with it that's not your problem.
  • Sharla_G
    Sharla_G Posts: 72
    It's interesting how much emotion is tied to food. Not just what we ourselves eat and do not eat. Food that OTHER PEOPLE eat. How entwined it is in relationships, socializing, etc.

    It's weird that people feel threatened by those who eat differently than themselves. That there is pressure to comply with the norm of the social group you belong to, even in eating.
  • daphne_m
    daphne_m Posts: 84
    You need to tell people to stop commenting on what you eat. If it gets the point across more clearly, feel free to refer to them as ill mannered and uncivilised. My friends are free to ask polite questions about my dinner if they're so inclined, but they almost always have something more interesting to discuss.

    Maybe you need more interesting friends.
  • Djproulx
    Djproulx Posts: 3,084 Member
    I'd suggest taking the direct approach with those who feel the need to comment. Whether a very low calorie pick, or an ice cream sundae, I tell my friends and family. "I make choices at every meal and understand how this choice fits into my food plan. This is my choice today"

    Then I order my plain oatmeal with two poached eggs mixed into it, or my medium rare burger (with no bun) placed on top of a chopped salad, or salmon with no sauce, OR my steak, ribs, dessert, etc, and enjoy my meal with no regrets. I hope you don't feel self conscious going forward. You're doing the right thing for yourself. Good luck.
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    I am a pretty healthy eater, and usually try to make good choices when out eating with friends. I'm not really trying to lose weight, I simply enjoy living a healthy lifestyle. But sometimes I can't help but feel self conscious when I order things! I feel like because im already at a low weight, people are always judging me! I often get friends rolling their eyes, laughing at me, or saying things like "you're seriously getting that?" "Why are you eating that, you're already so skinny!" "oh my gosh I can't believe you actually ordered VEGETABLES instead of fries!" "Oh Ms. HEALTHY over here...." etc.
    Is it that bad that I want to eat healthy even if I'm not overweight? Dont get me wrong, I will splurge now and then but on a regular basis I try to keep my diet in check.
    Sometimes I feel self conscious asking the waitress "can I get that salmon grilled, without the butter sauce, vegetables subbed for rice " etc while everyone is watching me. Or if a friend is making a Starbucks run I debate whether or not I should tell them to get my drink sugar free, nonfat. There are times where I have decided not to go COMPLETELY healthy with my order just so I don't get as many comments. It can get so annoying sometimes! Anyone else like this?

    Yes!! And I have a great come back when they say " your so skinny, take a break already, you really need a sandwich" I say " excuse me, do you serve hater aide here, she/he will take a large, on me, and keep em coming"
  • CillitBang
    CillitBang Posts: 33 Member
    My partner makes comments at me but I know he does like my diet and would like to eat more healthily himself.

    Your friends are probably just envious of your choices and your healthiness. This probably make them feel bad about themselves so it makes them feel better to poke fun at you.

    And thanks. You've just inspired me to change how I order when I'm out.

    I don't make a habit of this, but I'm out for dinner tonight and tomorrow night and I'm stressing about going over my calories but I'm going to do like you say and ask for things cooked in a healthier way, and maybe ask them to leave things off the plate like the roasted potatoes and cauliflower cheese and maybe ask for more veggies. I'm more worried about being a pain to the waiting and kitchen staff!
  • srpm
    srpm Posts: 275 Member
    ''because i don't like fries''

    they only do this because your healthy choices make them feel self conscious about their unhealthy choices.
    That has always been my line, my husband has finally caught on though and started calling me out because I usually snag a couple of his :)

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