Downside of Losing Weight

Those people don't matter, so who cares. Haters gonna hate, you should be proud that you're gaining haters from your hard work.

Make it your goal to get twenty more of them. Wear your weight loss on your chest like a badge. (Don't brag or be an *kitten* about it, but don't feel you have to hide anything).

YES.

I went home recently and saw friends I hadn't seen for maybe 6-7 months, which was before I lost any weight and when I was at my biggest. First of all, the reactions were great and lots of compliments were thrown around, which was really nice.
However, I went shopping with a friend of mine who is around the same size I was and she would NOT stop mentioning it. When we were in the changing rooms she brought it up and if I complained that I thought something didn't look good she replied with "you are so skinny now, what are you talking about?" like that was all that mattered.
Don't get me wrong, I love her and we had a lovely day aside from that but the jealousy was very clear to me and it wasn't something I liked as I wasn't trying to rub anything in her face. Simply trying to be a girl with her friend.

I also find that now when I discuss my fitness or diet with people, they want to try to find out if I have an eating disorder or if I am "over doing" it. Which I feel again, is jealousy.

The best thing you can do is take it in your stride and hope that the longer you maintain being smaller, the more people will get over it and accept that's who you are and how you look now. Unfortunately, people who see others lose weight who have their own body hangups tend to do this rather than being happy for others. I can say this as I once was one of these people!

Jealousy is a powerful tool if you channel the power correctly. Lucky for me, men don't act that way regarding fat loss. Most are more concerned with other parts of the body


Realize that you are ALLOWING them the power to make your work life miserable. Realize why they are doing it - it's most likely due to you making them question themselves in private about their own health and body.

I am in sales, and I know that people who warn my sales people "I am not buying anything today!" are not telling that to my sales people, they are actually telling that to themselves. In the business I'm in, that is a great thing to hear, because they are trying to fight off the urge to buy - rather than someone who comes in pretending they are interested, knowing they won't buy anyway - so why tell anyone?

These women are trying to make themselves feel better so they don't have to face the music about dealing with their own changes. Change is hard, which is why most people opt for the status quo.

If you show that it bothers you, then they will do it more... It's called Mob mentality. Just smiling or ignoring doesn't work... Give examples of how they act, or what they say, and a well timed knockout line can shut them up.

Stay strong!

I do know that the office I used to work at the women were always wanting to order out food, not eat healthy at all. It was extremely hard when I would go on lunch with them with my packed lunch that was generally pretty healthy and I would be so tempted to get something else like what they were eating. I can tell you that I actually felt stronger and healthier than them when I would come back from lunch knowing I usually stuck to my packed lunch and they pigged out on really bad stuff.
I also think it sucks when they try to get you to eat unhealthy, like when we would have office parties and they would bring in so many unhealthy things and if you don't eat it then they say things like, "ohh are you on a diet??" as if it's a bad thing.
Anyways, just remember that at the end of the day you are living a healthy lifestyle and have lost a lot of weight, which are both things to be very proud of!!!!!

I had that when I used to go to my regular. After about 7-8 years I lost alot of weight. Alot of girls didn't like it although in my scenario it was also the skinny girls that was hating! I didn't let it bother me it made me feel good!!! :happy:

I can't wait to have that problem. Keep doing what you are doing!!!!!

Meh, you are there to work. Ignore them.. be your best, do your best, continue to be comfortable in your skin.

They're just jellymad bishes. I tend to be quite blunt so I usually just say "Don't be mad than I'm skinny and you're a gigantic ham beast planet. I can help you come up with a diet plan if you want." This way I get to insult them/make them more aware of their fat as fatassness while also offering a solution. Another solution is to lift your shirt up/take your shirt off, flex and dance around a bit and say "You 'mirin, brah?"

Consider it a backhanded form of flattery, because in essence, that's all it is.