discouraged...need some encouragement

I am with you I love food too! I started MFP 7 weeks ago. I have been doing good you just have to keep at it. My life also got alot busier. I am finding it hard to find time for me. I do however watch what I eat and keep under my calories. I know if I can do it you can as well. If you need more support add me as a friend. I will try to help you stay on track.

Keep going! You can do it! I think we all understand how life can get in the way of eating healthy. But you can do it!

I wish i had an inspiring story to share but I don't. It just the daily fight to make the right choices. Everyday is a new day and even in the midst of chaos you can make the choice to grab fruit instead of a brownie or order a salad instead of the hamburger. Just find ways make those little changes even when you find yourself at the drive thru for the 4th time that week because you haven't been home for longer than 15 minutes at a time.

While I have no inspiring story or extrodinary piece of advice, I can tell you that the first is always the hardest. As you keep going and really commit everyday to eating well and making those better choices you will find that it becomes easier and easier everyday! So stick with it! You are still 3 pounds down and you can continue! Stick with it! And best of luck!

We can give you the "magic" words that might give you that encouragement to keep moving forward or we may give you the words that may make it seem harder. At the end of the day, IT DOESN'T really matter what we say, what matters is what YOU think that matters.

You seriously ONLY have 2 options:

1) Don't change anything and keep gaining weight
2) Change things and lose weight!

It's your choice. I can only give you some pointers since I'm NOT perfect at this yet. I too have had a SUPER difficult time staying on track or being committed to this, but I realized that as the days passed by, the days where I thought about how much it sucked that I was fat and gaining more weight... I only kept gaining more and more. So, stop thinking and DO IT!

My pointers:

1) Don't look at the 100 lbs!!! How about you make a 20 lbs goal first? Do that, and since it won't seem far away you'll get to it easily, don't over stress your mind thinking about 100!!! Start off with 20, ok?

2) Eat foods you love, just in different ways and amounts, little by little. I have done this in the past and I've learned that I don't have to starve myself or eat disgusting foods without taste in order for me to lose weight. I am doing this again and decided to slowly change the way I eat, this is NOT a race, it's a lifestyle, changing the way you eat little by little. Don't worry if you only lose 1 lb, choose different options and little by little you'll get used to it. Find healthy yummy recipes online, you can find YUMMY good healthy food, not just plain canned tuna for lunch.

3) I know that the last time I tried I decided to go on FULL force! I ate NOTHING but disgusting OPTIONS for healthy foods. I went SUPER strict, I had NOTHING good and decided to work out like there was no tomorrow, well... it went well for about 2 weeks and then.... I just couldn't handle it anymore! I got tired of not being able to enjoy something sweet or a day off. What has worked for me this time is that I have taken it super easy, yeah it may take longer for me to lose the weight but for sure I'll stay on track. I didn't start exercising until this week really, I gave myself 2 weeks of just healthy eating and this week I added exercise, AND not even real exercise - but more like dancing! I love dancing so I dance at home and sweat my *kitten* off and I burn calories without even knowing.

4) You don't have to run, learn how to WALK first?

XOXO
Adriana

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You have come back! That is the starting point. Now that you are asking for our support, TAKE IT! Every day that goes by, just know that we all think of you and are here for you whenever you need us! I found that if I deprive myself of ANYTHING that I like, I resent the weight loss journey altogether. Now, I eat exactly what I want, but thank goodness for this site, I keep a journal every day and make myself accountable. I wholeheartedly agree with HALLOWEENMOM2 to take smaller goals at a time. A much larger one will make you feel defeated right from the start. Go with 20, then another 10, then maybe 15.Whatever. Just make it a goal you can live with. 100 is a lot. But reaching 20 pounds lost 5 times may be more appealing!! : ) And reward yourself at each of these goals. Good luck, and add me as a friend.

Keep on logging, even when you aren't in a good place, because over time the fact that you are mindful of what you are doing pays off. You make better choices as time goes by because you are changing what's inside, and it slowly filters into your choices. And we're going to have weak times in our life, whether circumstancial or hormonal (a body thing you have no control over).

Hang in there, and friend me if you want another person cheering you on!

take one day at a time...seriously. remember that in any aspect, yesterdays actions don't predetermine tomorrow's blessings...that being said, take the stairs. NO ELEVATOR. Drink twice the water & stretch tonight. You'll feel better about yourself : )

Be thankful that you are well aware of your behavior. The discouragement you feel at having lost control is completely normal. So is the guilt. You really have to empower yourself when committing to your well fare and well being. I find that stress impacts us the most, we seem to lose control and start losing our efforts to eat well and exercise. Realize that maintaining your control over your eating habits and keeping your exercise routine and varying your activities give you that control that you crave. When I am in control I feel powerful- I feel i can handle anything. It is so easy to let go- but the guilt only sets us back for another eating frenzy. Master your power to stick with your resolution to commit to a better lifestyle and maintaining optimum health ! You can do it... and you know it! Good for you for being aware of your emotions... and admitting these is phenomenal. Paste affirmative affirmation on the fridge, write down your emotions and feelings in a journal, reward yourself with a sticker or bingo dabber seems easier to fail. Reward yourself with pride and accomplishment, and use it as fuel to propel yourself towards a better and healthier you! Keep on keepin' on!!! Jo