I'm an apple shape and I hate myself what should I do?

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  • muneca84
    muneca84 Posts: 6 Member
    Hello my fellow apple shaped ladies!!

    I too get disgusted with my body but until i started to work out ive notice my body toning up and more shape to it and gives me motivation to keep going to see how I can transform my body!!

    Doing the 30 day shred for the 2nd time around.

    Add me (:
  • TrailNurse
    TrailNurse Posts: 359 Member
    I am totally an apple shape. Friend me and take a look at my before and after pictures. Something to look forward to. Start tracking your food and get your *kitten* in the gym. :)
  • TLCorsini
    TLCorsini Posts: 78
    Let me start off by saying those people who reply "stop hating yourself" need to piss off. If you cant understand that it's not a matter of "doing" then you have no business commenting. I also am an Apple shape and hate my body. It's a mental thing, not a will thing. I used to be a cute 125 lb girl and now i'm 180lbs. Its EXTREMELY difficult to love yourself after you feel like you've exploded and feel disgusting in your own body. It is possible to get through it. It's almost like a mental illness, you dont walk up to a belemic and just tell them to stop throwin up. I found that "dating myself" has helped my to love myself more. After gaining weight, I never wanted to do my makeup or fix my hair or wear nice clothes cuz I thought, whats the use, I'm fat anyways, its not like it will make a difference. Well boy was I wrong. I spent a little extra $ and got my hair cut shorter than I'd had in years, got good shampoo for the hair color, I make sure my nails are always done even if I have to do them myself, I get up early to take a shower and style my hair and do makeup. This has helped me realize that you CAN be beautiful even if there are spare pounds. I have friends who are bigger than me, and I never see them for their size but instead for how confident and powerful they are. If you carry yourself with pride and confidence, they good mood will radiate. Now, as far as nutrition goes, I had done some research (I know this was especially true for me, and yes everyone is different, but it may help) and found that I gain weight in my middle due to a low tolerance of sugar. Apple shapped people have a higer chance of developing Diabetes and I found that I was already on my way to that point and had developed "Insulin resistency" and was pre-diabetic. After cutting out lots of sugar and carbs/starch I started to feel much better. Altough I lost about 10 lbs, I felt less dense if that makes sense? My Dr. reccomended the South Beach Diet because it's better for my shape because it helps you to re-balance your tolerance to sugar etc. I also found that taking a good abount of B-12 has helped me AMAZINGLY. It really increases my mood and I am always more upbeat when I take them and my multi-vitamins. Also, I know it's not that easy to find out, but if you know what your blood type is, there are suggestions for how to eat based on that. If you donate blood they can tell youi ive been told. For me, I will NEVER see results with diet and calorie deprevation alone, I NEED to burn calories or it wont come off. Cardio and weight lifting helped me the most. I had lost around 35 lbs. and then got so tired I stopped and gained it all back and now I'm here again. A pound of fat is 3,500 calories, so I log the calories burned to get a more realistic timeline of how fast I should be losing weight if I stick to it. Weight loss and body acceptance is a long and tough battle. It IS possible to love your body as long as your willing to put in the work and effort. I hope this helps. I'm no expert but this is what I have found to be true for me. Good luck! :)
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    The mybodygallery.com site has some lovely apple shaped women on it. I don't think apple shaped dooms anyone to unattractiveness.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Wow, oldest thread EVER.... Who dredged this up?!
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    You can't change the places that your body keeps fat, but you can change the amount of fat on your body. Lose fat, gain muscle, and you'll be happier with your body.
  • corsayre8
    corsayre8 Posts: 551 Member
    I'm on my phone, and can't post a pic, but take a look at my profile pic- particularly the post run pictures. I'm also apple shaped, but that apple looks a whole lot different at a healthy weight. I was just under 170 at 5'10" and still had work to to. But that is hardly a body to hate. We may not ever be curvy, but that doesn't mean we can't be trim and sexy.
  • Bjninja
    Bjninja Posts: 44
    Yes, please don't hate your shape. I am a pear, as curvy and hourglass as they come, and I can't find a pair of pants that fit my hips AND my waist. Lane Bryant comes close, but I always have to take things in. Plus I'm not that big on top, and I've never been able to sleep on my back. I've always wanted the shapely legs you have, and for my bum to be smaller. So believe me, each shape has it's own problems. I might be the "definition" of womanly, but it's not all rainbows! I do agree with everyone here though, build more muscle and you'll love the results!
  • aprmay
    aprmay Posts: 216 Member
    I am apple shaped and I love it. As soon as I lose my tummy and get fit everywhere, I will be athletic looking so I am actually excited to be an apple. Don't hate your body. Work with it!!!
  • rfsatar
    rfsatar Posts: 599 Member
    I'm the dreaded apple shape.

    I have no booty
    no hips
    big tummy and boobs

    You can't change your shape even if you lose weight body shape is body shape. I hate this so much, everytime I hear "Your hip size is predetermined by bone structure and cannot be changed." I want to scream and cry and punch things.

    I long for a curvy shape, an hour glass or pear. And no matter what I do or how much weight I lose I will still be an apple shape. I don't mind being fat, I like it I prefer fat/chubby/thick bodies to thins ones. I'm only losing weight so I my apple shape is not so exaggerated. But since I'll never not be an apple I have no motivation to go on.

    I'm a puerto rican girl with no hips or booty, a 42 inch waist and no more motivation.

    I'm an apple shape. I got myself to the gym to do cardio/strength and I eat a little better than I was doing.
    I now appear to have some hips and a waist again.

    It can be done - motivate yourself to want it enough, and you will make it happen.
  • synthomarsh
    synthomarsh Posts: 189 Member
    The only way I was able to start getting healthy was when I had the epiphany that my poor self image and body hatred was contributing to me abusing my body. I decided that even if I wasn't the shape I wanted to be, I would work on treating my body in a loving manner. Love yourself, and the rest will fall into place.
    awesome advice maybe even better profile pic!
  • synthomarsh
    synthomarsh Posts: 189 Member
    just start doing some heavy lifting to get that booty, squats deadlifts and lunges.... anyones body will change when you get the right body fat % take it one day at a time and you will get where you wanna be
  • tabik30
    tabik30 Posts: 443
    I am as well but have learned that with healthy eating and exercise and toning I can be hourglass! Go get it!
  • Hezzietiger1
    Hezzietiger1 Posts: 1,256 Member
    I have the same shape but losing weight made my significantly smaller. I still have a belly.. but with the right clothes... apple isnt that bad.
  • AllergicToExercise
    AllergicToExercise Posts: 436 Member
    You will lose inches from your waist although the hard part is that it may be the last place to come off. With perseverance though you can get there.

    I'm pear/hourglass and wish I had the slim legs you apple ladies have! And my biggest area is my hips so guess what - that's the last place the inches come off. But I just did 30DS and did notice some loss in that area. I'm moving on to Ripped in 30 in the hope of seeing further results.

    Fight those stubborn areas! ????
  • stayr
    stayr Posts: 2
    I know what you're saying! I'm 5'4 and 106lbs with a small waist, wider hips but skinny legs and arms, small breasts and a small butt. I always used hated my body because all I hear is 'real women have curves' and that small breasts and small butts are unattractive and skinny women are horrid and having visible bones is disgusting and having curves makes you a woman and people hate slim girls and so and so forth and it's awful! It's just genetics! I've grown to like my body but I wish I had more muscle! I've managed to transform my 16 inch thighs into 18 inch thighs which I'm pleased with. I've just got to battle against a very fast metabolism.

    However I do believe that we should appreciate ourselves for how we are because there's nothing we can do about it and someone will always love you for who you are :) that and anyone really who cares what your body looks like isn't worth your time of day anyway!
  • jesskreg
    jesskreg Posts: 75 Member
    I know you may feel like you have no shape, but it's there! I'm an apple shape, too. I gain all my weight in my stomach and chest.After losing 50 lbs, I've began to realize that I have more curves than I thought. Really focus on your health, though. At first I was focusing on my appearance, then realized that if I continue at the rate I was going, I would really suffer health wise. I started taking Zumba. It's really fun and a great workout! It helped me to slim down my midsection. I went from measurements of 40-38-44 to 36-32-38! Don't give up! And remember- you are beautiful just the way you are! :)
  • Don't hate your baody firts thing is love yourself , second If you wnat to lose your hips you can do it, but you have to eat good and do work out...... So do at less 45 minutes of cardio try to walk until you hit 600 calories,...... cut as much salt and sugars as you can try alson drink lots of water don't eat any pork or beef for a while and you will see the change let me knnow...
  • jaimrlx
    jaimrlx Posts: 426 Member
    Stop hating your body.

    I think if it were this simple, a lot of us wouldn't be on MFP.

    OP, I'm the apple shape too. If I had a nickel for every time someone asked me if I was pregnant, well.. I'd have 15 cents. Still hurts.

    :cry:
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    I also have no booty....but no boobs....you win
  • ajhugz
    ajhugz Posts: 452 Member
    I thought I was an apple until I put my measurements in here http://www.calculator.net/body-type-calculator.html

    You can't change your body shape but you can get back down to a size you are happy seeing yourself at. You can also do exercises to balance your body out. Would you rather give up and look the same or keep working hard and look better? You can do squats, lunges and more to work your leg and but muscles. Will you magically grow a big bubble butt no, but you will lift and shape the one you have.

    Use the hate you have for your body to motivate you to continue on your weight loss journey. I'm still not happy with the way my body looks but comparing my before and after. I'd take this body over what I had 11 lbs ago. I have a big belly but I have big everything else too. Walking and running has helped me slim my tummy. Other parts are slimming too but not as much as my tummy.
  • aprmay
    aprmay Posts: 216 Member
    I thought I was an apple until I put my measurements in here http://www.calculator.net/body-type-calculator.html

    Oh great, now I am a banana?!? I thought I was an apple shape.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    I understand. I have been an apple shape all my life. Actually now I am called and inverted triangle, not sure what sounds worse.
    Big boobs, short thick waist, narrow hips, flat butt, skinny legs.
    It got even worse when I gained 100 pounds over 20 yrs. Now I am at really high risk for Diabetes and heart disease. And I look pregnant!

    Best thing I did before I gained my weight, was get into body building. Strengthened my legs and arms and found body parts that looked great! I never got the little bitty waist and hourglass figure, but I looked pretty dang good, and I was seriously strong.

    I am down almost 50 pounds and yesterday I wore a belt! I actually had a little bit of a waist, and it looked kinda cute.

    No, you can't change your body shape from an apple to a pear, but you can make the most of the body you have and embrace your strengths.
  • ajhugz
    ajhugz Posts: 452 Member
    I thought I was an apple until I put my measurements in here http://www.calculator.net/body-type-calculator.html

    Oh great, now I am a banana?!? I thought I was an apple shape.

    Rectangle/banana means your hips and bust and pretty much the same circumference and your waist is less than 9" smaller than your bust.
  • BarackMeLikeAHurricane
    BarackMeLikeAHurricane Posts: 3,400 Member
    If you lose enough weight you just kind of have no shape. You can't spot reduce fat, but you can target muscle groups to add mass in those places.I used to be kind of hourglass shaped but I hated having hips. I lost a good amount of weight and focused my workouts to be aimed for strength for my lower body but hypertrophy for my upper body. Now I'm "reverse triangle" shaped with a muscular upper body and lean hips and waist.
  • holothuroidea
    holothuroidea Posts: 772 Member
    You are NOT apple shaped. You are HUMAN shaped.

    I'm so tired of this fruit shape nonsense. >.<
  • ajhugz
    ajhugz Posts: 452 Member

    I'm so tired of this fruit shape nonsense. >.<

    If you don't like it stay out of the fruit shaped threads... Go be human shaped elsewhere!
  • holothuroidea
    holothuroidea Posts: 772 Member

    I'm so tired of this fruit shape nonsense. >.<

    If you don't like it stay out of the fruit shaped threads... Go be human shaped elsewhere!

    lol, it was never that serious :)
  • ajhugz
    ajhugz Posts: 452 Member

    I'm so tired of this fruit shape nonsense. >.<

    If you don't like it stay out of the fruit shaped threads... Go be human shaped elsewhere!

    lol, it was never that serious :)

    Oh sorry... Humans welcome here :-)
  • exostan
    exostan Posts: 38
    if its any consolation, I heard that most fashion models are very skinny apples.

    but it true, if you lose enough weight, you just kinda have no shape. The shape becomes more pronounced with every mass of fat gained