If you struggle/d with bad body image...

I hear ya. I feel the same way. I've changed my "goal" weight a couple times because once I get to one goal I'm still not please with the way I look. And now, again, I'm about 5 lbs from another "goal" weight and I still feel its not enough. I do NOT want to be stick thin. I don't want to be a "walking skeleton" as my hubby calls 'em LOL. I just want to be happy in my own skin..in my clothes...in my swim suit, but even after 55 lbs I'm not there yet. I'm not sure how to shake the "fat girl" mentality, but I know I'm working on it. When people compliment me I force myself to tell them Thank you and agree with them, rather than thinking my own negative thoughts behind an insincere thank you. At the end of my workouts I tell myself that I am strong and I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. When I start to focus on the negative aspects of my body, I remind myself that I'm still a work in progress and if I keep doing the right things and eating the right foods I will get there. I didn't get fat over night and I'm not gonna get skinny over night either.

Best of luck to you. You will be happy in your own skin but you just have to change your mindset.

I struggle with this a lot. I feel like my body is a war zone after all I have put it through and I do feel that no matter what size I am at it will never look "perfect" I have loose skin from my pregnancy and being 50lbs heavier in the past. I am doing my best to focus on being healthy and not so much about it being about the way I look. I am pretty happy with my body now (when I have clothes on at least) and I am really just trying to do what is best for my health and happiness. I think the rest will fall into place eventually.

The problem is not your weight. The problem is that you don't feel at home in your body. And this has nothing to do with your weight or the way you look itself.
I think nowadays we tend to be extremely critical with the way we look. We try to be perfect or to fulfill an ideal model of something we don't even can really explain.
130 lbs ...have you any idea how that sounds to some people here? It's a dream many will probably never reach. That's not an attack, btw, I just try to show that we all have different perspectives. You're not happy in your body. Others would kill (so to speak) just to get close to this.
You said you saw pics of you at your wedding and you realized how amazing you lokked. I think that's it. Looking at something from the outside changes the perspective and makes us see that all the little (or big) things we worry about aren't really concerning.
Will I be happy with my body, when I reached my goal? I don't know it. To be honest, I doubt it. I know myself well enough. There will always be something I won't be happy about. But I hope I will learn to accept that, even the little failures. They make me who I am, not a perfect supermodel (btw, they aren't that perfect either), but a human being, breathing and living a good and healthy life. I hope I will learn that perfection isn't made for me and that I'm perfect enought the way I am, because there are people who really love me. And there must be a reason why they do, don't you think? It's the same with you. Your body doesn't make the real YOU. It's just a part of it. Being at home in yourself makes many things easier. And I honestly hope you will find that feeling one day, just like I hope it for myself.

I just wrote a blog earlier, basically leading up to this point! I've been unhappy with my body since I was 8, so after so many years of thinking that way, even though I've reached my goal, I'm still unsatisfied! Hoping to distract my mind with something else, stay healthy and just enjoy life all together.

I compare myself with others as well, always!! For me I think it comes from when I was younger from elementary through high school I was teased for being big. I was never actually big as in over weight but I was much taller than most of the boys who made fun of me. They always called me big red or big bird, so I always thought I was fat, like I said elementary through high school, now of course looking back, I wasn't fat at all. I played volleyball and was in really good shape, but I think when people tell you stuff like that it sticks in your head. I am hoping when I get closer to my goal weight I can be happy.

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there is a special out right now that you can watch for free on on demand....it is jessica simpson traveling to different parts of the world and how they perceive beauty..i only watched 1 or 2 but it was really amazing. they went to one place where people of ALL sizes flaunt themselves and are happy! then one place they showed a woman that payed for plastic surgery over having a home/food for her children....it is so different everywhere you go.
I just want to be happy in my own skin...i dont want to delete the photos of me anymore...i want to put myself on the computer and be proud of who i am....i hope we can all do this:)