I get discrouraged when I look at my ideal weight....

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  • MinimalistShoeAddict
    MinimalistShoeAddict Posts: 1,946 Member
    Take small steps! Weight loss is not a race. Set small goals along the way if the ultimate goal too far away. You will get there in time. Don't worry about the duration of your journey. Just take small steps one day at a time. You can do it!
  • paruls86
    paruls86 Posts: 188 Member
    I am as high as you are and started at 172 and had no clue how to get to 150 which it says is the highest limit for my height. I am currently 1 Kg away from my healthy BMI goal and it took me a year to get here. Had i been diligent and disciplined I could have reached my ultimate goal of 55 KGS or 120 lbs.
    there will be a lot of ifs but believe me u will get there... its not 100-150 lbs u need to loose u need to loose that 1 pound first take it one pound at a time. the time u will take to get to 136 will be filled with so many achievements NSVs that will make it all worth it.
    Kepp going and u'll be there before u realize.
  • Cait_Sidhe
    Cait_Sidhe Posts: 3,150 Member
    It *does* seem monumental and discouraging. No matter what the goal ultimately is. But listen to these people. We've all been there. We've all fought our insurmountable battles. You will win this.
  • WaterBunnie
    WaterBunnie Posts: 1,371 Member
    I felt the same when I first started but as your pounds lost total grows you'll get more confident that you can do it.

    My advice would be to reset your ticker just for the first 50lbs. When you reach that, add another 50lbs and you'll find you're already half way along. It gives you a sense of reaching a goal sooner and before you know it you'll have your end goal in that ticker and you'll be romping towards that.

    The other thing to remember is that you make the decision on your end weight. I'm not aiming for my perfect weight and may well stop when I get down to 'overweight' rather than obese. Depends what I decide suits me best.

    Don't be despondent, you're going to do great this time!
  • linsey0689
    linsey0689 Posts: 753 Member
    Set small goals goals for yourself and write them down. Here what some of mine will be:

    Get into a size 20, 18, 16 etc is not directly correlated with weight but still a great goal
    Move BMI classes I write down the weight I will be at each onr. Recently moved to obese class 3 to class 2 :)
    then just lose 5 10 25lbs and so on amd you can make those as small or large as you want. Every 5lbs even if you want
    I also have a few measurement goals like this measurement waist

    Don't let yourself get you down, I think about losing weight as a slow walk not fast for it
  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
    It literally is about a long term average. Every day consistent good choices is why lifestyle changes succeed and "diets' don't. It's also why one binge day out of let's say 40 days of clean eating isn't going to mess you up. The only thing you should complain about is how much $$ you're going to spend when you succeed and you want to flaunt that **** with fancy new clothes.
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I have never cared for the number on the scale. For me, my focus has always been getting healthier, being more fit, and staying off the numerous meds I used to take. Focus on the little things. How clothes fit, fitness levels, how YOU feel. The number on the scale is just a small piece of the puzzle.
  • jadethief
    jadethief Posts: 266 Member
    I started out with 100 lbs to lose and that is daunting. When you first start out and your ticker shows you've lost 6 lbs it seems like you're never, never going to get there. So instead, I take it one day at a time. My goal is not to lose 100 lbs.........it is to stay within my calorie allowance and to do some sort of exercise each day. I know if I do that, then the weight is going to come off.

    Make sure you spend some time reading the forums, especially the Success forum. You'll see everyday people who stuck with it and have the lost the weight. Hang in there and you will succeed too!
  • zaxaz
    zaxaz Posts: 32 Member
    Congratulations! You're way ahead of me when I first started - self-realization!

    I got started when a friend gave me a 20 lb challenge, and I thought I didn't need to lose 20 lbs, maybe 5 or 10. I reluctantly started, when my friend started telling other people that we had a 20 lb challenge.

    Well, I am now on my fourth 20 lb challenge (down 64 lbs since last Feb). I feel a lot better healthwise, look a lot better, and feel a lot better mentally and emotionally. The best part is that I no longer I have those days when I felt "blah" and ended up eating all kinds of junk food, whatever was in the house.

    My target weight isn't so much a number, it's more of how I want to feel (or look). But I translate it into a number so I can measure it on the scale. You need to measure things to see progress.
  • kittykay57
    kittykay57 Posts: 3
    All good advice, listen to it and believe it. It really is one day at a time.
  • fattyfoodie
    fattyfoodie Posts: 232 Member
    A colleague of mine who is an endocrinologist and weight loss specialist says that the first step is to stop gaining weight, so congratulations, you are already past that!

    I am doing Weight Watchers this time, and the thing I love about it is that they encourage you to set small goals. So for example, my starting weight was 239.6. My first "big" goal is to lose 5% of my body weight, or 12 pounds. That's it, 12 pounds. Way, way, WAY more doable than looking at the total I want to lose, which is in the vicinity of 75 pounds.

    After I hit my 5%, I will then set a new goal, which will be to hit 10% of starting weight lost, or 24 pounds. My next goal after that will be to see Onederland, and so on and so on. So my advice is set small goals, even a goal to lose 5 pounds is good because you just feel so darn encouraged when you get there.

    Good luck, and congratulations on your success so far.
  • Celeigh12
    Celeigh12 Posts: 763 Member
    If I were you, I'd listen to Celeigh12.....she DID lose 155 pounds.

    ^ Yep. :drinker: Wow.

    You can do this. One day. Each day. Time will pass... you will get where you're going if you just aim in the right direction.

    Aw, thanks! And, OP, you're welcome to friend me! Live life like the person you want to be and you can't help but get there.
  • Candi0386
    Candi0386 Posts: 7
    I'm in the same boat. I have to lose half of my body weight to have a healthy BMI (I'm 5'7"). I just started this journey last week and my first weigh-in is tomorrow. My motivation has been, "I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday." I'm doing the right things and trusting that the scale and my measurements will respond positively. Set mini goals too. Instead of looking at the large number, break it down and reward yourself with a massage or pedicure when you reach the mini goals. That's my plan. Like I said, this is my first week and I already dropped my belt down a notch! Focus on non-scale victories like that. It really helps motivate me. Feel free to add me. I wasn't on here to add friends but knowing someone is in the same boat as me helps me row harder. LOL! :happy:
  • ruwise
    ruwise Posts: 265 Member
    I can fully understand that I lost almost 100lb's and then gained it all back and more because of that obsession with the scales. I look back at the photo's of me when I stopped and gave up and get so mad at myself because I looked amazing (for me anyway!). This time I am looking at more than just the weight on the scales. I've taken measurements and body fat %. My ultimate goal is to have a healthy body fat %.

    I agree with those who say break it down. I've just hit my 10% change which was great. There are so many mini milestones that you will hit along the way. Also, maybe you'll never hit that final number but the closer you are to it the healthier you will be.
  • mhorn2142
    mhorn2142 Posts: 319 Member
    I seems like a huge undertaking I know, but you have started the process. Make mini Goals instead. Make weekly goals that will help you towards your over all goal' For example: week 1- try a new healthy food, exercise 3 times a week for 30 min, and drink 1 extra glass of water a day. This is a good way to start all of these goals are good for the long term but are easy to reach.

    set mini goals9Weekly specific goals)
    set mid length goals (X #s in 6 weeks)
    set long term goals-semi broad (should be a result of mid and mini goals- can even be rewards like fitting into a certain shirt)
    set an ultimate goal- Broad goal ( healthy and my ideal weight)
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    I don't spend much time at all thinking about weighing 130. I just focus on my new lifestyle, which involves eating healthier, eating less and moving more. I will have to continue to do those even if I make goal weight.

    My weight is stuck at 201, so some days it seems pretty likely that I won't ever make my goal weight. but I keep plugging away, I still have salad for lunch, I still get up at 6am to workout.

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