Binge-Eating Problems

I've been binge eating for coming up to 7 years (I'm 23 in June) - WHY did I ever go on a stupid diet when I was 17!? I was probably at my lowest weight ever at that point - but I read Bridget Jones' Diary (which made me think I was fat!) so I started to count calories.

7 years and every diet under-the-sun later, and here I am! Stuck in a vicious cycle of healthy eating for 4 days, binge-eating for 2.

I'm lucky enough that I'm not overweight - I'm 136lb and 5' 6' - but on my frame, even at this healthy weight, I do carry a 'chubby layer' - which I believe I'd be rid of if I could stop this binge eating. It's so hard though.

What I'm looking for is advice. I've been told not to 'diet' as this can trigger binges, but I count my calories on here to feel like I have a little control. I've tried intuitive eating and I just don't feel like I'm ready for it yet. I try not to deprive myself of the foods I crave, but there really is only so much chocolate you can eat before you go over your calorie allowance! I also struggle with guilt whenever I eat 'forbidden foods...' so I try and eat them when my husband or family are around (makes me feel better when everyone is having some!)

My real problem is my mentality. I truly wake up some mornings and believe that I just want to binge. When I wake up like that, the day is usually doomed from there, and I'll end up either fighting the urge all day and then giving in at night - or just eating myself into a food coma all day. When my 'binge-brain' is awakened, its as if nothing will satisfy me unless I curl up and watch Legally Blonde with a pizza and tub of B&J (and usually lots, lots, more. We're talking 4000-5000 calorie binges here.)

So, sorry to waffle on...but if anyone has any advice, I'd love to hear it! I'm honestly coming to the end of my rope with this...

Jade x

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  • laurenbrooke79
    laurenbrooke79 Posts: 27 Member
    I'd like to see what others have to say about this because I am almost the same way. Its like when I get into binge mode theres nothing I can do to stop it feels like :/ I went 3 weeks without binging recently and it was great. I want to get back into that mentalitiy
  • nancybuss
    nancybuss Posts: 1,461 Member
    I've had a friend recently confess to this and I'll be watching for help too, for her.

    She is now drinking a glass of water and taking a 'time out' on the couch for 10 minutes when it first hits. Its helped her avoid some of it. She goes more in a 10 minute spurt though, or middle of the night vs all day.

    Do you crave a certain type of food? (salty, sugary, etc?) Or just Anything and everything?

    How do you avoid it when you do, for part of the day? just trying to force it out of your mind? snacking on veggies? going for a walk?

    Seems like its about re-mapping the brain to NOT like it, vs just willpower?
  • Revonue
    Revonue Posts: 135 Member
    Binge eating is a real issue, and if you struggle with it, you can get support. I have not had any experience with binge eating myself, but I hope these links will help you:

    http://www.helpguide.org/mental/binge_eating_disorder.htm

    http://edreferral.com/binge_eating_disorder.htm
  • mickeyullrich
    mickeyullrich Posts: 156 Member
    I have had issues with binge eating for a long time as well and last year I ended up seeking help at a local eating disorder center. It was a program that was medically supervised and involved group and individual therapy. They also prescribed a medication to help control the binge eating (Topamax), which has also been a tremendous help. I know medication is not for everyone, but in my case it has definitely taken the edge off. I still fight the psychological urge to binge quite a bit, but it makes it a bit easier now.

    I think the hardest part for me was de-programming myself from the weight watchers/dieting mindset and convincing myself that this is a lifestyle change to make myself happier and healthier. Not labeling foods as good and bad etc. I totally understand waking up and planning a binge...I used to look forward to them and I found comfort in them and then I would stress over hiding all of the evidence from my husband. It is such a complicated issue. If there is anyone local that you could talk with I would definitely recommend it!

    Best wishes :flowerforyou: !
    Christine
  • JessiAnn88
    JessiAnn88 Posts: 73 Member
    It's been going on 3 years since my last episode of consistent binging, we're talking about stopping at all three fast food places in my town and eating multiple meals from each on top of all the leftovers in the fridge bad then not eating for 2 days to "make up" for it. what helped the most was finding people I could trust to keep an eye on me {my husband} and be diligent in keeping me accountable for those behaviors. I sometimes get urges like that still, where no matter what I do I just need to eat I find chugging water {for some reason gulping water was the same satisfaction as chewing for me} and chewing gum help the most on those days. also just getting out of the house and around other people {where I can't binge} helps on very bad days. Good luck and my biggest recommendation would be to seek help be it from friends and family or professionally, we can't move beyond our bad eating habits if we don't work through the root of them in the first place.
  • As someone much older than you ut suffering from the same problem, I recently learned that my binge eating is due to subconscience sabotage. In my 20s and 30s, if I got over 130 lbs, I thought the world was coming to an end. I am 5'9" and looked like a stick figure. I could go a day without eating and drop 5 pounds to wear an outfit that I looked fabulous in for an event or whatever. I did every diet that came long so drop the extra few pounds that I needed to get rid of when the mode suited me.

    Now that I'm in my 50s, it has become a real problem. I am grossly over weight and now have difficulty in losing even a few pounds. I found that I binge eat when I get stressed. I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong and why I couldn't lose weight until I started tracking it. I also am undergoing hyponosis to help me rid myself of the "demon" that has become my weight.

    I've just started with my life change but I'm seeing some success. I found that I was lying to myself about the eating binges; I guess the thought of what I was doing was so bad that I blocked it from my conscience mind.

    My eating binges are emotional. I don't know if yours are, I just know now that I must address my underlying causes in order to see results. EVery day is a new day and I am learning more and trying to educate myself so that I can make a difference before it truly does irreversable damage to my health.

    I am an extreme case but I hope that you can gain some insight into your emotions so that you can address the real reasons behind your binge eating before you become me. This is truly a struggle for me; my weight is my demon; but I am learning to control my triggers.

    Best wishes and God bless.
  • rachaee
    rachaee Posts: 46 Member
    I feel like I could have written this post. To me, the thought of curling up on the sofa surrounded by choice upon choice of junk and food and something mindless on the telly is my ultimate comfort, like I can deal with anything thats going on if I do that. Everyday, if im tired/upset/hungry/down I drive myself into the deepest depression because I "can't" do that because then I will wake up with the guilt and the weight gain. Every day is a new diet and every night I get excited about what I can buy for my binge. Iv lost so much money and gained so much weight from this horrible cycle and I find evenings absolute torture. Iv tried to seek help and I just don't know where to start.

    I guess Im just saying I understand, and if you would like to support eachother to try and get over this somehow Id be willing :) x
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
    One thing that helps is to work on a project that is more engrossing than food. The more I stay away from the kitchen and work on something, the less likely I am to binge. Lately it's been sewing, on really nice days it's gardening.

    Of course some days nothing works and you end up in the food coma; how well I know that feeling! I tell myself that it's better than drinking myself into an alcoholic coma.
  • dietkat
    dietkat Posts: 17
    I've struggled with this a lot myself over the past few years. Some thoughts:

    - I'm actually going to second the suggestion to see a professional about it. When I finally did, after years of going home and eating multiple POUNDS of chocolate at a time, the therapist and psychiatrist suggested it may be a brain chemistry thing (there's a long history of clinical depression in my family, fwiw), and that we could try some meds. I'm on a combo of lexapro and Wellbutrin now, and it's gotten rid of all of those feelings of waking up and knowing it's going to be a binge day.

    - That said, if you're not going the med route, it's definitely important to look at your behaviors as well. If you have three "good" day/ two "bad" day pattern, it may just be you're not eating enough on the good days, and then your body encourages you to each high calorie foods to make up for the extreme deficit. I don't know your specific stats, but women ARE supposed to have some chub. Fitness models actually carry a VERY unhealthily low amount of body fat. Anywhere between 18%-30% body fat is considered healthy for women. Your body may be reacting the way it is because you're actually at a very healthy build. Once again, though, you can always get some professional feedback to find out your body fat percentage.

    - Look at triggers. I know, I know. We hear this all the time, and it can be frustrating. I've found some clear physical triggers that make me feel like I HAVE to eat: not getting enough sleep, a really long workout the day before (I play roller derby, so we have practices that last three hours), going longer than 5 hours between meals, etc..

    The thing with intuitive eating is it's not just something where you suddenly know exactly what you're supposed to eat one day. You have to learn your body's methods of telling you if things are working or not working-- are you getting tired a lot? Cold? Are you cranky at specific times? Do you get gassy or crampy after eating certain things? Do you find yourself too hungry or not hungry enough after certain meals? It's a lot about learning what your body is telling you without judgement, which can be pretty hard.
  • _Frankie_
    _Frankie_ Posts: 36
    I'd like to see what others have to say about this because I am almost the same way. Its like when I get into binge mode theres nothing I can do to stop it feels like :/ I went 3 weeks without binging recently and it was great. I want to get back into that mentalitiy

    Honestly, well done for making it 3 weeks - that's such an achievement!!! I haven't gotten that far between binges in, say, 4 years?
  • _Frankie_
    _Frankie_ Posts: 36
    I've had a friend recently confess to this and I'll be watching for help too, for her.

    She is now drinking a glass of water and taking a 'time out' on the couch for 10 minutes when it first hits. Its helped her avoid some of it. She goes more in a 10 minute spurt though, or middle of the night vs all day.

    Do you crave a certain type of food? (salty, sugary, etc?) Or just Anything and everything?

    How do you avoid it when you do, for part of the day? just trying to force it out of your mind? snacking on veggies? going for a walk?

    Seems like its about re-mapping the brain to NOT like it, vs just willpower?

    For me, it's about 80% sweet, 20% salt - but only after I've had enough of the sweet stuff haha! I've looked into sugar addiction before - and some part of me still believes that this may be a key element in my binge eating. I tried going cold turkey on sugar before, but I was MISERABLE. I didn't make it past a week without caving. In the end though, I don't think going cold turkey is logical for me - I try to be sensible and know that we live in a world full of sugary temptation - the likelihood of me going cold turkey on sugar for the next 50 years of my life is near on impossible. I'd rather learn to live with it!
  • sm10wq
    sm10wq Posts: 3
    I am so glad I saw this because I have the exact same problem too. My worst is with pizza (I'll sit down and eat almost an entire large pizza and then toones of other junk on binge days). When I was 17 I went on this crazy diet and reached 130 lbs at 5'5. It was the smallest I have ever been but I can't get back to there. Since university I have put on 20 lbs, I am about 150 lbs now. For four days of the week I will eat under my calorie goal and exercise. However, whenever the weekend hits I just binge on pizza and burgers. I love these foods so much I don't know how to take them out of my diet or just be able to enjoy one slice. I am never able to loose weight bc once I get down I just binge binge. I dont really know any tips. I have heard trying to eat every 2/3 hrs to keep your blood sugar levels stable. Another thing I find is boredom. Once you distract yourself with something you forget about eating.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    I have had issues with binge eating for a long time as well and last year I ended up seeking help at a local eating disorder center. It was a program that was medically supervised and involved group and individual therapy. They also prescribed a medication to help control the binge eating (Topamax), which has also been a tremendous help. I know medication is not for everyone, but in my case it has definitely taken the edge off. I still fight the psychological urge to binge quite a bit, but it makes it a bit easier now.

    I think the hardest part for me was de-programming myself from the weight watchers/dieting mindset and convincing myself that this is a lifestyle change to make myself happier and healthier. Not labeling foods as good and bad etc. I totally understand waking up and planning a binge...I used to look forward to them and I found comfort in them and then I would stress over hiding all of the evidence from my husband. It is such a complicated issue. If there is anyone local that you could talk with I would definitely recommend it!

    Best wishes :flowerforyou: !
    Christine
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  • I'm 18 and this is literally what is happening for me right now. around last december i went on this site and lost 20 lbs! however, what i didn't realize was i was eating 1200 but since i was in basketball season, playing 3 hours of basketball a day, i never subtracted what i burned that day. so i ended up loosing my period and i needed to gain weight back so i started to eat a lot more. evidently, this turned into a binge. at first it was to gain some of the weight back. and then it became a problem that i couldn't stop! it's been almost a year since i lost the weight and now i've been trying to eat healthy but there are days were i just end up binging. like i go on streaks of 2-3 weeks of healthy eating and one bad food triggers a binge that could last for up to like 3 days. what do i do!!! i'm in college now! but i don't want to stop eating healthy and working out because thats what makes me feel good. but right now, i'm on a binge day and it's hard to stop! :( ugh i hate this. how do i get help?
  • pinkiemarie252
    pinkiemarie252 Posts: 222 Member
    If you don't have good access to medical help, type "binge eating" into Amazon and a ton of books will come up. Some of them are workbooks that can help identify your triggers and find ways to work through them.
  • lafilledelarue
    lafilledelarue Posts: 66 Member
    I'm sending you a private email. Please check your email icon. THERE IS HOPE!!!
  • lafilledelarue
    lafilledelarue Posts: 66 Member
    LaurenBrooke I'm sending you a private email message about this topic.
  • pjammer10
    pjammer10 Posts: 38 Member
    I am the same way. If I'm planning a trip to the store I will start thinking about what food I can get before, during and after the trip. What restaurants are nearby, what kind of snack should I get from the snack area, what kind of candy bar should I get at check out? I don't even like going grocery shopping anymore because I know that as soon as I start making the grocery list I'll start planning what to eat before I go. Then of course I feel guilty for eating junk and start figuring what's the point in trying anymore so the healthy grocery list gets thrown out of the window and I end up buying even more junk. Vicious cycle that I don't know how to get out of.
  • Jump1979man
    Jump1979man Posts: 23 Member
    Im a huge binge eater. I really dont snack too often but when something tastes good, I go for it. It really hinders by dieting. Much like the original poster, I sacrifice and suffer all day then in the final hours I will give in and ruin all that I have worked for.

    Sometimes I dont know why I put myself through the agony all day just to ruin it. I think partly that is the problem....do not make yourself so hungry throughout the day that you feel like you need to binge to get some food in you.

    Its easier said than done for myself.
  • aliceclutz90
    aliceclutz90 Posts: 151 Member
    I struggle with bingeing too. Can anybody that has successfully broken the "cycle" tell me - do you now abstain completely from "treat" food or have you found a way to enjoy them without going overboard? I worry that if I restrict myself completely, all the time, it will end up resulting in the biggest binge yet...
  • honestly its not that I'm not eating a lot when im eating healthy im just not eating badly, but once i have something in like high calorie i go crazy and cant stop! the worse is the morning after, i either feel like crap and try to work out whatever i eat yesterday or i want more of what i had yesterday and then it results in like an all day binge.
  • I have been on a strict diet since september. I am knwo below my target weight. I exercise 5 days a week running/ spin/ pilates. At least one day a week I will have a treat day where I let myself eat "ice-cream" or a treat. Today I went out to Boston Pizza and I could not control myself. I was so obsessed with what I was going to eat I planned it out before hand. I ate an individual pizza and still did not feel satisfied. I wanted more, I crave pizza so much. Then for dessert I indulged in a big fat piece of chocolate explosion cake. I ate the cake in huge bites and felt like everyone was staring at me while I ate it. I just do not get how I went full out and could not get enough of food while my friends seemed to be satisfied with their caesar salad and pizza, no dessert?
  • RedArizona5
    RedArizona5 Posts: 465 Member
    I'm sending you a private email. Please check your email icon. THERE IS HOPE!!!


    Tell us what your hope is, why do you have to conceal it so much. I am not speaking for myself although I do have issues with my eating habits just not as extreme. BUT MY POINT IS :) that you clearly see other posters who are admitting; and pleading for help yet you do not want to share. Sorry, its just its killing me how you answered is all. If I sound rude i don't mean to. I feel for all you who struggle with it. It bothers me deeply to see people struggle in general and only one person gets some advice that can be some honest to goodness useful stuff that people can try and yet they cannot. I don't mean to disrespect you or anyone by any means just feeling left out and I feel I may not be the only one.
  • mamahannick
    mamahannick Posts: 322 Member
    Two things in particular that I have found that help reduce the intensity of the urges to binge and make them a little more controllable are:

    1. Not banning certain foods. I am a peanut butter addict, and if I ban peanut butter from my life because I think I eat too much of it...surprise surprise I will take a spoon to the jar and binge. Allow yourself your favorite foods, just in controlled portions. The portioned out individual servings of peanut butter cost a little more, but if they save me from eating 2/3 of a jar in less than 5 minutes, then I will gladly buy them. My point is, don't cut out your favorite foods. You need to enjoy and feel satisfied with your food choices outside of binging. It reduces the appeal of these foods when you are in binge mode, if you know you can have them whenever you want.

    2. Eating enough throughout the day. Often I will hoard my calories because I'm paranoid about binging at night (my most likely time to binge). This always backfires, and I always binge because of how hungry I get. If I eat my calories evenly throughout the day, the hunger is not nearly so out of control and I find that it is easier to resist the urges to stuff my face with everything in sight.

    Chugging water when I get the urge to binge can sometimes help me resist better.
  • red869
    red869 Posts: 59
    I struggle with this too. I've been dieting on and off for years. Since I was around 10 or 11 years old I've been dieting. I've done all sorts of silly diets and although I was never overweight to begin with, I am now. I was obese before I started this again last year, and now am in the overweight category and almost in the normal category.

    Although I binge eat, I can go months on end without an episode and I'll eat really healthily and lose weight. After around 6-10 months, I'll start binge eating again. It happens every single time. I'm working on not dieting and not depriving myself of food that I like. It makes things much easier, but I still worry that after all the hard work, I'll fail again and regain everything. Hopefully this time will be different. After losing and regaining weight so many times, every single year since I was just a child, I do worry that it'll never happen but I'm still hopeful.

    I used to restrict my calories to just a few hundred for months and I wouldn't even touch food that I considered 'bad', this has changed now. I still eat less than I probably ought to, but I allow myself what I want. Since last year when I first started, I've upped my calories from 800-1000 to 1200-1300 and now am trying to bring them up further to around 1400. Hopefully that will help me from going back to my old ways. It's just so difficult to give up on a habit of a lifetime.
  • mamahannick
    mamahannick Posts: 322 Member
    Oh wow, this is an old thread. Oops.
  • newsharonkay
    newsharonkay Posts: 37 Member
    I am a nighty binge eater. I do great during the day, eat healthy smaller portions and drink tons of water. I get off work at 630pm and can go until 8 without binging. I have tried everything from eating before getting off, eating right at 7 so I am not hungry but its not related to hunger at all. It is a emotional response to something for sure. I was able to lose 20 pounds but I have lost and regained the same 5 pounds for 9 months. I work out so that's helps but does not cure my binging. I don't have an answer but I just want you to know that your not alone. I am 55 years old, 5'3 and 180-185 pounds. I dream of just being a size 14, 150 pounds. I would still be overweight but I think I would feel pretty and good at that weight. Its a control issue for me and by somehow eating whatever I want at night keeps me in control of my life.

    Thanks everyone for the links to helpful articles. I hate that others have to deal with this issue but its nice to know I am not alone. There's hope for all us even if it is just for today we are in this together. Hugs!!!
  • lemonshredding
    lemonshredding Posts: 71 Member
    Rach I feel like I could have written this too, its a horrible, guilt-driving disease which has caused me to keep stupid secrets from the love of my life and lose a body that was perfectly happy and healthy to begin with :(