Frustrated and Impatient

Anndreaaa
Anndreaaa Posts: 5
edited January 19 in Motivation and Support
How do you stay motivated? I give up so easily because I just lose hope. Help?

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  • starfinale
    starfinale Posts: 309 Member
    when I realized that there has been nothing in my life that I've been proud of. I have nothing going for me. That alone is motivating. I want to lose weight more than anything else in the world. When you want something so badly, you will not quit. Self motivation comes first.

    I recently found nice people on here who are in the same situation as me. They keep me motivated when I see their progress. I don't have anyone in my life motivating me but the people on MFP are so helpful.
  • Anndreaaa
    Anndreaaa Posts: 5
    Wow! You've lost so much weight! I'm hoping I will find nice people here! How long did it take you?
  • starfinale
    starfinale Posts: 309 Member
    Wow! You've lost so much weight! I'm hoping I will find nice people here! How long did it take you?

    7 months!
  • csheltra26
    csheltra26 Posts: 272 Member
    Set reasonable expectations. Don't expect to lose 10 pounds a week. Think of it as a lifestyle change and enjoy all the little changes you are going through. For me, my health is very important. I know if I eat healthy and exercise its better for my overall health even if the scale doesn't move much. Good luck!
  • dirtyd89
    dirtyd89 Posts: 170
    I always try to stay optimistic and keep trying.
    Quotes also help.
    ex.) My favorites.
    "A man can only quit in two ways if he gives up or he dies."
    "Nothing is impossible when heart and mind are put to the test.-Spartacus
    "The only easy day was yesterday.-SEAL Team 1 (U.S Navy)
    "In the end there will only be chaos."-Kratos
    etc.
  • starfinale
    starfinale Posts: 309 Member
    I always try to stay optimistic and keep trying.
    Quotes also help.
    ex.) My favorites.
    "A man can only quit in two ways if he gives up or he dies."
    "Nothing is impossible when heart and mind are put to the test.-Spartacus
    "The only easy day was yesterday.-SEAL Team 1 (U.S Navy)
    "In the end there will only be chaos."-Kratos
    etc.

    I love the quotes!!
  • nornyb
    nornyb Posts: 224 Member
    Just keep going. Some days are good, some days are not, but a day is only a day and there is always another one.
  • ShannonTourne
    ShannonTourne Posts: 77 Member
    I tell myself that no food taste as good as how getting healthy feels. And truly, it doesn't. I still struggle with emotional eating, and sometimes I lose the battle. But, I pick myself up and continue on. I have a long road in front of me, so it gets overwhelming, but I know that I can do the next right thing. Keep going, because you deserve it!
  • foleyshirley
    foleyshirley Posts: 1,043 Member
    Because quitting gets you back to the starting point, or even worse. You have to be in this for the long haul. There will be successes and failures; good days and bad. You may sometimes stall in weight loss. You will not be perfect. Until you are truly ready and willing to stick to it through thick and thin, this will not work. It is slow sometimes. The weight will not just fall off. This takes work! It took me years to get to this point. When you can't take it anymore, you will know and be ready. My day was June 6, the day after my birthday. I had had enough!
  • Anndreaaa
    Anndreaaa Posts: 5
    Whoa! All you guys are great! Thanks everyone. I've been slacking and it's only the third or so week :( was it hard for you to start and actually stay on track with your diet during the first couple of weeks? Once again, you guys are awesome.. I wouldn't have even guessed anyone would even reply! :)
  • purpleprose78
    purpleprose78 Posts: 40
    I remind myself that I'm not here to lose weight. Losing weight is secondary. I'm here to change years and years of bad habits and behaviors. Those are what got me to my high weight. When I change those habits, the weight should come off. While the weight is coming off slowly, I'm doing great in other areas. I eat a real breakfast every morning rather than getting a pepsi and honeybun out of the vending machine. I pack my lunch every day rather than getting something from the cafeteria at work. I'm tracking everything (no cheating). If I go over my calories, so be it. No beating myself up this time around. I look at the week holistically. If I've been under most of the rest of the week, the one day I choose to go out with friends isn't going to hurt me. I'm focusing on adding good habits. Drinking more water. Snacking on fruits and veggies instead of chips and chocolate. Paying attention to what makes me feel the most full. Exercising whenever possible. (This one has been the most challenging because of work.) I'm down 9 lbs since February 22 which I think is pretty good.

    Honestly, this feels sustainable to me and nothing I've done before felt that way. And believe me, I've tried nearly everything.
  • nornyb
    nornyb Posts: 224 Member
    I remind myself that I'm not here to lose weight. Losing weight is secondary. I'm here to change years and years of bad habits and behaviors. Those are what got me to my high weight. When I change those habits, the weight should come off. While the weight is coming off slowly, I'm doing great in other areas. I eat a real breakfast every morning rather than getting a pepsi and honeybun out of the vending machine. I pack my lunch every day rather than getting something from the cafeteria at work. I'm tracking everything (no cheating). If I go over my calories, so be it. No beating myself up this time around. I look at the week holistically. If I've been under most of the rest of the week, the one day I choose to go out with friends isn't going to hurt me. I'm focusing on adding good habits. Drinking more water. Snacking on fruits and veggies instead of chips and chocolate. Paying attention to what makes me feel the most full. Exercising whenever possible. (This one has been the most challenging because of work.) I'm down 9 lbs since February 22 which I think is pretty good.

    Honestly, this feels sustainable to me and nothing I've done before felt that way. And believe me, I've tried nearly everything.

    I agree with everything here and add this: this is NOT a diet, which suggests something temporary. I eat what I eat and I log it all. If I go over my calories I won't see the results I want as quickly as I want. And sometimes I do go over. Not a big deal, just one day in a lifetime of days.
  • iceman7840
    iceman7840 Posts: 110
    When I was at my worst, I was feeling so low that I almost gave up on life completely. I never want to feel like that again!

    Knowing I have the ability to better myself one day at a time is how I stay motivated.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,189 Member
    Motivation is internal. If something is important enough to you, then obstacles can usually be overcome. I usually find that people who get frustrated and impatient don't have a specific enough plan and/or set unrealistic goals for themselves.
    If you had 30 days to lose 4% of your body weight in a month or you would die, you'd find a way to get it done. Sounds extreme, but the point is come hell or high water, it would get done.

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    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • MrsAntiquoY1
    MrsAntiquoY1 Posts: 10
    I know exactly how you feel.I always say I'm sticking to it & end up quitting & the cycle repeats itself which makes me more frustrated.I came across a quote awhile back that said..."If you are tired of starting over...stop quitting!!! I said if I want different results I have to do something never done before & that's set a goal & stick with it. Now I'm not just dieting & exercising I'm making lifestyle changes...& you can do it too don't give up!!
  • Anndreaaa
    Anndreaaa Posts: 5
    When I was at my worst, I was feeling so low that I almost gave up on life completely. I never want to feel like that again!

    Knowing I have the ability to better myself one day at a time is how I stay motivated.

    Wow! You've come along way! Congratulation! I think my lowest point is usually when I'm in the fitting room and realize how bad it's gotten. Not as bad compared to you but to me it feels horrible. but great job! You're doing so awesome :)
  • Anndreaaa
    Anndreaaa Posts: 5
    I know exactly how you feel.I always say I'm sticking to it & end up quitting & the cycle repeats itself which makes me more frustrated.I came across a quote awhile back that said..."If you are tired of starting over...stop quitting!!! I said if I want different results I have to do something never done before & that's set a goal & stick with it. Now I'm not just dieting & exercising I'm making lifestyle changes...& you can do it too don't give up!!

    You seem like you're doing great now! It would be amazing to stick with being healthy for like ever. Good job on your lose! :D
  • JoanB5
    JoanB5 Posts: 610 Member
    Ultimate goals: health, not beauty. Fitness, not weight loss. Grace, not just my own willpower. Thankfulness.

    Forums. Goals. Great stories. Great people.

    Posts like this one tonight: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/791654-older-women-success-stories-please?page=2 (Read California Girl's comment).
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